A relationship I am in...

[Allen.58]

Hi! :) This is gonna be a long post, so prepare yourself. x3
Okay! So, I am 16 years of age, and I recently got into a relationship with this girl, who is 15. She lives across the country from me. We're both very mature for our age. Most people think we're 17. XD You may already be thinking we aren't going to last, but please take a moment to read my opinions on teen relationships. :3 It's always good to hear other people's opinions.
Teens really can love, though in most teen relationships you will find infatuation. A summer romance. A fling. Teens are usually indecisive about what they want in their future, so they grow apart from the one they are with. But there are cases where teens couples have lasted. True love! :) Makes me smile. There isn't a day that goes by when I don't think about this, and please, think hard about it: The well-known fact that teen relationships never last is just a stereotype. Or, at least, that's my opinion. :)
So anyway! My relationship, is incredible. It makes me happy 24/7. I have finally found someone I love! My life before this girl was, well.....meh. :/ I was depressed to say the least. And now I have this girl who makes me so happy! We have, literally, everything in common. No joke! There is connection. There is love. There is caring. I've never felt like this before. :') Never in my life. This isn't infatuation. I believe I am in love.
Here is what will REALLY get you to believe that we won't last (if you aren't already). And believe me. There's always someone who believes we won't last, so please don't try to alter my opinions. Don't ruin my life. I'm not being defensive. :) Just telling you. But here is what will get you to believe we won't last: Two years from todayyyyy, we will meet. Two years. Two years until graduation (I graduate early). Then I fly cross-country, to a complete other time zone, to be with her.
We may be just teens, but this is a real reltionship. If only you knew how often we talk about meeting, and how happy we are together....you'd be a little surprised. x3 We're very cute!
It took me 5 months to get her....and from the moment I met her, I liked her. A lot. A little too much. We never argue, or fight, or even have little disagreement! It took me 5 months....of her parents trying to get us to stop talking, of trust issues (of her behalf).....of a lot of hardships. But I don't regret it one bit. This is what makes me truly happy! Seriously. I am crying happy tears just typing this.
I thank her.....for fixing my life. I owe it all to her. She's the love of my life.
I know you cannot predict the future. I know you can't just predict your life, and have it handed to you on a silver platter. But I also know that whatever hardship life and love has to throw at me, I want to experience every single thing with her by my side. It takes effort, trust, and teamwork. This is how I want to spend my life. We will meet. <3
Opinions? Thoughts? Advice? Please, no mean things. I'm not being defensive....it's just....my friends, other than my girlfriend...they say really mean things. It's why I came here to share my story. I'm a little tired of my friends saying hurtful things.

[FreeFall]

That maturity you spoke about? You're the crazy person trying to convince everyone of how sane you really are. Sorry, but that's the shot I'm calling.
You're not some super duper mature woman x3 You're just a regular, normal, love struck, 16 year old girl in a relationship that's really working and is incredible for you.

People do not "fix" you. People are NOT band-aids that make everything better. People are not magical tools that re-construct you.
People help you help yourself. They motivate you, they inspire you, they give you the will power and determination. If that's what you mean, then that's better than how I'm currently reading it as.
You saying how your girlfriend fixed your life worries me. I'm always worried when people say they owe their lives to their significant other. Like if that person were to walk away, your whole world would crumble and you'd find yourself trying to knock on death's door and you'd lose all hope for the future. Like you're throwing the responsibility of living on their shoulders.

Congrats on working through the troubles you've had. Teen love can work out but it's a 50/50 shot just like every other relationship, work or no work involved. There's really nothing that incredible about working it out in a teen relationship, sorry. That's about as exciting and note worthy of two 30 year olds dating into their 40's.
You emphasizing on that teen love, sort of made me stress out. Like you're placing so much significance into the relationship about that. I'm with my high school sweet heart and when people ask how we met, that's what we say but we don't go parading that about.
You're proud of it and I get that, but it's not a shiny badge to go showing about, it's just a functioning relationship like any other one.

I've gone and re-read it all, you two haven't met yet? I'm not going to bash on that "haven't met but in love" thing because it can work, but you're going to jump from one extreme to another? Where will you live? How will you live? Will you get a job? Will you attend school? You've got to have a plan right? What if it doesn't work out and she kicks you out? As much as you may not want to, it's not completely impossible and you've got to have a plan for what you're going to do if you find yourself "stranded" and alone in the complete opposite side of home? Form plans, even if you never end up using them, be happy you at least had the sense to think of a back-up plan. Better safe than sorry.

Now, how would my comments and opinions "ruin" your life? That's a bit dramatic there. If you're so secure and confident as you're portraying yourself to be, then my comments and opinions can be taken with that maturity you have and seen as something to think about and answer with sense. Same with everyone else that responded or is going to respond. And when asking for advice or thoughts, you don't get to dictate what kind. Just be secure in yourself and use that head of your's to think about it all. Answer or read with honestly and with reason, and you'll find yourself on a great path in two years.

[Allen.58]

That maturity you spoke about? You're the crazy person trying to convince everyone of how sane you really are. Sorry, but that's the shot I'm calling.
You're not some super duper mature woman x3 You're just a regular, normal, love struck, 16 year old girl in a relationship that's really working and is incredible for you.

People do not "fix" you. People are NOT band-aids that make everything better. People are not magical tools that re-construct you.
People help you help yourself. They motivate you, they inspire you, they give you the will power and determination. If that's what you mean, then that's better than how I'm currently reading it as.
You saying how your girlfriend fixed your life worries me. I'm always worried when people say they owe their lives to their significant other. Like if that person were to walk away, your whole world would crumble and you'd find yourself trying to knock on death's door and you'd lose all hope for the future. Like you're throwing the responsibility of living on their shoulders.

Congrats on working through the troubles you've had. Teen love can work out but it's a 50/50 shot just like every other relationship, work or no work involved. There's really nothing that incredible about working it out in a teen relationship, sorry. That's about as exciting and note worthy of two 30 year olds dating into their 40's.
You emphasizing on that teen love, sort of made me stress out. Like you're placing so much significance into the relationship about that. I'm with my high school sweet heart and when people ask how we met, that's what we say but we don't go parading that about.
You're proud of it and I get that, but it's not a shiny badge to go showing about, it's just a functioning relationship like any other one.

I've gone and re-read it all, you two haven't met yet? I'm not going to bash on that "haven't met but in love" thing because it can work, but you're going to jump from one extreme to another? Where will you live? How will you live? Will you get a job? Will you attend school? You've got to have a plan right? What if it doesn't work out and she kicks you out? As much as you may not want to, it's not completely impossible and you've got to have a plan for what you're going to do if you find yourself "stranded" and alone in the complete opposite side of home? Form plans, even if you never end up using them, be happy you at least had the sense to think of a back-up plan. Better safe than sorry.

Now, how would my comments and opinions "ruin" your life? That's a bit dramatic there. If you're so secure and confident as you're portraying yourself to be, then my comments and opinions can be taken with that maturity you have and seen as something to think about and answer with sense. Same with everyone else that responded or is going to respond. And when asking for advice or thoughts, you don't get to dictate what kind. Just be secure in yourself and use that head of your's to think about it all. Answer or read with honestly and with reason, and you'll find yourself on a great path in two years.

I am a boy. XD Just so you know! :)
But I understand all that you said. I guess I'm just not describing it correctly.
I'm not calling my girlfriend a "band aid" or anything. I'm just saying, she....patched up some holes in my life.
As for teen love, I'm not calling it teen love either, really. What I'm trying to say is, we are teens, in love. It's not one of those flings you'd see, where only sex matters and then it's all thrown away is if it never happened at the end. We don't even talk about sex. We're not interested in it.
I'm going to try to answer all those questions you asked near the end, because they are very good ones. Let me fill you in on some details. Thanks for being curious/concerned/whatever you are! :) Your questions are actually helpful in planning my future, and I thank you.
We will live in the city/town where she is going to college, in an apartment. (By the way, we have talked about this a lot. We're kinda planning along the way) I will get a job in whatever my profession is at the time, whether I am able to attend a college or not (I want to, and we'll see how things go!). Don't worry, we have a plan. A good one. Also, she's definitely not the kind of girl who would just kick someone out. She never gets angry, she never yells or argues, or is violent. That's what I love about her.
And wow, thank you for the advice. :3 It is much appreciated. Though we do talk about our futures together a lot, we haven't gotten so far into detail just yet, to have a plan we can really cling to, or consider an option.
I have a question for you. Are you actually concerned for me, and my future with this girl, or are you trying to discourage me...? I'm just wondering. The tone you write in seems like you're trying to discourage me, yet at the same time you're kind of helping me. x3
Thanks! Please reply. I can learn from you.
Like I said, the future is obviously unpredictable. But I want to be with her. Isn't that enough? I love her.

[Allen.58]

Oh! I skipped a whole paragraph. Sorry. (The last one you wrote)
I was just saying, please don't tryyyy to discourage me. I'm not saying I will be discouraged, I just don't really like it. But by all means, say what you wish! I'm listening, I'm thinking about what you said, but whether or not it comes to affect me and my relationship is my choice. :) Make sense?

[Allen.58]

But really, we have a plan. Not exact, not specific yet. That will happen when the time to meet comes closer. But we've talked a lot about how our future will go. We're curious. We're eager. We're excited! This can be a good future, or way to go. It's in the effort you put in to make it a good future. We have plan for when I go there....Or at least what we want to happen. We'll see! If the plan works, or if the plan doesn't work, that's okay. We'll figure something else out.
But hey. How should I approach finding out how she wants our future? What should I ask?
Sorry, I'm kinda talkative. If you're trying to help me, I'm gonna ask lots of questions. And I'm very grateful if you are.
I've given you enough to answer. See you soon! Thanks again. :)

[Allen.58]

Oh, by the way, I like that last sentence. :D You're absolutely right.
Whether I am with her or not in two years, I will be on a great path. Though, I am very sure we will still be together. We're very devoted...
I've never gotten such feedback when mentioning my relationship! I'm excited. x3 Sorry if I'm annoying. I keep thinking of things to say.

[Akasuki]

I don't know how long you've been together, but don't get your hopes up. LDRs are horrible especially after you meet the person.

I met my boyfriend online and now we live together. But that doesn't mean that it's going to be happily ever after either. I'm sorry but it sounds like you're asking for heartbreak. You can't be with someone for a few months and think you're in love. Infatuations and love are completely different. Love is when you've been with them through everything and you still love them and want to be with them. It's naive to say "forever," so to speak.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and I'm not expecting anything from the relationship. That will just fuck me up even more if we end up not being together.

[Allen.58]

Then you met the wrong person. XD

[FreeFall]

I'm not trying to discourage you at all. I'm sort of a monotone typer I've been told? Idk what that means exactly but probably that I sound like a cranky old person, ahaha.

very good that you have a plan and are planning together, but I will say this. Do not pack your bags on the ship that she'll never kick you out. It can sink at any time. The girl you know, is the girl you know at 15. This is who you know now. When she's 17, she may be different, you may be different. When you're living together, circumstances or situations may change you. Like I said, it may never happen but if it ever does, be happy you made a plan instead of saying "damn, didn't see this coming".

[Allen.58]

Yes! That's the word. Monotonous. Meaning your tone never changes. Like the typical math teacher! XD You know! We've all seen it. And heard it. They speak in the saaaaaame voice for ever and ever. But you're not that bad. It's just a little hard to tell.
But I gotcha. I'm not too worried about it. :) I understand things could change. And things definitely will change! I realize that. But they might change for the better. You can never really know for sure, correct? I have backup plan, just in case. I'm not packing alllll my bags on this ship which could potentially sink. But some are definitely on there. I really trust her. I do. If you met her, you'd probably understand why I think this way. XD She's....one of a kind. She'll change yes. But for as long as I've known her, she never changed for the worst. She's always bettering herself in some way, and always improving. A biiiig sweetheart. She won't change. She can't even yell when she's mad. x3 (Which, for the whole time I've known her (almost a year, a month from now) has never happened. Never gotten mad!)
And then, the other matter! That I could change? I'm a lot more easily prone to stress than she is. Don't know why for sure, but I am. But I never really change for the worse either. Within the entire past year of my life, I've had nothing but improvements. :)
I really appreciate you talking to me about this! Thank you. It's great to talk to someone who is making sure I have a plan, without trying to discourage me. It makes me happy. :D
So, could I know a little bit about the one helping me? :) How old are you?
One more thing.....why are you so worried about her kicking me out? XD Does that kind of thing happen a lot? I'm not a bum or anything. I work hard. I never give people a reason to be mean to me....But why are you so worried about that in particular? I'm curious. x3
See you again soon!

[FreeFall]

I'm pretty much 19. Been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 8 months and going strong. I'm a people watcher and gather what new experiences I'd rather not go through myself through them. I've a phobia of heights and spiders. Go with the flow, "old soul", "happy go lucky" but I call myself a realist.

I'm not too worried, just trying to understand that you've got something in mind as a just in case and aren't blowing it off as a possibility.

If it were she coming to live with you, I'd be telling you to think of something for if she moves out, or if you want her to leave. Or at least how to help her out if for whatever reason the living arrangements fail.

It doesn't happen much here but I like to run scenarios through my mind and that was one of the ones poking out.

[Allen.58]

Oh, you're 19? Do you live with your boyfriend? :)
And I totally understand! You're trying to find out about other people's experiences, just like me! I'm kind of a realist too, though I prefer to look on the bright side. It helps.
And don't worry, I'm not blowing the possibility off. I just highly doubt it will change for the worse. But like I just said, yes, it is a possibility. Not one I want to happen, but a possibility.
As for the living arrangements, we're both pretty serious about it, so we're weighing all the possibilities, even now. But I don't think we'll try to kick eachother out. XD We're perfect....we're both really nice. :D

[FreeFall]

Nope, we're not. I don't foresee living with him at least for another 2 years. I'm here, he's here, we like where we're at and we'd love to move in together but we've got plenty of time to grow and build and get to that later.

That's good. No one ever wants the bad to happen, but they can't just ignore it. Be open to all angles and be as prepared as you can for good or bad, just make a ton of safety nets no matter what happens.

[Allen.58]

I understand. :) At least you have eachother. I'm gonna wait until I graduate to move in with her....Not exactly the same as your ideas, but I respect yours nonetheless. But, ya know, in order to be around her, in myyyyyy situation, I have to move in with her, which I want anyways. So yeah!
But no need to worry about me. I'll have safety nets. :) For the good, and for the bad.