Trouble with girls? Am i gay?

[Acro34]

Hi everybody,

I'm a rather sensitive guy and a while ago i started becoming sexually confused. I was infatuated over my friend(we're both guys) in an emotional way, but it didn't seem to be anything sexual at all. I guess i just had a really good friend. However this triggered a huge freakout with me and ive been pretty much screwed up ever since then.

That's receeded, i dont feel anything towards guys And my new problem is that it's difficult to crush on girls. Ever since I broke up with my girlfriend (we had a good relationship but she had to move after a 5 month run) who i really loved, these problems just set in and drove me nuts. I can't really feel anyhthing for girls, like that little fluttery feeling in your chest. Theres a small infatuation but thats about it. In my mind, I think about her and how she is pretty and beautiful and everything great about her, and i truly like her but i just dont Feel it.

Is this stress from the confusion? or Am i in a sort of sexuality denial? I'm really worried that I am... or is this just me trying to replace my previous girlfriend? The breakup was pretty dramatic and i was heartbroken.

Thanks for your time, this really means a lot. Im pretty sure im hetero but this has just been driving me insane, my school grades are getting worse and i just feel unsettled and unconfident.

If this helps, i masturbate to hetero and lesbian porn. I try gay porn but it's just like "eh". The only gay things ive ever done was think about my best friend on and off while masturbating, and i dont know, it sorta seemed the same as with women. I think this is just a hormone thing though.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Yeah probably just hormones.

[TigerBoy]

Having a bit of a bromance thing with a best friend is perfectly normal for straight guys.

I read somewhere it takes half the time of the length of a failed relationship to get over it. So a 5 month relationship might leave you messed up for an average of 2.5 months. Its because you invest so much of your self into a relationship and your happiness and self image depends on it.

It doesn't sound like you have any solid same-sex feelings, and I think you are just feeling emotionally messed up.


Yeah probably just hormones.

This is just 'bro science'.
Hormones do NOT change your sexuality, they only enhance your interest in sex and lower your inhibitions. It has been scientifically proven that sexuality is determined before birth and that it can be expressed before puberty even starts.

[Ryhanna]

You seem pretty straight to me. It sounds like you're just going through an emotional rough-patch, which is what's making you feel this way. Based on what you've said, you don't seem to have any sexual interest in men.

[ackmedsgirl666]

hormones arent straightened out quite yet
eventually things will all come together

[TigerBoy]

hormones arent straightened out quite yet
eventually things will all come together

You guys keep telling each other 'hormones' as though it is an answer, without any explanation or scientific basis for this.

In this case the OP has not stated they have same-sex attraction. Strong emotional feelings are not 'same sex attraction' in terms of sexuality. We can have strong feelings for male family members without being attracted to them. Furthermore, if you meant to say that 'hormones' explained confusion about sexuality I've already addressed that and explained it doesn't work like that. Alternatively hormones can make feelings more intense but you haven't explained this if that is what you meant either.