I hurt people

[invalid]

I'm not even going to try to justify myself, but I will say for the most part it has been about 2 months since I've hurt anyone.

My girlfriend and i would get into petty fights and we'd get really mad at each other and somehow I bit her one time and i kept doing that and she had bruises all over her arms and after I bit her every time I'd feel so bad that i punched myself in the face and I would constantly have black eyes that I would have to come up with bullshit excuses that got really repetitive and less believable and nobody ever believed her excuses for having bruises on her arms. A couple times I even bit my mom when we argued about school and stuff and punched myself. I really wasnt helping anything by hurting myself it just made things worse and made me hate myself. I'm honestly not totally better i constantly find myself almost hurting her but catching myself and i bit her a little bit two weeks ago one bite but i stopped and it didn't leave a mark and I've rarely been hurting myself.

umm yeah

[Ryhanna]

I'd advise you to see a counsellor. A counsellor can help you to manage your anger in a non-violent way, or refer you to a professional who is even more capable of helping you.

I can somewhat relate to the way you feel. I'm not going to go into details, but I know how it feels to "lose it" with someone that you love, and the horrible, self-loathing and guilt that follows. It's not good for anyone. But you can't properly change without help.

[ayelove100]

You need to see a therapist or something because what your doing can get someone hurt like yourself. After hurting someone you should apologize instead of hurt yourself. Also bring your girlfriend presents. If i were her i would have broke up with you and since she didn't she probably loves you. ;)

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Go seek help. This is not a joke. For your own good.

[Lost in the Echo]

I'd advise you to see a counsellor. A counsellor can help you to manage your anger in a non-violent way, or refer you to a professional who is even more capable of helping you.

I can somewhat relate to the way you feel. I'm not going to go into details, but I know how it feels to "lose it" with someone that you love, and the horrible, self-loathing and guilt that follows. It's not good for anyone. But you can't properly change without help.

I agree with this ^^^ seeing a counselor would be the best thing for you.

I'm certainly no counselor, but it seems like you have anger issues, and in the heat of the moment you take out your anger in a violent way, and once you've realized what you've done, you take it out on yourself, which isn't any better.

So seriously, see a counselor as soon as possible before things in your life get even more out of control.

Good luck:)

[HandheldOutlaw]

hey there.
I'm really glad you recognized your harmful behavior.
As everyone else has said, please seek counseling. It is the best thing for you and your girl.
I really hope for the best-and if you ever need a chat feel free to contact me.

Xx
Laur

[HandheldOutlaw]

hey there.
I'm really glad you recognized your harmful behavior.
As everyone else has said, please seek counseling. It is the best thing for you and your girl.
I really hope for the best-and if you ever need a chat feel free to contact me.

Xx
Laur

[HandheldOutlaw]

accidentally double posted
stupid phone

[jayyy-lmao]

I know how you feel. When i got angry in school once, i punched someone. I hit my mother once. You need to talk to someone. I know how it feels to be afraid of yourself.
Be Strong

[qwertygirl]

I think the same as everyone else, go seek some help. But first, you should explain to your girlfriend what you just explained to us. She needs to know that you aren't out to get her, that you find pleasure in making her hurt. I know that I would need to hear that to move on or support you in your efforts to get better. Who knows, if you two are still together, she may help you. And IF you are, tell her what you told us, tell her you're going to get help, but DO NOT ask her for her support. I'm going to be brutally honest here and say that she should have broken it off, for her sake. But if she's still by your side, make sure it's HER decision that she's still with you, not yours. I hope this helps, and I hope you can get the help you deserve.

[Fiction]

It's good that you realise what you're doing is wrong, and that you feel guilt for it. It shows that you're not a bad person, and that they're isn't really anything wrong with you.

Everyone has the urge to hurt people if they get angry enough, maybe your level is just lower than most people's? If that's the case then it's just a small issue that can be sorted out with anger management counselling. However you've told us that you can stop yourself. 2 months isn't that long, if you carry on stopping yourself like this then maybe eventually it'll end up natural to not hurt her. That's what I did when I was much younger and found myself taking it out on my sister and decided I wanted to stop.

I understand how you feel. Ever since certain things in my life happened i've been like this too. I get terrible urges to bite and hit and inflict pain, usually on my boyfriend. It's always silly petty things too, and sometimes for no reason at all.