Insulted

[chucknorrisrules]

I wasn't sure but i guess this goes here. I think that it's insulting to people who are bi or gay when ppl have to ask about and worry if they are gay/bi. It's become an acceptable part of life in today's society (even some parents understand) and I'm not bi or gay but i have friends who are and they read those and feel insulted.

post if you contradict or side with me w/e it doesn't matter.

[Maverick]

Insulting to gays and bisexuals? It seems to me that they'd be able to sympathize with those worried and confused, not insulted. Being gay isn't a easy life to follow so you can't act all outraged that someone is worried they might have to deal with that. You don't know their situation either so they very well may have reasons to be worried (although a reason isn't necessary because just being worried is enough). Being gay isn't really that acceptable as you make it seem in your post. It can be a hard lifestyle to live and what we do here is provide support for those feeling that way. To let them know that they aren't alone and that there isn't any reason to feel worried.

[Dolphus Raymond]

I don't really care what my friends are. I've never asked; I assume that the vast majority are straight (or at least will "date straight" even if they have bisexual tendencies, which I think a lot of people do). But if they felt like they needed help, I'd want them to talk to me. Even in a liberal community like mine, there's still some homophobia. And the idea that 90% of potential dates are automatically "off limits" to you must be pretty difficult. I'm not going to demand they tell me. But I hope they'd be comfortable in doing so. And, yeah, if it bothered them, I'd worry about them. I don't see why they'd be offended by that. It's because I love them.

[redcar]

I wasn't sure but i guess this goes here. I think that it's insulting to people who are bi or gay when ppl have to ask about and worry if they are gay/bi. It's become an acceptable part of life in today's society (even some parents understand) and I'm not bi or gay but i have friends who are and they read those and feel insulted.

post if you contradict or side with me w/e it doesn't matter.
Well I wouldn't say it has become totally acceptable, granted it's going that way but we aren't there yet.

I am gay and I don't find it insulting when people worry that they are too. In fact I empathise with them. To realise you are not like everyone else, that your life will be harder and as said above 90% of potential dates are off limits.

Just because the world has got alot more tolerant there is still a lot of problems with being gay/bi.

[Ironic Infidel In England]

I agree with alex.

[LateForTheSky]

As said above we sympathise with what annoys me is that they are the only ones who can truly know and if they dont they just need to wait and see.

[Sapphire]

The fact that they are questioning their sexuality does not worry me.

I do get a little irritated when people turn round and say "I wish I was not gay/bi" once having come out to the entire world. I mean if we could all choose how we were I doubt anyone would be homosexual or bisexual. Everyone would be heterosexual given the choice because you don't have the hassle of coming out or homophobia. But that's another kettle of fish entirely...

[byee]

Yes, I can see why it might be insulting to gays to hear others are questioning themselves, the implcation being that they wouldn't want to be gay. And gays could feel even more discriminated against as a result.

But, two things come to mind here. The first, is that we do not choose our sexuality, in much the same way as we do not choose our gender. People do not make a choice to be gay, and they do not make a choice to be straight. It's a recognition of who you are that comes to you. And like your gender (only later), once you recognize what you are, there's not much you can do about it.

The second issue is that questioning something like your sexuality and worrying over it provides the real opportunity to actually experience yourself as fundamentally 'different'. That moment can give real insight into what people who really ARE different (gender or race or religion or national origin) struggle with as (unfortunately) a matter of daily life. And from that, can grow real empathy. Empathy good, antidote to prejudice.

[Trickster]

i dont fell gays and bis should be insulted some people just do some gay or bis tendencies and some are just curious. some could be asking becasue they are gay and want to find someone else who is gay to realte to is all. Though other will do that just to find out.