Never had an orgasm. >.>

[RaisingSand]

I'm almost 17, and I've never had one. :/ I've tried masturbating, and I've looked up stuff like techniques on the internet etc, but for some reason it doesn't really feel that great.
I'm also really sick of "faking it" with my bf, and I know I shouldn't, but I don't want him to feel inferior or useless or whatever.
Not sure if this is really puberty related, but I didn't really know where else to put this.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Damn, that sucks... gee well does it feel good (whatever you are doing)? Maybe you just don't have the patience for waiting for the orgasm to come. That, or you just need to REALLY be in the mood, like have candles lit and music playing and all that stuff :D

I don't really know what else to point out, seeing as you've tried other techniques. But I always must say, rub the clitoris. However YOU want, no techniques, just try stuff out on your own and keep doing whatever feels the best.

I hope you find your solution soon :yeah:

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I would agree with above. Perhaps you arent turned on enough. Just take your time. Hell, Ima guy, sometimes it takes me over half an hour to reach orgasm! Just dont give up, its an amazing experiance you'll never forget:D

[Maverick]

Hell, Ima guy,
Exactly you're a guy. Male and female bodies work much differently therefore you can't provide much insight.

[Aηdy]

If you feel it may work for you, try looking at some porn or something to turn you on more, some girls can only achieve orgasm in a particular way, perhaps you just haven't found it yet.

[Sapphire]

You are not alone! Many women (we are talking adult women in their mid twenties) haven't had a clitoral orgasm before.
It's not to do with not being turned on enough. It's more to do with technique etc. Different things work for different girls so its a bit of trial and error really.

The first real orgasm I had was using a small vibrator meant especially for stimulating my clit and I find it is the only way I can ensure an orgasm when I masturbate.
I have not been on the receiving end of oral sex yet, but it is supposed to be the best way for a girl to orgasm during sex. Do you think this is something you could suggest to your bf?

[RaisingSand]

I have a vibrator, my ex got me one for my birthday last year, and I find the vibes on that one a bit too strong to really feel good. :/

And oral sex is just meh, but then again I'm my current bf's first girlfriend he's actually done anything sexual with, so who knows.

[Sapphire]

Does he get the right spot when going down on you? Maybe directing him the next time will help.
Maybe you could try to find weaker batteries to use in the vibe. Just a thought.

[RaisingSand]

Idk, oral just doesn't feel so great IMO. :/

And yeah, might try that, cheers. Dunno if that'll work though cause I think it's the type of vibe I have (aka, hard plastic and shape >.>) that's not making it feel good.

[byee]

It is different for girls than it is for guys, it's not as automatic. it takes a bit of time and patience, and comfort exploring yourself privately. I think your B/F might be adding a dimension of stress to this which is counterproductive. This might sound weird, but in your case, maybe he needs to NOT try to satisfy you. You need to spend some private time alone, exploring yourself, over a period of time.

Because orgasms aren't as automatic for you doesn;t mean they cannot become that way. You just might need to do your homework first.

[RaisingSand]

And you think I haven't really tried that already ...? >.>

Meh, who knows, maybe I'll just have to be patient and wait, eh? XD

[cry4eva]

Does he get the right spot when going down on you? Maybe directing him the next time will help.
Maybe you could try to find weaker batteries to use in the vibe. Just a thought.

I agree on the weaker batteries! :)

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Yeah I agree, I hear that most girls find TOO MUCH stimulation (i.e. strong vibrations) to be more irritating than pleasureable. I think guys can have this sorta thing too (since the head of our penis is so sensitive, direct stimulation could be too much to be enjoyable).

But really, how are all these girls getting vibrators? I mean, don't you have to be 18? I could never ask an older friend/sibling! Anyway, if you ARE worried about that, you could get one of those electric toothbrushes (though I don't know if they are too strong).

[RaisingSand]

^Online sites + credit cards. XD

And yeah, I think that may be the problem. :/ I find my clitoris a bit too sensitive for direct contact to be pleasurable. >.<

Also ... WTF TOOTHBRUSH?!?!?!!?! o.O *damaged*

[byee]

And you think I haven't really tried that already ...? >.>
Was this directed at me? because we know there's a difference between rushing thru ones homework and getting it done properly. Stay with it, be creative and open minded.

[RaisingSand]

Okay. XD Love the analogy you're using, btw. :P Homework, lol. XD

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Not the actual BRUSH part! :D I meant you turn it on and use the thick handle part!

[RaisingSand]

o.O ... that's just not right. It's a toothbrush for crying out loud. XD

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Well I wouldn't know! :D Guys are a lot simpler that way :D

[Atonement]

Its true guys are simpler in that such way

[RaisingSand]

Lucky you then. :P

[Serenity]

Well I wouldn't know! :D Guys are a lot simpler that way :D

If you find yourself saying things like that, a red flag should pop up as a warning that maybe you shouldn't be giving someone advice on this particular subject...just a friendly reminder :yes:

[TeenGirl012]

Not every girl does have an orgasm, there 30 year olds you haven't. Girls usually have to mastrubate longer to have a orgasm or to cum. Whatever gives you pleasure, do what feels good. Let your bf know that its not him its just you don't have orgasm but if it feels good let him know it feels good though.

[RaisingSand]

Thanks TeenGirl. :) Btw, it's spelled "masturbate".

[amandamarril]

thats not neccesarily true because I can get an orgasm just by masturbating & its not like I'm doing it all day waiting for one to happen

[Serenity]

Indeed, amanda, everyone is different- hence TeenGirl saying girls usually take longer to orgasm.

[Affliction]

what you should do is wait till your homealone and try things out until u find whats best for you

[RaisingSand]

Aliee, please do not bump old threads. (And do you really not think I haven't tried that already?)

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