Do close friends / best friends really exist?

[Axw_JD]

Well that... I am seriously wondering this. All my life, I have never really had any close friends. You know, the kind of friend who is always there for you when you need him and for whom you are there for whenever he needs you. The kind of friend with whom you fight and laugh about the stupidest things. The kind of friend with whom you can share countless hours of fun without growing tired of each other. The kind of friend that doesn't stab you in the back the first time he gets...

I always try to be the best friend I can. I really, really do. Maybe I try to hard? I don't know... I really care about the people I consider my friends, about their lives, and I am always willing to be there for them when / if they need me. But when I really need someone, I always find myself to be on my own...

I really don't want to give much details of what I am feeling right now because I don't want my current "best friend" to read this and get mad at me or something. He is an awesome guy, but it saddens me he will never think of me in the same way, that he can barely call me friend at all and even that seems to take him quite the effort...

[Matt_2012]

Mmm, i know exactly how you feel.. I'm always going down this type of shit too, and I'm always there for them but there not for me.

[Castle of Glass]

for me, i do not have a single BEST OF BEST friend, but rather a network of super close friends. i call it a network, because no matter what major country(like US, China, Canada, England, South Korea)i have super close friends there who are willing to offer me shelter and food. the same goes with me if they ever come to Finland while i am there. This is due that i have lived in so many places. but i do no think that best friends exists unless you live in the same city or town for you entire life as does your friend.

[Mortal Coil]

When I was a lot younger I did have a BFF. Of course, she moved halfway around the world and we haven't seen each other since except in facebook photos (she's become a scene girl :S) but at one point we really were best friends.
Now, I have some odd relationships. My closest friends all live thousands of miles away, on other continents. The people who know the real me aren't really my "friends," but we do like each other. And then the people who I would consider my friends are those who don't know me that well and are willing to hang out with me. So no BFFs for me anymore.

[Apollo.]

Yeah definitely I had one best friend that has now ended up being my boyfriend and another best friend that we love each other and would do anything for each other. I've not known either of these people that long though, my now boyfriend I've known about 3 and a half years and my best friend about 6 and a half years. I definately think there is such a thing as best friends because there is a huge difference between these 2 and my normal friends.

[Steve Jobs]

I feel ya man. I had one back in the day, and we parted when he decided to pick a fight over something stupidly small. Since moving all the way out here things have never been the same :/

[Cognizant]

Totally get what you're saying, and I've felt that way, too. My summer was a living hell because of that.
Though I do feel that close/best friends do exist, I have met a lot of amazing people in my life who help me, and I'm glad they're a part of my life. I guess kindness brings good friends. I'm not sure, but I know they exist.

[DerBear]

They do exist, trust me they do.

I have always found that you can't rush into being someones best/close friend. As for many people being a best friend happens over a long period of time. For example really, for me to classify someone a close friend or best friend then I'd have to know the person and be good friends with them for quite a long period of time before I'd consider them a close/best friend.

Maybe, this is the case with your friends.

The road to becoming a best friend involves being their for the person and being supportive and kind to them without lying or cheating on them. However again it takes time.

Maybe you do try too hard, I don't know I can't say.

If your current best friend doesn't see you as his best friend this could be for a few reasons. However you can't dwell on it.

You sound like a good person and if he doesn't feel like your his best/close friend then honestly that is his problem because deep down you know yourself that you have been the best friend you can be to that person.

So don't beat yourself up about it.

[AkuRokuStalker]

I've learned it depends on which social group you are in. The best of friends are usualy the geeks and less popular people. Preps,(no offense to any out there or anything)from what I have observed, are the type to never really have close friends, no matter how much they think they do. Most people won't even consider the fact that they are preps. I'm not the most religouse person out there but if you really need someone to talk to find someone who is a christian. In my opinion they do the best listening and give good advice. (Unless its something like pray and ask God. If so ask for their opinion) If you do not want to do that, change your social group or talk to your so called best friend about it. Hope that helps.

[Avenida105]

I have actually had a close group of friends, and within that group one or two close friends. That has happened neatly anywhere I have gone, considering I've moved three times. It's fun because I keep in touch with one of the group of friends. I can say I have friends who I can trust my life with, and its funny because its the people I would have least expected.

[crowdlost]

Like so many others have said already, I do believe they exist but you can't force it to happen and these things take TIME.

Honestly, if all you do is keep thinking about baving a best friend or wanting to be a certain person's bff, it WILL NEVER HAPPEN. These things happen without your control and without you even realizing it.

For me, the moment I realized I have a best friend is the moment that I lost him.

Keep your head high, put a smile on your face and be yourself. Good luck! :)

[DonkeyPuncher]

Well that... I am seriously wondering this. All my life, I have never really had any close friends. You know, the kind of friend who is always there for you when you need him and for whom you are there for whenever he needs you. The kind of friend with whom you fight and laugh about the stupidest things. The kind of friend with whom you can share countless hours of fun without growing tired of each other. The kind of friend that doesn't stab you in the back the first time he gets...

I always try to be the best friend I can. I really, really do. Maybe I try to hard? I don't know... I really care about the people I consider my friends, about their lives, and I am always willing to be there for them when / if they need me. But when I really need someone, I always find myself to be on my own...

I really don't want to give much details of what I am feeling right now because I don't want my current "best friend" to read this and get mad at me or something. He is an awesome guy, but it saddens me he will never think of me in the same way, that he can barely call me friend at all and even that seems to take him quite the effort...

You're Really lucky. I don't have any friends... At all..

[Taryn98]

I think best friends do exist but I know how easily it can be to feel alone at times. It's very difficult to get over it sometimes, but I have a feeling that you might be better friends than you think. It's not always easy to say to your friends how much they mean to you, but every once in awhile it's a good idea. You might be surprised how many would say the same things back to you.

[love21]

I think best friends do exist. I have a friend who has been close with me since we were 6, and she's never done anything to hurt me. All the other people in my life have ended up leaving me to hang out with the popular rich bitches, but she's been my friend through everything.

[FergusDunn]

Well that... I am seriously wondering this. All my life, I have never really had any close friends. You know, the kind of friend who is always there for you when you need him and for whom you are there for whenever he needs you. The kind of friend with whom you fight and laugh about the stupidest things. The kind of friend with whom you can share countless hours of fun without growing tired of each other. The kind of friend that doesn't stab you in the back the first time he gets...

I always try to be the best friend I can. I really, really do. Maybe I try to hard? I don't know... I really care about the people I consider my friends, about their lives, and I am always willing to be there for them when / if they need me. But when I really need someone, I always find myself to be on my own...

I really don't want to give much details of what I am feeling right now because I don't want my current "best friend" to read this and get mad at me or something. He is an awesome guy, but it saddens me he will never think of me in the same way, that he can barely call me friend at all and even that seems to take him quite the effort...

Maybe you are such a good friend - others kinda take you for granted sort off - I realised early on thats there are degrees of friendship - buddies and yeah if some just turn out to be more classmates than freinds well tune them out sounds harsh but thats life -

[LouBerry]

They exist I promise. I have three. I have my lady friend, Mel. She is just...I don't know.It doesn't seem like we are friends, it's more than that. Sisters, but closer. Then I have my Cody. He is the first one I go to when I'm too embarrassed to go to Mel. Both of them would and have frequently done anything for me.

Then, the is my Seth. He is my *boyfriend*. We are one mind in two bodies and he is my closest and most amazing friend.