Awkward Asking for Advice?

[RaXoR]

Well... My name is Travis, I'm 18 and I'm in a relationship which has been going on for a year now, she's 18 as well. The thing is though that the relationship was kind of rushed to begin with. We started dating when we both had just recently had our hearts broken (kind of double rebound?). The is thought that I had noticed her years before this happened and then never saw her again until we first met a year ago about a month previous to this same date. She had an instant attraction for me even though she was still dating her ex. I somehow reciprocated although my mind was with ummm... my "first" (not gf wise). Anyways getting back on topic, it's been a year since we started dating and we've been in a very dedicated, loyal relationship with the typical little arguments and the playfulness. However, I am a college student and she is still in high school (senior to be exact) and well ever since I started college I've noticed that I have a bit of a desire for other women, both sexually and kind of emotionally (mostly sexual) but yet not in a creepy way lol. I love my gf with everything I have and I have not dared do anything on the subject just because of that, I don't want to go too far and end up regretting it. I've been scared of ending the relationship but yet I've felt the urge to do so however I can't emotionally bare the idea of not being with her (a whole 12 months of memories can't be erased that easily) and her being with someone else... so what do I do? or how can I approach the situation in a better manner in order address the problem?

PS: The reason of the title is because I'm 18 and a freshmen in college... I kind of be the one giving out advice instead of asking for it lol :p

[FreeFall]

I'll be 19 soon. I'm in a relationship that will soon reach 1 year and 9 months. I'm also in college and we started dating in Junior year of high school. But if I felt for a second I wanted to end the relationship and explore and I'd be unhappy to do so otherwise, I would.

12 months can't be erased, that's why they become memories. 14 more months of you wondering if there are other women out there, also cannot be erased. If you end up cheating, that can never be erased. It's going to hurt like hell no matter what you decide unless you can find a way to bring your focus back onto your girlfriend.

I'm not saying you'd cheat, but you said you have a bit of a desire for other women, both sexually and kind of emotionally... Emotionally huh? And there is no "kind of", you either are or you aren't. Are you emotionally investing yourself into women other than your girlfriend? This is an easy way to start an emotional affair, which can be even more painful than you just having sex with a girl.
Emotions build attachments, builds affection, build attraction, builds love.

The only girl you should be emotionally attracted to is your girlfriend. Sounds to me that you're already checking out of the relationship if your emotions are traveling elsewhere. If there were as much loyalty as you say, there's be no emotions traveling about. It's human nature to look at pretty things, so you glancing at women and thinking oh she's pretty is ok. You wondering what she'd be like in bed is ok. As much as I hate it, that's just nature. But it's how you act on it that changes everything and how much it's affecting you.

Since it's emotionally affecting you, that's bad. You seem insecure, since both of you were rebounds to each other in a way. You say it was rushed from the start, sounds like you don't like that too much. This information has me thinking you're looking for some way out. Honestly it wouldn't have been relevant to your question, you could've just started at "I am a college student and she is still in high school..." and been just fine. But I'm curious as to why you threw that background in, what you're really feeling and what that really means. Maybe I'm looking to much into it but with everything I'm thinking;

Break up. It'll be hard, it'll suck really bad, but you're in college and she's in high school so it's easier to not run into each other there and you can go explore college women.

or

Stay together. Tell her you've been feeling, emotional feelings for other women. She deserves to know the guy saying he loves her is feeling some feelings for other women. She may dump you, she may want to work through. But be honest and open about your thoughts and see what comes from it, just be honest and open.

[KillerKing]

I'll be 19 soon. I'm in a relationship that will soon reach 1 year and 9 months. I'm also in college and we started dating in Junior year of high school. But if I felt for a second I wanted to end the relationship and explore and I'd be unhappy to do so otherwise, I would.

12 months can't be erased, that's why they become memories. 14 more months of you wondering if there are other women out there, also cannot be erased. If you end up cheating, that can never be erased. It's going to hurt like hell no matter what you decide unless you can find a way to bring your focus back onto your girlfriend.

I'm not saying you'd cheat, but you said you Emotionally huh? And there is no "kind of", you either are or you aren't. Are you emotionally investing yourself into women other than your girlfriend? This is an easy way to start an emotional affair, which can be even more painful than you just having sex with a girl.
Emotions build attachments, builds affection, build attraction, builds love.

The only girl you should be emotionally attracted to is your girlfriend. Sounds to me that you're already checking out of the relationship if your emotions are traveling elsewhere. If there were as much loyalty as you say, there's be no emotions traveling about. It's human nature to look at pretty things, so you glancing at women and thinking oh she's pretty is ok. You wondering what she'd be like in bed is ok. As much as I hate it, that's just nature. But it's how you act on it that changes everything and how much it's affecting you.

Since it's emotionally affecting you, that's bad. You seem insecure, since both of you were rebounds to each other in a way. You say it was rushed from the start, sounds like you don't like that too much. This information has me thinking you're looking for some way out. Honestly it wouldn't have been relevant to your question, you could've just started at "I am a college student and she is still in high school..." and been just fine. But I'm curious as to why you threw that background in, what you're really feeling and what that really means. Maybe I'm looking to much into it but with everything I'm thinking;

Break up. It'll be hard, it'll suck really bad, but you're in college and she's in high school so it's easier to not run into each other there and you can go explore college women.

or

Stay together. Tell her you've been feeling, emotional feelings for other women. She deserves to know the guy saying he loves her is feeling some feelings for other women. She may dump you, she may want to work through. But be honest and open about your thoughts and see what comes from it, just be honest and open.

Damn it! This girl has done it again! Completely agree.

To me, the fact you said you have sort of been getting emotinal feelings towards other girls suggests that you aren't as into the relationship as maybe she is. It really is best to tell her that your not feeling the same.

It's very pesimistic but, it's not like the relationship had a chance of lasting like, forever as that's a very rare thing and the connection has to be really strong and as Freefall also said, the more you go on with the relationship the more you have this personal mind struggle and the more guilty and bad your going to feel.

Would you rather have 12 months happy memories or 12 months happy memories with an extra 6 months of bad memories and the relationship falling apart?

[RaXoR]

To be honest... I've ruled out the emotional part, I realized that what I felt for that other girl was pure lust. Lust as in I see her, check her out and kind of think what would happen in bed type of thing. I do love my gf, I miss her all the time and I feel those emotions that I'm supposed to feel. I guess I'm doubting things because the feelings are taking time to come contrary to my past experiences where they came quickly (wearing my heart on my sleeve type of thing). I attribute this to the heartaches and the quickness of how our relationship came to be.

Now the background I gave was to kind of give y'all the idea of how it came to be and what reasons I could have for this. It's been a year and I've never cheated on her nor thought of it... I have tried braking up once with her but her reaction was... well not so good to put it on good terms but that same day we got back together.

[FreeFall]

Well then you know you've just got to keep your lust in check and do what you feels right for yourself while keeping her in mind. Not saying you've got to make important life decisions that would impact you beneficially and weigh it against her opposition to it if there is any, since she's not your wife. I mean more "is jumping from the roof into a pool full of jelly a good idea or not" hahaha.

Seems to me like you're self aware and self understanding and there's not much for you to worry about. It's natural for people to look at pretty things and think about those pretty things, lust is bad so I'm hoping you're just groping for a word to convey what you felt. Now if those thoughts controlled you, took over everything, replaced your girlfriend, then there'd be an issue but you seem to notice them and have a line for them. Sounds to me like you've got it all under control so far (: