I want a boyfreind

[xCrystalx]

Hey, So I'm currently 14 and almost everyone I know has had a boyfreind (or at least been asked out), I on the other hand haven't. I'm nice to everyone, even people I hate and I'd like to think that I'm pretty. I'm a fairly average size and have red hair (if hair color matters). I'm in honors classes and raise my hand a lot, my mom thinks that boys find me intimidating since I don't act like the cutesy ditsy generic type of girl. what should I change in order to get a boyfreind?

[Noirtier]

Hey, So I'm currently 14 and almost everyone I know has had a boyfreind (or at least been asked out), I on the other hand haven't. I'm nice to everyone, even people I hate and I'd like to think that I'm pretty. I'm a fairly average size and have red hair (if hair color matters). I'm in honors classes and raise my hand a lot, my mom thinks that boys find me intimidating since I don't act like the cutesy ditsy generic type of girl. what should I change in order to get a boyfreind?

Hun, you're only 14. Having a boyfriend isn't everything. In fact, someone your age really doesn't need a boyfriend. The majority, if not all, of those relationships your friends are in or have been in won't last very long. From what you've told me, you seem to be a wonderful person who has a bright future. Keep focusing on your schoolwork, and your friends, and just be you. You don't need to change anything about you--and in fact you SHOULDNT change anything about you for anyone. If you're just you, then you will find a great guy one day who will care about you for who you are, not for who you changed to be.

[Jean Poutine]

Hey, So I'm currently 14 and almost everyone I know has had a boyfreind (or at least been asked out), I on the other hand haven't. I'm nice to everyone, even people I hate and I'd like to think that I'm pretty. I'm a fairly average size and have red hair (if hair color matters). I'm in honors classes and raise my hand a lot, my mom thinks that boys find me intimidating since I don't act like the cutesy ditsy generic type of girl. what should I change in order to get a boyfreind?

Don't change to get anybody.

I've got my first girlfriend at 21 and the relationship is still ongoing a year later, and I would not trade that for anything at all. It was completely worth the wait to be able to stay myself and find somebody who loves me for who I am, and not the front I may choose to present.

Finding love is not something that's worth rushing. If you do, all you'll find is your heart reduced to a pile of rubble.

Don't worry, if I could sit and wait until I was 21 for the love of my life to cross my path, you can wait a few years too. A relationship is wonderful, that is if it works.

[Ryhanna]

I'm 17 and never been in a relationship. Love just happens, it'll come when it comes. There's no need to change anything about yourself just for a boy.

[KillerKing]

Hey, So I'm currently 14 and almost everyone I know has had a boyfreind (or at least been asked out), I on the other hand haven't. I'm nice to everyone, even people I hate and I'd like to think that I'm pretty. I'm a fairly average size and have red hair (if hair color matters). I'm in honors classes and raise my hand a lot, my mom thinks that boys find me intimidating since I don't act like the cutesy ditsy generic type of girl. what should I change in order to get a boyfreind?

Good for you!! You seem strong and independant but don't you dare change a thing about you for some boy!!!!

You may seem lonely now, or maybe your just a bit jealous of others and you want to know what it's like to be in a relationship, and I'm not judging you for being jealous. It's perfectly natural be a little envious at your age. But just carry on being yourself as that way you'll most likely find someone who is really into you and not some illusion of yourself that you've created.

It's really a waiting game, which I know, it's a bitch... But there really isn't anything you can do. You can try maybe being more outgoing and socialize a lot with friends who meet other friends, you know? Tag along and increase your chances of meeting someone new but I can't stress how much that you shouldn't change yourself!

Be patient, wish you luck :)

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Being yourself is the best plan. Answer to the question.
Wait. But try to look for someone. This is my approach to it at least. Recommendation.

[KidNova]

You seem like a strong, smart and intelligent girl, it's a shame no guy wishes to find out more about you. But you're 14, which is young, and in honors classes, right you need to follow my pretty much cheesy rhyme, "Make sure you ready, before you go steady". It basically means, make sure you are ready to be in an relationship. Right now you need to ask your self if are ready, make sure if being in a relationship will affect your grades, social life or honors classes.

I understand that waiting sucks, hell, it feels like you've been waiting for years sometimes! I know, I'm going through it right now.

Also, DO NOT CHANGE YOURSELF! It doesn't matter what people think about you, do not change your self, instead just BE your self. If you change anything about your self, you will literally be living a lie.

I'm pretty sure most of the people here can give you better advice, but at least take mine into consideration.

[ana1og]

Hey, So I'm currently 14 and almost everyone I know has had a boyfreind (or at least been asked out), I on the other hand haven't. I'm nice to everyone, even people I hate and I'd like to think that I'm pretty. I'm a fairly average size and have red hair (if hair color matters). I'm in honors classes and raise my hand a lot, my mom thinks that boys find me intimidating since I don't act like the cutesy ditsy generic type of girl. what should I change in order to get a boyfreind?

it'll happen hun. you're amazing, don't change a thing.

[commikid]

Don't worry about it :) ,, in fact I wouldn't even think of it I would just put it to the back of your mind and follow the path of life. There might be someone out there at your school etc that really likes you but might not have the guts to ask you out. When I was at school I really liked a girl but she never knew for a whole 5 years and then we left and she still didn't know haha. And well I'm almost 20 now and guess what, I'm in my first relationship that I have been in for around a month now. I used to think like you and try to get things to work but at the end of the day it'll all come together in the end :D you look and sound really nice so I'm sure there will be someone out there near you that would love the chance to be with you. Good luck XD

[West Coast Sheriff]

Don't worry! You'll eventually find someone you love and someone who'll love you back. Besides, what is the point of having a relationship with someone just to have a relationship. If the only reason you want a boyfriend is so you can be like all the other girls, there isn't a point and it's just selfish and immature of you in the first place and you aren't ready to sustain a relationship. Dating someone is because the to of you have a special connection not just for the hell of it. You just have to wait and be patient and eventually you'll meet someone where the two of you just click. I hope everything turns out to be the best for you. :D

[davedave]

Dont change anything. Just be yourself! Dont pretend to be someone else!

[WickedWeekend]

Be yourself. Best saying ever. Just because everyone else has one doesn't you should. Most relationships don't last at this age anyway. This isn't the time. Soon, hun. Soon.

[Emerald Dream]

The best advice I ever got about relationships is - "Don't be with someone just to be with SOME one." The right person will come along and you will know and connect with him.

[Green Arrow]

Don't change yourself, their is someone out there for you. You just don't know it. Sometimes karma is a bitch and doesn't serve on time but you've just got to carry on being yourself and talk to boys. :)

[sieg]

if you want a good boyfriend, don't change a thing.

[saul1026]

just talk to people you like and tgen once you to know someone ask theme out

[panick]

I suppose your mom is in a way right... I dont know why but we boys not have the guts to the girls who really deserve it. That you dont have a boyfriend doesnt mean neccessarily you are not attractive, but you are not behaving teasing boys. I think they just think you are too "difficult" to have you... They may think you are too demure, more mature and you wont be interested for them, but for older men. Anyway i dont reccommend you change anything