friendship boner?

[ExhibitG]

okay so i don't know if anyone gets this but i really hope someone does lol. sometimes when i'm talking to my best guy friend(s) and we get sappy with our friendship (e.g. if i tell him, in detail, how great of a friend is or how i really appreciate all he does for me) i'll get a boner.

i honestly can't remember if i also get a boner when i tell some of my girl friends this stuff because we don't talk about it as often, but does anybody else get a boner over this? i don't get turned on or have sexual thoughts about him (even though i am bisexual), it's just one of those boners that i can't really explain i guess. and it goes away after the bromance moment is over lol.

someone please tell me i'm not alone here lol.

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I can't tell friends how much I care, too weird :)


And I've never got a boner from a friend, so I can't relate. Just blame hormones and fuhgettaboudit.

[West Coast Sheriff]

I don't get boners unless its a girl and even i rarely get them then. But I'm sure it's normal, and it's all in your hormones. :D

[Thomas01]

Actually yeah I get that too. So I'm not attracted to my guy friend (even though I am gay) since he is more like a brother to me. Sometimes when we hug I get a hard-on. I guess we care about them so much our bodies tell us it's sexual even though it's not

[KillerKing]

I guess we care about them so much our bodies tell us it's sexual even though it's not

What this guy said is spot in my opinion. At the end of the day, our dick's dont care what's touching them as long as it's getting attention and it could be misinterpreting emotinal feelings for love and desire to mate.... Yeah, it sounds kinda weird but it's a possibility.

Great that you have such a good friendship that even your penis gets happy XD

[frankrocky]

It's never happened to me but it sounds like normal puberty hormones. Or maybe your just more sensitive and emotional. Or maybe deep down you have the hots for him.

[Irishperson15]

Happens me all the time b-)

[ExhibitG]

Actually yeah I get that too. So I'm not attracted to my guy friend (even though I am gay) since he is more like a brother to me. Sometimes when we hug I get a hard-on. I guess we care about them so much our bodies tell us it's sexual even though it's not

yeah, thanks so much for this post. i feel the same way.

[Ryhanna]

I think it's the intimacy. Having a close friend and sappy conversations like that is a little bit like having a romantic conversation as both are very intimate connections with the other person. You're lucky to have a friend like that, I'm jealous!

[Sph2015]

No... I've never experienced this...

[Gordo]

Well, I definitely don't get an erection over that and I'm very open, wear my heart on my sleeve kinda guy. Quite some time ago, I was encouraged to regularly tell my inner circle of friends, both guys and girls, how i feel about them when we were alone and only if it was something that I truly felt and it was something positive to say. I also made it a point to shut my cake hole if I didn't have anything nice to say and just let it go for a while.

It was really awkward at first. Really awkward, both for me, and for them. It wasn't some big dramatic thing, I'd just mention something right before I left or they left or if a few people were coming over, before other people showed up.

It certainly didn't arouse me and I'm hoping it didn't/doesn't arouse my friends. We're all comfortable with it now actually and everyone of them tells me how much they appreciate it because most people in their lives only bring up what's wrong with them or what they need to change, so it's nice for them to know at least one person loves 'em, admires them or admires a talent they have etc just because I can.

IDK, once in a while it's sappy, like the end of the movie Super Bad. Haha

So my point is, I have those conversations with my inner circle (5) friends and it doesn't give me an erection.

I wonder if you're just having a random erection? Is that a possibility? Or is it like every time you have one of those kinds of discussions, it happens? If so, maybe where you do it is the reason, like if your both on the same couch or bed or right next to each other on the floor. Maybe if you were further apart when you mention it would give you a clue.

It doesn't have to be a big convo either. I could be as simple as: I really appreciate xyz or You could be about to leave their house and as they walk you to the door maybe say something along the lines of what you really want to say and say it briefly, maybe even quietly. That way it's not some big intimate thing, it just dropping what ya feel right before you or he or she leaves.

Also, it's not like it's a problem to be solved unless it bothers you. It would bother me, but that's me. Hopefully it doesn't bother you anymore than just wondering about it, but if it does bother you, maybe try the above.

[Backflipboy]

It's a sign of compassion rather than sexual attraction in this case. Just because you are erect doesn't mean you are aroused, you just have great emotions for him.

[greenjeans22]

It's never happened to me

[LSEagle2]

yes this has happened before...

[dan8854]

Nope. Hopefully he didn't notice!

[FergusDunn]

okay so i don't know if anyone gets this but i really hope someone does lol. sometimes when i'm talking to my best guy friend(s) and we get sappy with our friendship (e.g. if i tell him, in detail, how great of a friend is or how i really appreciate all he does for me) i'll get a boner.

i honestly can't remember if i also get a boner when i tell some of my girl friends this stuff because we don't talk about it as often, but does anybody else get a boner over this? i don't get turned on or have sexual thoughts about him (even though i am bisexual), it's just one of those boners that i can't really explain i guess. and it goes away after the bromance moment is over lol.

someone please tell me i'm not alone here lol.


I guess its just one of them things in puberty - random boner your relaxed with freinds - talking about your freindship - me too

Its ok just surprising you do not remember if /if not you geta boner with girls - but anyways maybes its not important to you

[ULeon]

me and my best friend always tell each other that we love one another and that the other is an amazing friend, we usually hugg and stuff. and sometimes one of us does get a bonner but honestly we dont think much of it since we know that we only see each other as either best friends or brothers

[rll1998]

I only get boners with male friends when we are talking about sex and puberty.

[Abyssal Echo]

nope its never happened to me

[ThatGuy69]

I only get boners talking to fit people or about sex and stuff like that