Rejection-Any advice

[isaiah1038]

Background:
I really liked this girl, and (after a couple weeks of debating whether or not I should tell her I liked her) I told her that I liked her. She said that she liked me too, and I was really over-joyed. So, a couple days pass, and she tells me she isn't ready to date, I told her that was understandable and fine with me. After a couple weeks, I am starting to feel really depressed, because I do not know when she will be ready.

Problem:
So, I ask her when she might be ready to date (and no, I wasn't asking it needy, or bothersome like), she then said: "I'm sorry, I don't like you, I thought i did". At this point, I go into a spiraling depression for a week or so, and I then ask her: "Would you date me in a year or so?". She says: "I'm sorry, no"

What's she's like:
Funny/ has a sense of humor
kind (very)
beautiful (not a necessary comment, but a true one)
independent



Question:

WHAT THE HELL DO I DO NOW?!!! I now often look at the knife block in my kitchen and think: "If only I wasn't such a pussy..."

Any advice?

[RCT109]

Here is my advice
move on and still be friends with her

every guy hate rejection

let me tell a story

there is this one girl who i have class with
we have been friends for about 4 months now and we have hung out multiple time almost as much as two people dating. she would ask me if she should date this one guy and i tell her only if she wants to [ mistake on my part i know] and so she does and she tells me about it and then i loose it
i walk away from her in the class and then i close my self to everyone.
we talk that tuesday and this was last week nov 6, 2012 btw and i explained what i did and why
and she said she did wanted to be friends and she knew i liked her and she liked me but she wanted to be friends

then she asked me out on saturday and we went to dinner and a movie.


moral of the story [ if you can call it a story] stay friends and move on because you never know who you will find
everything happens for a reason weather it is to learn from it or what have you

good luck
shawn

[Ryhanna]

Unfortunately you just have to learn to deal with rejection. She's made it clear that she only likes you as a friend, and you can't force her to change her mind. It sucks, but that's life. Sometimes things just don't work out the way you would have liked.

[isaiah1038]

Here is my advice
move on and still be friends with her

every guy hate rejection

let me tell a story

there is this one girl who i have class with
we have been friends for about 4 months now and we have hung out multiple time almost as much as two people dating. she would ask me if she should date this one guy and i tell her only if she wants to [ mistake on my part i know] and so she does and she tells me about it and then i loose it
i walk away from her in the class and then i close my self to everyone.
we talk that tuesday and this was last week nov 6, 2012 btw and i explained what i did and why
and she said she did wanted to be friends and she knew i liked her and she liked me but she wanted to be friends

then she asked me out on saturday and we went to dinner and a movie.


moral of the story [ if you can call it a story] stay friends and move on because you never know who you will find
everything happens for a reason weather it is to learn from it or what have you

good luck
shawn


Thanks bro. It's just that... She was my first "Crush", and she told me she liked me back, and then she said she didn't like me. I guess the best thing to do is get over it...

btw: lots of lolz, one of my close friends is named shawn :P

[isaiah1038]

Unfortunately you just have to learn to deal with rejection. She's made it clear that she only likes you as a friend, and you can't force her to change her mind. It sucks, but that's life. Sometimes things just don't work out the way you would have liked.

Thanks for the advice, btw I like the quote you put at the bottom :D

[RCT109]

Thanks bro. It's just that... She was my first "Crush", and she told me she liked me back, and then she said she didn't like me. I guess the best thing to do is get over it...

btw: lots of lolz, one of my close friends is named shawn :P



np man and yeah best thing is to get over it and hope for the better

[Ryhanna]

Thanks for the advice, btw I like the quote you put at the bottom :D

No problem :D

Try not to get too down about it though, okay. We're all here if you ever need to talk about things. :cool:

[Bri-Bri]

Background:
I really liked this girl, and (after a couple weeks of debating whether or not I should tell her I liked her) I told her that I liked her. She said that she liked me too, and I was really over-joyed. So, a couple days pass, and she tells me she isn't ready to date, I told her that was understandable and fine with me. After a couple weeks, I am starting to feel really depressed, because I do not know when she will be ready.

Problem:
So, I ask her when she might be ready to date (and no, I wasn't asking it needy, or bothersome like), she then said: "I'm sorry, I don't like you, I thought i did". At this point, I go into a spiraling depression for a week or so, and I then ask her: "Would you date me in a year or so?". She says: "I'm sorry, no"

What's she's like:
Funny/ has a sense of humor
kind (very)
beautiful (not a necessary comment, but a true one)
independent



Question:

WHAT THE HELL DO I DO NOW?!!! I now often look at the knife block in my kitchen and think: "If only I wasn't such a pussy..."

Any advice?

Distact yourself withthings you enjoy! like a new project or setting a goal and working to achieve it!
Please do not think about that knife block. she and that situation are not a reason to do anythng of that sort. its not worth it. trust me.
you are young and have many years ahead of you to meet new girls and all that

[KillerKing]

It seems like you have it sorted now so I'll just add,

How many first time's of having or doing anything have worked out right?

(I don't know about you but everytime I try something new it's either disastrous or needs many attempts to get better)

Move on :)

[dingo006]

Getting rejected happens. I just kinda see it as something i have to keep trying. I have a girlfriend now (see! if you believe in love at first sight you never stop looking) but there was a time i wanted her best friend (thank god I didnt get her) and she turned me down a lot. in the end i ended up with a better girl. always keep looking, the perfect girl might be right around the corner.

[isaiah1038]

thanks guys/ladies for the advice!:)

[KidNova]

Look at it this way, that's one more fish in the sea that you don't have to catch. She may have not been the one for you, that's okay, at least you can be friends with her which is pretty much the next best thing. Also, use this rejection as a way to see what went wrong, maybe you came on too strong, or during a bad time for her? Who knows, only you. Hope you understand and realize that everyone gets rejected, you just need to keep your head up high, point out your mistakes and move on.