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[Stig]

Ok so I have a problem. I have a friend who we used to experiment all the time. All the sudden he is accusing me of being gay. I'm straight but all the sudden he texted me and called me gay bc we kept doing it. I was really hurt and want to make it right but he won't talk to me.
What should I do? I really enjoy being friends with him but he has me baffled right now.
HELP!!!

[Lost in the Echo]

Well like the old expression says "it takes 2 to tangle" which means if you guys experimented, then he was apart of it too. So if according to him you're gay, then that would make him gay by his standards since he experimented with you too.
Honestly, I don't know what you could say to him to get you guys back to being friends, but if he's going to be an asshole to you over a stipid reason, then he's not worth your time. Friendship is a 2 way street.

[Bumpin Bass]

Btw Bocefus, the expression is "it takes two to TANGO". Lol
Anyway, he's right. He had just as much to do with what happened as you did. You're both in the same boat. He didn't say no, did he?

[Voodoo]

I agree with Bocefus98, it does take two. If you both did it with one-another and he's calling you gay, then that would make him also. My advice would be if he doesn't snap out of it, would be stop being friends with him.

[Stig]

Thanks guys. What ur saying is making me feel better. I was hurt when he said it to me. I really hope he does snap out of it. I like him friend wise and hope we can keep experimenting.

[caden048]

He could be in denile to if you think about it and dosent want to acknowledge that it happened so him taking it out on you may be his way of venting it out if you understand what im saying.

[Lost in the Echo]

Btw Bocefus, the expression is "it takes two to TANGO". Lol
Anyway, he's right. He had just as much to do with what happened as you did. You're both in the same boat. He didn't say no, did he?
Oh, ok:P Been a while since i've heard this expression, but this thread made me remember it, when I was typing that I was thinking " Ok, is it tangle or tango, I can't remember ":whoops:
Thanks guys. What ur saying is making me feel better. I was hurt when he said it to me. I really hope he does snap out of it. I like him friend wise and hope we can keep experimenting.

Great to hear you're feeling better:)

[KillerKing]

Well like the old expression says "it takes 2 to tangle"



Btw Bocefus, the expression is "it takes two to TANGO".

Damn! Beat me to it :P I was gunna say, I dunno about you I can tangle one piece of wire perfectly yet annoyingly easily lol. Can't tango by myself though ;)

But anyway, I would like, sort of, make it quite obvious and clear that you are perfectly fine that you are OK with your sexuality and make him realise he is the one who is acting, 'gay'. As we have probably already guessed, he is probably worrying he is Gay because maybe he enjoyed it? Or maybe he has just hit that stage where he is curious and is scared that he means it's gay.

If he's refusing to talk to you, you'll need a way to make a brief statement like text which he will read. Something maybe like, 'I'm fine with my sexuality, I'm straight, i was just having fun. You seem to be the one who is worried about it being gay'.

Good luck!

(If he really doens't get it, maybe just leave him to cool and sort his mental state out and worse case scenario, might never get your friendship back but doing what I and others suggested won't make it worse than he has already made it)

[bbh6496]

He might feel that he is gay because he experimented with you, so he's lashing out at you because of his own insecurities.

[Stig]

Thanks for all of your advise guys. I have a feeling with what is going on he doesn't understand the full meaning of being gay. I don't think he realises that being gay is wanted to spend the rest of your life with the same sex. I don't want that. I don't have anything against gays but that's not me. If anything he is the gay one bc he was the one who originally wanted to do it an I didn't. Since then he has had a feeling for me that I can sense.... So he is falsely accusing me for something he is.

[Burton Guster]

If he not talkin to you because of something you did TOGETHER, than something's wrong with him.