Confused, need some assistance

[Booman5]

Alright, here is my issue:

I'm gay, I know I am, I have been for a while, and I do not doubt it. I have a lovely group of friends whom I care for very much, I haven't told them or anyone yet. Two of my friends are dating, and the other likes me and wanted me to ask her out. With my friends pressuring me, and no idea on what to do in these situations, I asked her out. We went on a date, it was fun. However, I am at a loss at what to do next. I could ask her on another date, but then I feel like I'm lying. I had no intention of coming out anytime soon, and if I continued to date her I wouldn't have to, and I would have a date to the prom. I also don't want to hurt her. If I'm not ready to come out, and I like her, and don't want to hurt her, should I just keep dating her, as teen romances go, I know this won't last, especially past high school, but I feel like I'm lying to her. Any suggestions?

[Serenity]

You really need to tell her that you just don't like her that way. I'm pretty sure it would hurt more in the long run if she found out you were dating her out of pity, especially knowing you were gay the entire time as well. I mean put yourself in her shoes, "I'm so desperate only a gay guy will date me?" Nah. Give her the opportunity to find someone who genuinely wants to be with her, and everyone can be happy. In the meantime, you can concentrate on yourself and your own sexuality, possibly coming out and finding someone for you to be with :daisy:

[Booman5]

Thank you for your clear suggestion, I have been so confused lately, confusing the right thing with my own desires, I now realize how shallow it would be of me to let this continue. Unfortunately now I suppose I have to tell her. None the less thank you.

[byee]

Darn, Valerie, will ya knock it off already?! I want to give the right answer, sometimes! LOL!

Yeah, you can't go out with her of your heart isn't into it (this isn't a gay issue, btw, it's just being nice and decent and honorable). However, I think you can have some privacy about the real reason by just telling her how much you like her as a friend and you'd like to keep it that way, it's too valuable for you. That way, you get to be true to yourself, spare her feelings, and maintain what might be a nice friendship!

[Ddeswz]

IAMSAM, there isn't a right answer. Both are mere opinions.
The best? No one knows.

[Mirataku]

voldies is right