Emotions and Sex, My Situation

[Sydels]

So two nights ago, Thursday, I was hanging out with this guy in his truck after practice at about 7pm and no one was around. We have been not-very-close friends for two years. He's a year older than me. And I start kidding about how we should have sex. But then starts talking like he really wants to. I've never done anything sexual before with anyone so I didn't really know what to. But he starts rubbing my leg. And slowly gets closer to "there" and it feels nice and I want to keep going so I don't stop him. He starts touching me and I just sit there because I'm so nervous. This goes on for about 3 minutes when my mom shows up so I have to leave. As I'm getting out of his truck he tells me to text him and that we should finish later. I tell him I agree. So about an hour later I text him and ask if he was serious about finishing and he says he was, so I ask him when? He says Friday after school. And I'm all for it. And then I have to go to bed so I tell him good night and go to bed. I don't talk to him all day Friday and when school is over I text him but he never answers and then I see him leaving to go get lunch without even saying anything to me. That kind of makes me nervous about him not meaning it, but I figure he just wants to wait until Friday night after the football game (we are both in marching band) so he gets back and I talk to him during practice but not about "that" so then the day goes normally and I don't get anymore chances to talk to him. That night before we are getting dressed to go to the football game, he says he has a headache and isn't going to preform tonight. But once we get to the game he is there anyway sitting in the stands. I don't get a chance to talk to him at the game. But when it's over and I'm back in the band room he comes in to talk to his friends. I stop him and ask him if he is going home. He says yes so I'm like ok, text me. He leaves and then I go home and pass out. Today, Saturday, I wake up about 9am and he's hasn't texted me, so I wait until about 12:30pm until I text him just to say hey. It's now 8pm and he hasn't answered me. I don't know what happened to make him change his mind and totally ignore, but it really makes me mad. I'm made because he is acting like nothin happened and he's ignoring me. I'm mad because I wish I would have been braver to do something in his truck and not just sit there. And I'm am upset because I was so excited for "it" to happen and it hasn't. I don't know what to do. If he texted me now I don't know if I would be strong enough to tell him to go away or if I would still just do whatever because my hormones are so crazy.

[Dawn01]

So two nights ago, Thursday, I was hanging out with this guy in his truck after practice at about 7pm and no one was around. We have been not-very-close friends for two years. He's a year older than me. And I start kidding about how we should have sex. But then starts talking like he really wants to. I've never done anything sexual before with anyone so I didn't really know what to. But he starts rubbing my leg. And slowly gets closer to "there" and it feels nice and I want to keep going so I don't stop him. He starts touching me and I just sit there because I'm so nervous. This goes on for about 3 minutes when my mom shows up so I have to leave. As I'm getting out of his truck he tells me to text him and that we should finish later. I tell him I agree. So about an hour later I text him and ask if he was serious about finishing and he says he was, so I ask him when? He says Friday after school. And I'm all for it. And then I have to go to bed so I tell him good night and go to bed. I don't talk to him all day Friday and when school is over I text him but he never answers and then I see him leaving to go get lunch without even saying anything to me. That kind of makes me nervous about him not meaning it, but I figure he just wants to wait until Friday night after the football game (we are both in marching band) so he gets back and I talk to him during practice but not about "that" so then the day goes normally and I don't get anymore chances to talk to him. That night before we are getting dressed to go to the football game, he says he has a headache and isn't going to preform tonight. But once we get to the game he is there anyway sitting in the stands. I don't get a chance to talk to him at the game. But when it's over and I'm back in the band room he comes in to talk to his friends. I stop him and ask him if he is going home. He says yes so I'm like ok, text me. He leaves and then I go home and pass out. Today, Saturday, I wake up about 9am and he's hasn't texted me, so I wait until about 12:30pm until I text him just to say hey. It's now 8pm and he hasn't answered me. I don't know what happened to make him change his mind and totally ignore, but it really makes me mad. I'm made because he is acting like nothin happened and he's ignoring me. I'm mad because I wish I would have been braver to do something in his truck and not just sit there. And I'm am upset because I was so excited for "it" to happen and it hasn't. I don't know what to do. If he texted me now I don't know if I would be strong enough to tell him to go away or if I would still just do whatever because my hormones are so crazy.

Don't worry, I can understand your feelings ^^ I think you should first calm down your hormones and focus on your emotions. Ask yourself if you really want to have sex with him and if you won't regret it later. Just talk to him about other things, and if he ever talk again about the subject and you are determined to have sex with him, you should just let it happen with no regrets :)

Just don't forget to use protection!!

[Elvalight]

Look...I know the world is making it look more and more like it's "normal" to have sex before marriage, but he's older than you and you BARELY KNOW HIM, so what kind of life is that? He is a pervert. Sorry to be so blunt, but if you want to have sex with someone, do it with someone who you share your closest, most real relationship with. Someone who is your age and LOVES YOU, not just for your body, but for your heart. Get married first, and believe me, everything becomes a dream come true. He will understand you and will never leave you out in the dark like this. I really care about girls like you, not because I'm a goody-goody girl, but because I want to help you find the happy ending you were meant to have. You are a beautiful rose. protect your petals from those who would pull them all out.

[ashleyrobinson]

i know what your feeling, and its completely normal. humans enjoy sex, so naturally we seek it out. maybe something happened with him so he cant go through with it (for example maybe he got asked out and was just too embarassed to talk to you about it). I think that you should wait on it. the time will eventually come for you to have sex with someone you really love, not someone that is offering it

[Sydels]

Look...I know the world is making it look more and more like it's "normal" to have sex before marriage, but he's older than you and you BARELY KNOW HIM, so what kind of life is that? He is a pervert. Sorry to be so blunt, but if you want to have sex with someone, do it with someone who you share your closest, most real relationship with. Someone who is your age and LOVES YOU, not just for your body, but for your heart. Get married first, and believe me, everything becomes a dream come true. He will understand you and will never leave you out in the dark like this. I really care about girls like you, not because I'm a goody-goody girl, but because I want to help you find the happy ending you were meant to have. You are a beautiful rose. protect your petals from those who would pull them all out.

For some reason this really meant a lot to me. Thank you :)

[madisonsweet]

I don't really agree w/ everyone. It's your body and you get to decide when you're ready to have sex. It sounds to me like you were READY. when you are, you should go for it! Definitely be safe, but otherwise just do it. Sex is not for saving... trust me, you don't want to realize later how amazing it is and that you've waited years to try it!

Your body is ready, your hormones are ready, i think you are ready. Text him and tell him that!

-maddie

[FreeFall]

Be wary if he has an STD or an STI. You should get to know him better, for your health and safety.
As nice as Sex is, there is no cure for Hep B yet and that can really fuck up your life. My friend has it and her health is going downhill fast this month so far.

Be absolutely certain that you're ready.
Save yourself if you want. Have sex if you want. Have sex with someone you don't know but trust. Have sex with someone special.
Only you get to pick it, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

So long as you're ready and feel you're doing what you want safely and you are secure. As for him, he may have found someone else or he's having second thoughts. Either way he's an asshole for blowing you off when you were taking him seriously, text him up and let him know your thoughts. It'll really make you feel better.