Parents found out

[marianastrenchlover]

Help, my parents found out I cut. I told them it was because of my math mark, and that I only cut once, they didn't freak out at me but they gave me a lecture on how cutting us bad etc etc. Now what do I do, I don't want them to tell anyone (i don't think they would but still) I need info on wat to expect in the next few weeks/months?? Sry its so long. I just need info :what:

[Desuetude]

Seeing as my parents are divorced I got lectured twice. Be prepared for the, to ask you for anything you use, checking your arms is a common one. Maybe you could print out some information about why people really self harm? You think that might help? We can't really say what's definitely going to happen. All parents react differently: some get angry, some completely ignore it, others are somewhat understanding, some are ignorant about the subject and what their child is going through. It's all a bit stressful but you should find another outlet to cope with this stress because you can't be worrying about this for the next few months. Vent in a diary or on paper and rip it up. Find other sources of giving yourself that release that you can rely on for long term because self harm shouldn't be used that way. I know it's a very reliable method you should try and find a safer more healthy option.

I hope your parents are alright about this and don't go completely over the top because that can be one of the worst things. Just put on some music and try and block everything out.

[marianastrenchlover]

Thank you

[QueenOfTheOutcasts]

You should be on your knees thanking the high heavens that they found out. I felt exactly the same as you do when my parents found out, but if they hadn't, I may as well be dead right now. And I really, really don't want to be dead yet. They are going to help you. You're their world. Let them lead you..... You won't regret it.

[marianastrenchlover]

They also grounded me for it, do you guys think it is fair to ground me for something like that??

[Mortal Coil]

It isn't fair at all, but it's pretty common. You can expect them to confiscate sharps (like that's going to do much,) try to "reach out" to you, sometimes they'll emotionally blackmail you, check your arms or thighs or wherever you cut, and probably some screaming and yelling. They also enjoy using the fact that you self-harm as ammo in arguments, so beware of that.

[that-god-chick]

thats not fair of them grounding u but i can understand where they r coming from as they prombley dont understand whats going on for u and not know how to deal with it themselves... when my mum found out she got so angry at me for it but now ingores it, both of these are bad but iv come to relise everyone is going to react different... dont stress about it as if u do will be stressing about things to do with self harm ur whole life and thats no way to live.. if u are stressing find something to distract urself, go for a run, draw, write, do homework, study, go on fb-tumblr- twitter-vt... what ever works for u.... we r all here for u pm me any time if u wanna chat... :)

[marianastrenchlover]

Thx guys, :)

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

just look out for "check ups" when they might want to see and they will most likely ask for what you use. I hope everything goes better fpr you than me.