I feel stuck

[AustinT]

So for the past month or two, me and my girlfriend have kind of had a falling out, and I feel unhappy in our relationship. I feel as if I'm only staying because I don't want to break her heart. This past weekend we got into a huge fight, and it finally hit me that I was feeling stuck and unhappy. I finally decided I was going to break up with her, I guess she sensed this and came to my house bawling her eyes out in my room. I couldn't bring myself to do it, I felt to horrible seeing her cry. what can do, I want to have my high school years to have fun, not be sad and stuck

[ReginaGeorge]

Just break up with her, man. If you're unhappy, there is no point in this relationship. They're supposed to make you feel happy and loved, not trapped and sad. There are going to be tears no matter what way you do it. Letting go and moving on is hard, even if both parties aren't happy in the relationship. Just do it. Do it gently, and nicely, but make sure you say whatever you want to say. If she cries, keep going. If you cry, keep going. The longer you wait, the harder it will be on her, AND you. The quicker you do it, the quicker you both move on, and the quicker you can do whatever it is you want to do.

[KillerKing]

Seems both of your hearts are clouding your logic. As the previous poster said, it is hard because you are severing a connection that has built up so suddenly but you need to make her and yourself see that the relationship won't do either of you any good.

Instead of breaking up with her, talk with her and make her realise herself that she too wants to break up. If you are both on the same terms, it'll be easier on the both of you.

[FreeFall]

Stay with her. Remain miserable, be stuck thinking how much better you and she would be off with other people, but force a smile because you don't want to see her cry. Let her be miserable with you, let yourself be miserable. Maybe you two will marry! You'll stay together because she's too much a crybaby to handle a break-up and you're too much of a doormat to get yourself out of a miserable situation. You'll have an awful wedding, wish you could just run away and not exchange vows, but that would just break her heart. Oh she's going to want kids, maybe. You'll have to go through all of that. You won't be able to divorce now, you'd crush your kids and they would cry, she'd cry, your families would cry, and you'd have to go through the legal process. You can hope you die before you're both 70, but you'll both be 98 and you'll have spent your life since you were 14, being miserable.

You're not doing her, or yourself any favors by prolonging this unhappiness. She's unhappy, you're unhappy, I don't think you guys can work through your issues seeing as to have long they've been going on. She's going to cry. When she get a nasty cut she will cry. If she breaks her arm she will cry. If her beloved pet dies, she will cry. But she'll get over all of that. So boo hoo that she cries, just think about how much more fights you'll have together if you guys can't fix the issues and how much she'll cry from being with you and fighting versus single and moving on.