Please. I NEED your help! I need my girlfriend back!

[MisterNobody]

Long story short, I met this girl on an online forum for a game we both played, back in 2011. We hit it off and I asked her out. We maintained a stable LDR (long distance relationship) for about 2 years. We met twice this past summer. We were head over heels in love with each other. However, the past few months, we had been fighting. She started avoiding me, and things got weird. Eventually, she dumped me in the middle of October. She wanted to be friends and see where it led, saying she needed a few weeks before jumping back into anything but she thought we'd basically end up back together. However, I continued to talk to her and make things worse by writing her a love letter. This pissed her off. We haven't talked in two weeks. She left it at "we'll talk again in a few days on video chat". She IMed me a quick "hey" that night. I ignored it and texted her the following day, asking if she'd like to chill "as friends" on video chat, no pressure, just random conversation. I didnt hear back, so I texted a half hour later. I told her I couldn't handle her cutting me off and I didn't need her (because she said so herself) but I wanted her in my life somehow, even as friends. It's been two weeks since I sent that text, and she never answered back, which makes no sense.

I finally got over it kinda, and was happy-ish with my own hobbies. I stopped letting her control my emotions. I keep myself busy with vlogging, drawing, skateboarding, biking, writing, chatting with friends, and family stuff. But now, the past few days the no talking has been killing me. I don't understand what the hell she's doing. She said we'd talk again and now she just doesn't.

Last night really pissed me off because she unfollowed me on Tumblr, and then like 2 hours later, refollowed me. I don't know if she did it on purpose and regretted it, did it on accident, or was just looking for attention, but she knows I love my followers and keep on top of everything. As far as online, she's dropped off the earth. She hasn't updated her Tumblr in a month, she still left my picture as her icon on IM, I'm still in her contacts for everything, and any sites we used to go to she hasn't changed her relationship status. She still has things like "I'm head over heels in love with the most beautiful girl, Emily" etc etc. She also hasn't told her mom we broke up...

What i don't understand is why she's doing this. I get it. We were fighting and she needed space to break the cycle... and I didn't respect her space out of fear of her never coming back. But now, having her say she'd talk to me and just dropping me, I don't know what to think. I love this girl with all of my heart and everyone keeps telling me to move on, and I CAN, but I DONT WANT TO. She is my soulmate, she's my everything, and I NEED her back.

I was considering buying this system called "Text Your Ex Back" by Michael Fiore. Has anyone heard of it? In a nutshell, you wait a minimum of 30 days before you contact your ex, and then you use texts messages to win her back. It tells you what not to do, and how to act, and teaches you things that will trigger the good memories and such and whatever else that will draw her back. I don't know much else because I haven't bought it, but I want to. It's been half a month already, I'm giving her space, so I think trying this might work. Michael Fiore (the love doctor dude) said it works for almost everyone, but he doesn't guarantee it - he said it works better if you do the no contact for 30 days and start from there.

What do you guys think? I know my ex (girlfriend.. :/) is treating me like shit and fucking with me, but I know what we had was special, and it's still there. We never would have lasted 2 years together if we weren't meant to be. We made it through the distance and stubborn parents and more shit than you can shake a stick at. We both got hurt, but I want us back. I want to start fresh. I need her in my life. I am happy, but I am incomplete without her. Should I buy the system? What do I do? And don't tell me to give up because I honestly can't. I know in my heart that we're meant to be. It was written in her eyes when I saw her for the first time in person. I love her with everything I am. Please help me get my babygirl back.

And PS - she says she still has feelings for me and likes me, but won't admit it because she doesn't want me assuming we'll get back together. She said she still loves me and I know she does. She's just in bitch mode.

[FreeFall]

We never would have lasted 2 years together if we weren't meant to be.
You could NOT be anymore wrong than this. People get divorced after 30 years of marriage. Do you think they thought they were meant to be after 7 years together?

She's in bitch mode. She's fucking with me. Those are all angry and spiteful, and sound controlling to me. You didn't respect her space, you pushed her farther away. Now you're pissed that the effect of what you caused isn't a result you like?


And fuck the system you're planning to use, do not get it or follow it! Shame on you. That's a manipulation tactic. Anything that tells you "how to get a person who left you back" is manipulation and control. You manipulate the person into liking you again, and by doing that you're controlling them. Almost like an abuser would say, "if only you hadn't made me angry I wouldn't have beat you", that tactic says "you were so wrong to leave me and see how we're so happy together? You silly stupid thing, I knew we were meant to be!"

That NEED thing you're saying, bothers me. To be in a healthy relationship, both need to be able to function without each other. Your ex is not a band-aid or magical potion. She will not fix whatever is wrong, she will not make you happy when she's not there.

You need to be able to stand on your own before you stand with someone. You sound extremely dependent to me and almost to the point of obsession with this girl.

Not to say she isn't at fault. She was so very wrong to ask to stay friends and then blow you off. She is very wrong to not give a reason for her being distant, she gave you hope and then yanked it back, she should have had the courtesy to at least tell you why if she was the one to open that door in the first place.


EDIT: I forgot the advice. Keep doing what you're doing! It's healthy, it's good and it'll make you stronger. If you two get back together it's less creepy to say I've been doing my hobby versus I was moping over you. Let her have the space she deserved and let her do whatever it is she's doing, you're her ex now and an "on the shelf friend" and don't really need to know nor care to a certain extent. Focus on you, build yourself up and just grow as a person.