i want him now that he's leaving!

[mynameisjane]

this is the same guy from the "why does it make me mad" topic. i havent talked to him much because he hangs around the guy from the "how am i suppose to get over him?" topic. so he's a citizen of a country in europe and he has to go back because every 18 year old male citizen has to sign up for the military. he could be gone for a couple weeks, or i may never see him again. so me and our group of friends are going to be hanging around him a lot before he goes. and now that he has to go back and i may never see him again, i suddenly want him really badly. so we're hanging out a lot this weekend, and that means almost non stop hanging out and drinking and having fun. so he's been attracted to me too for a while, but i know it wouldnt be smart to get involved with him at this point in time. so how do i keep myself from doing anything stupid?

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Well it kinda looks like you just want him now because you CAN'T have him! That happens alot, but if he's really gonna be gone for a long time, you should move on (instead of getting hurt really soon when he leaves, all for nothing).

[byee]

You know, you're just somebody who seems to want what they can't have. This seems to happen alot to you. Maybe it's some competitive streak, maybe it's lonliness, who knows. But, you might want to either figure out why you keep having this reaction, or get beyond the feeling so you can see the other person more clearly and actually determine if they're worth missing in the first place.

[mynameisjane]

actually, haha, one of the topics i posted was "i want what i can't have" i guess its true. in the past year, i've wanted 2 guys that already have a girlfriend, a guy who doesnt want a girlfriend, and then this guy. i actually had a sorta boyfriend, but as soon as we were girlfriend/boyfriend, i didnt want to be with him anymore.

i am pretty competative, but i still usually feel guilty for liking them. i am lonely. i have no idea why i am the way i am. i think about it often but decide its just bad luck.

even if i didnt have a crush on him, he's still a good friend and i would still miss him. especially since i spent lunch with him today and he told me he misses me. if i don't hang out with him before he goes, the rest of my friends would hate me for being a bad friend. so i'll have to keep spending time with him. and i really want to spend time with him.

but i keep imagining what it would be like when i say goodbye. i'm going to hug him and give him a kiss on the cheek and tell him to come back in 2 weeks. i'm not good at hiding my feelings but i know it wouldnt be smart to get any closer than i already am, because yeah, i'll end up missing him a lot more for a very long time. but at the same time i want him to know how i feel so badly because i know he likes me too. so idk.

[Gumleaf]

well stopping yourself from doing anything stupid depends on your will power. if you don't think you can control yourself and may do something you could regret later, then i would not see him. if you think you can survive, then go and have some fun, but always remember whatever you do with him that your there to enjoy time together before he leaves and not to hook up.

[mynameisjane]

okay, thank you, i'll remember that.

[Archduke Robert of France]

Did I read that right? "Non-stop drinking?"

You're underage, and I suspect that all your friends are too.

[mynameisjane]

the non-stop was meant for just hanging out, the drinking will only be for a short amount of time. yeah, i know we're underage. but i drink responsibly. i dont drink to get drunk. its just a group of friends hanging out and having a few beers.