*sigh* ._.

[Maxout111]

So ~ I like one of my best friends...

And I'm pretty sure she feels the same...

Whenever I try to bring it up... I just can't, the adrenaline is telling me to just do it... but my mind is telling me... "Don't... It could fuck up your friendship completely..."

My reasons for thinking she likes me; whenever we hang out,
- She talks so me, and tells me stuff, and says I'm the only person she feels comfortable talking too.
- I sat through one of her and my other friends classes, and when my other friend wasn't looking, she laid her head on her desk, reached forward, and began stroking my back with one or two of her fingers..
- Always asks if I'm okay, and makes sure everythings alright.
- Calls me adorable constantly (to our friend)

anyways guys, I really do like her, but I'm scared to risk our friendship... she means so much to me, shes one of the few people, I have let into my hellish life, and she hasn't tried to run...

So my question(s)
- What should I say/do?
- Should I risk it
- If she says no... Would the friendship be awkward afterwards?

I'm going to sleep now... I'm really stressed >.< please leave answers/advice/comments below. <3 Love ya guys. :)

[FreeFall]

Tell her. you risk losing the friendship.

Don't tell her. You risk having had a wonderful relationship with a girl that seems to care about you.


How does she act with other guys? Is she as touchy with them like you? Does she call them adorable? If she's acting completely different with you than other males, and not in a sisterly way, the risk seems worth it to me.

[ackmedsgirl666]

well hello freefall we meet again lol

- What should I say/do- well simple i would just open the convo or talk like you usually would to her and then tell her how you feel. if you have confidence in yourself she probably wont reject you. if she cares about your feelingss she will do anything to make you feel less than awkward

- Should I risk it: sure its what makes relationships stronger. i had to risk it with my bestfriend... i eventually worked around it and shyly told him one day... listen mikey i think i really love you..... i mean really love you and i wanna go out wit you.. course at the time we never really trhought about it plus i was already dating somebody.

- If she says no... Would the friendship be awkward afterwards: it shouldnt be like i stated before if she cares about you she will try and make you feel anything but awkward. if she doesnt agree with it or feel the same then you just move on and pretend it never happened and resume things the way they always were.

[KillerKing]

Okay, If your so scared, you don't neccessarily have to just come out with, 'WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME I LOVE YOU'.

My suggestion would be to ask HER if she likes YOU in THAT WAY. You know what you think of her so find out what she thinks of you. You've mentioned signs of why you think she likes you but again, thats from your point of view.

So, to clarify...

Say/Do: Find out what she thinks of you first.
Same level: Risk it. Not so same level (Pretty much states she just wants to be friends): Don't risk it.

The risk: As you have already said, the risk is losing the friendship but let me reassure as I have found myself, close friends who go out become even closer friends but with an extra special connection. If the relationship should come to an end, as long as you've both been honest throughout it it won't feel horrible after. If you agree to be friends still, you won't be as close but it will have been worth it.

If she says no, it'll be fine. Just let her know that you acknowledge and your a little bit saddend that she doesn't feel the same but reassure her that your still very gratful that she is such a good friend and unless her feelings change, you shall not act upon yours.

I wish you luck.