I Get Depressed Over Him... For No Reason.

[TaylrJ]

I am a 15 year old guy and bisexual. Right now, I am in love with a guy who is 14, and I think he is gay. We are real close together. He has even told me that I am his best friend and that I am the closest one to him. I am not gonna go into detail, but I defiantly think we have a "thing". I haven't told him about me liking him but I am planning on doing it shortly. We talk a lot during school and sometimes hang out after school. We even made plans to go to the movies together but it ended up never happening because he wanted to watch the football game instead. But... I don't know. He could show that he loves me all he wants but if he does the littlest thing it really gets to me. For example, I get depressed or jealous if he spends the weekend with another guy instead of me, if he doesn't text me back, or talks to another guy at school more than me. He shows no one else the love he shows towards me. But for some reason I can't appreciate that. I should be sure that he loves me, as much as he shows it. But I am just so unsure about it between us. Just because of the little stuff he does. Especially because of the not texting me back thing. Lately, it has really been getting in the way and has been bothering me for a while. Could you help me out? Thanks..

[Dangoblin]

Hey TaylrJ, I've read some of your threads, and from what I'm reading, I've kinda been in your position before. First thing first, if you are planning on telling him that you like him, first tell him that you're bi. Tell him that first and give him some time to react to it. If you tell him that you like him first, he might not be able to process everything at once.
Also, coming out is a VERY hard thing, especially when you're gonna tell someone that you care about. My advice, if you do tell him, text him it. I know you probably think that texting it is cowardly, but what if he ends up to be not accepting. When you text it, he has to read everything you have to say. People are curious and theres no way they can avoid reading something like that. Whereas if you told him out loud, he might just cut off what you're saying.

Goodluck! and remember, if he isnt gay or bi, then it's not the end of the world. It may feel like it, but i assure you, your significant other is out there waiting.

[QueenOfTheOutcasts]

You shouldn't let yourself be depressed by anyone. I think of it this way- do you own that person? Does that person own you? No. If you do not own or are owned, you should not be an emotional slave. Just take a minute and let your mind change your mood... It's hard for me to word it really, but this always works for me.

[DerBear]

I don't think you are emotionally ready for a relationship. If you can't stop from getting these feelings. The relationship would become quite unhealthy. I think you need to re-evaluate your feelings for this person and judge if it is love or just a close bond. As these two things can be very similar.

You say he shows you love, yet would blow you off for a football game....when you already had plans and also you say you have your own issues such as j getting upset when he spends time with other people.

I think both of you aren't ready for this relationship, even if he does feel for you in that way it would be best to both stay as friends and then take it from there.

You could also try speaking to him and finding out how he feels about this.