I think he loves me...

[Halcyon]

But I don't know if I love him :( We've spoken for hours over cam and stuff, we've.. done stuff to each other, we get along quite well and we're meeting up on Saturday, but I get the feeling he really likes me. Don't get me wrong, I like him as a friend and find him attractive, it's just I don't think I could be in a relationship with him. I don't want to be too tied down, especially considering the distance and how my last long-distancer ended. I'm fine with meeting up occasionally and being friends with maybe a little friskiness, but I'm not ready for the commitment he wants. Also, there's other boys I like romantically (and that is a whole other story, too complicated for me to explain here). Should I talk to him about it, make things clear? Go along with it and see how things go? Any help would be appreciated...

[ImCoolBeans]

If you aren't comfortable with a relationship or it's not anywhere on your to-do list then don't tie yourself down. Do what's best for you and don't compromise your happiness to appease somebody else. However, with that being said you need be respectful and try not to be too harsh in doing so. Do what you need to do, just keep in mind that he has feelings too. Best of luck!

[TigerBoy]

Like Mike said you have to be careful of his feelings, but you need look out for your own heart too. It would be a lot simpler to avoid sex altogether at first until you've got to know each other and you can set ground rules for the relationship, but that is a lot easier said than done.

Don't feel pressured into telling him things he wants to hear if you aren't feeling them or ready to express them. Honesty and a little pain sooner is better than taking the easy route and then having to back out of it later.

Good luck :) :hug:

[Tiggz]

I'd go with just making things clear to him about what your feelings are if you go with the flow and he does like you then youll be leading him on in a way. So just let him know don't tie yourself down or say things just because he wants to hear them.

[kye.]

But I don't know if I love him :( We've spoken for hours over cam and stuff, we've.. done stuff to each other, we get along quite well and we're meeting up on Saturday, but I get the feeling he really likes me. Don't get me wrong, I like him as a friend and find him attractive, it's just I don't think I could be in a relationship with him. I don't want to be too tied down, especially considering the distance and how my last long-distancer ended. I'm fine with meeting up occasionally and being friends with maybe a little friskiness, but I'm not ready for the commitment he wants. Also, there's other boys I like romantically (and that is a whole other story, too complicated for me to explain here). Should I talk to him about it, make things clear? Go along with it and see how things go? Any help would be appreciated...

Hello again Joe, I'm sorry to hear that your long distance relationship didn't work out :( But I'm glad (don't take it in a bad way) because now you wont have to worry about who was on that other side :) and it makes me feel better :P Anyway, I believe you should really talk to him about it because if you go along with it there is no win win situation and you will feel very uncomfortable and when the break up happens it's not going to be good. But on another note, if you go along with it maybe you can fall in love too so it depends. If I were you, I would just talk to him and let him know about how I feel towards him and if he really likes you, he will accept your feelings and understand. Good luck!

[Magnus Bane]

they're all right in they'er own way... anyway you need to make your feelings clear you just need to tell him the truth... do that and things should be fine... take from a gay teen who wears his heart on his shoulder... I've done that tons of times... you should be OK... best of luck!!!!:cool:

[Halcyon]

Hello again Joe, I'm sorry to hear that your long distance relationship didn't work out :( But I'm glad (don't take it in a bad way) because now you wont have to worry about who was on that other side :) and it makes me feel better :P Anyway, I believe you should really talk to him about it because if you go along with it there is no win win situation and you will feel very uncomfortable and when the break up happens it's not going to be good. But on another note, if you go along with it maybe you can fall in love too so it depends. If I were you, I would just talk to him and let him know about how I feel towards him and if he really likes you, he will accept your feelings and understand. Good luck!


Well, I never said it didn't work out... I'm still meeting up with him, we talked last night. Literally from about 10pm till 5am, it was an interesting call. I basically just said that I didn't want something too serious yet because I don't know if I like him in that way and can't until we actually meet. I also asked if he could tone it down with all the romantic stuff so quickly, as it's a little soon. He said it's okay and he will, but that he still really likes me. So we're still meeting and stuff, but we're going to go a little slower. I'm quite happy because talking to him last night really made me realise how cool he is. Imagine the Doctor (for those of you who watch Doctor Who). He's sort of cute, but clumsy and funny at the same time :wub:

[Harry Smith]

that sounds good man, you did the right thing by talking to him. Now you can just go along at your own pace and find out how you feel about him. The key is something I call 95-5, make sure you're happy 95 percent of the time but let him have the 5 percent just to keep him happy. I'm not saying this in regards to anything sexual, I just mean make sure he is also ok with it. Good luck

[dontfiguremeout]

Dude, don't put yourself in something you don't wanna do. Your just going to have to say you don't want a relationship if HE brings it up to you. If you tell him politely you just wanna be friends, he'll understand.

[kye.]

Well, I never said it didn't work out... I'm still meeting up with him, we talked last night. Literally from about 10pm till 5am, it was an interesting call. I basically just said that I didn't want something too serious yet because I don't know if I like him in that way and can't until we actually meet. I also asked if he could tone it down with all the romantic stuff so quickly, as it's a little soon. He said it's okay and he will, but that he still really likes me. So we're still meeting and stuff, but we're going to go a little slower. I'm quite happy because talking to him last night really made me realise how cool he is. Imagine the Doctor (for those of you who watch Doctor Who). He's sort of cute, but clumsy and funny at the same time :wub:

Sorry for misunderstanding, but hopefully everything will go the way you want so both can be happy :) It would really be great :D

[Halcyon]

Update: We met up, watched Skyfall, had lots of fun. We get along SO well and we were basically kissing the whole day. Amazing, really.

[TigerBoy]

Update: We met up, watched Skyfall, had lots of fun. We get along SO well and we were basically kissing the whole day. Amazing, really.

Wohoo! Excellent news. Good luck from here then!

[Apollo.]

Update: We met up, watched Skyfall, had lots of fun. We get along SO well and we were basically kissing the whole day. Amazing, really.

Really happy for you man, I hope everything works out for you guys!:D