Ladies, I need your help.

[BorderlineGenius]

Hey, I'm... Well, lets just go with T. I have a problem. Recently, I found out from a friend that two of my other friends, both of whom are girls, and one is a girl whom I am utterly in love with, Don't like hanging out with me because I am "awkwardly silent". :what: Now, I can sorta see what they mean. When I'm around this girl I like, I turn into Raj from the Big Bang Theory. It takes a great deal of work for me to speak, and also they're always talking to my friend who told me about things they've all done together, because they have all been friends longer. Also this friend likes the same girl I do (Who is one of the girls that finds me awkwardly silent.) I am not mad that they find me awkward. That only depresses me. What makes me mad is that they did not tell me so I could attempt to fix it. They used to find me polite and enjoyed hanging out with me. Now I don't even know. This problem depresses me greatly and I do not know how to deal with it. Should I confront them about it, or what? Any advice is greatly appreciated...:(

[InfamousPanda]

I wouldn't confront them. Yea it does suck that they didn't tell you, but now that we know about the problem we should just try and fix it

[Shady-Elite]

dude that sucks, had a similar situation a couple of years ago.
it got worse when my best friend started dating her. but we became friends in the end which was alright i guess.

[RockObsessed]

Well I hope I'm going to be at least SOME help...

What I think you need to do, is just be yourself. Yes, I know you've probably heard it a million times before but trust me, it really works. Just be yourself and loosen up. I do realize that you're probably shy and your socialness (???) just goes away when you're with your friends but you have to learn to overcome that. Crack a joke, have a laugh, and act casual. Treat your crush like she's just another one of your friends except do subtle things like casual flirting or something to show her that you have interest in her.

Now if you think that they're acting like assholes (excuse my language), then you really shouldn't hang out with them. But if you really want to save the friendship, I suggest casually bringing up the subject.

Really hope this helped a bit... Good luck and PM me if you need more help! :)

[BorderlineGenius]

Thank You very much. I was gonna try that first thing monday.

[Nolf]

Yeah what she said (sorry im male,). try and loosen up, youll have to face your fears. You may be being quiet because you are afraid of them judging you on what you say, but chances are itll turn out fine and shes already judging you on what you didnt say. When it comes to awkwardness ive been there man, im a weird combo of introversion and extroversion and people have definitely thought me silent before. You jut need to open up

[Taryn98]

Use what you know to improve yourself. If they think you're quiet or awkward, consider that a welcome challenge to break out of your shell. Don't try to be who they want necessarily but as others have said, be yourself, but try to be more open and outgoing as well. You don't have to change overnight, but slowly open up and be more engaging. Good luck.

[StoppingTime]

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