I Need Advice

[themacthemac139]

Ok this might be a long post. So I might as well start off with saying that I am a self proclaimed "nerd" or "geek". I don't have much of a social life or anything. I am a male sophomore in high school. So last year I met a girl who was very attractive and also a nerd. She was more of a anime nerd while I'm more of a science/video game nerd. So last year I talked with her on Facebook and in person. I learned that she is a lesbian. I have nothing against her personal choice but due to the fact that she stated that she is a lesbian, I kind of gave up on the idea of trying to ask her out and just tried to be her friend. Later on, this year, I opened up and told her that I gave up on trying to ask her out and just wanted to be her friend. I still have feelings for this girl but I just can't get to asking her out. I don't really know how. Since I have a secluded social life I don't know how to deal with girls. Later on this girl asked me relationship advice for a girl she liked. She even bragged about kissing some girls over the summer. I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. Do I go after her, or give it up. And if I do go after her, how? I'm very confused and so I would appreciate advice. Thanks.

[West Coast Sheriff]

You really can't change someone's sexuality. I'm sorry but that's just the way it works. I suggest you move on but don't worry, the two of you can still be friends. :D

[FreeFall]

Give up.

She's a lesbian. She sounds firm and confident in it and seems to treasure you as a friend, so value that relationship. You're into girls, so is she. She's made it clear to you she does not like you in the same way she likes girls, please respect that for her. It's uncomfortable when people you aren't into are trying very hard to get a date with you, just take a step back, breathe and say "we are friends, that's all we'll ever be". You'll find another, don't worry (:

[Pierce]

No my friend, don't chase her. If she is 100% positive about being a lesbian just let her be. I understand it might be hard for you to just give up on dating her since you feel like you really click with her, but she might be as good as a friend as she would be as a partner (maybe even better). Good Luck!

[themacthemac139]

Thanks for the advice.

[RaXoR]

Ok so I have a bit of advice for you on coming out of the so called "shell" as I was there where you are... First of all make friends, I know it's hard and all but there are people that are interested in stuff that you are interested in. Second, just let yourself go; don't worry about what others think because trust me, confidence is key in everything and will get you far my dear friend. Now I started out in a shell because I moved to the US about 5 years ago and it was a slow process but by the time I was a senior in HS I was outgoing and knew almost everyone in the school... heck ppl still ask about me even though I'm in college and they're 11th and 12th graders lol. But yeah pretty much share your opinions and accept other's and just let yourself be yourself around others without shame. You will get the hang of it and you'll see that once you get a bit older you'll experience these changes. In a psychological test I received in a college class I scored as a slight in the introvert vs. extrovert category, meaning that I lean both ways depending on the situation.

Also on the main subject. Just let her go bro, I've been there, done that and trust me it's too much pain to bare. Just ask her if she has any cute straight friends that would go out with you :)

[themacthemac139]

Thanks. I have noticed either I am fitting in more, or society accepts geeks a bit more. Maybe a bit of both.

[GoldenSnitch]

Damn... that sucks. You two can stol be friends though... sorry man.