Virginity

[jtk339]

Hi guys i am posting this here because i only want male opinions. Basically me and a really good friend (female) have not been in relationships in a while, we are both of legal age and shes lost her virginity and i have not.
We have been joking about having sex for a while and decided yeh why not we are good friends. SO what is the problem?!?!

What if i meet someone in a few months same age and a virgin and i really like her and we take it slow but when the time comes to sex it wont be as special as i would of lost my virginity?

But what if with the same scenario and she had had sex once before and i have not it would not matter and i would not last as long ?

Does any of this really matter? what would you do?
Thanks Guys!!

[NZteen]

Boys cannot "loose their virginity" they don't have a hymen or "cherry" like girls do. So just go for it. I don't think any of it matters, if you and your friend are comfortable with it then if i was you i'd just do it.

[Drew5]

Don't worry you won't

[BrassMonkey]

Well, I think of loosing your virginity as having sex for the first time, which makes you no longer a virgin. To be honest, I wouldn't just have sex with some one who is a friend or whatever closeness of a relationship she is, unless you two was going out and was serious about a relationship. Just to throw this out there, Im not the kind of person to have sex before marriage, so I def. wouldnt do it. If I were you, I would save my virginity for that someone special who you will meet someday. I know that sounds a little cheesy, but as you said, It wouldn't make having sex with that someone special actually special if you have already had sex with someone just because you were legal or you were good friends with someone. So, I wouldnt do it if I were you.

[sdude]

Virginity is just an excuse you haven't gotten laid yet...if you get the chance, take it. The more comfortable you get with being with someone sexually gives you confidence to help someone not as experienced deal with trying it....just try not to make it weird with your friend...particularly if one of you decides it really IS a one-time thing!

[Swagging god]

Well it sounds to me like your having second thoughts. If this someone you truly care for and she cares for u then go for it. Ultimately think about it this way, do u think if u loose your virginity to this girl will u regret it? That is what u need to ask yourself and decide. If u have any more questions feel free to private message me, I'm very easy to talk to and don't cast judgement on anyone as for your worry about lasting as long really u last longer as time goes by.

[Allain1996]

Boys cannot "loose their virginity" they don't have a hymen or "cherry" like girls do.

That makes absoloutly no sense!
Just because guys don't have hymens, doesn't mean we don't lose our virginity when we have sex for the first time.
Everybody, regardless of gender, is born with a virginity and then they lose it when they have sex with somebody (besides their hand :lol:).

As for the OP's question, you make perfect sense from all sides bro. All your "senarios" are perfectly logical, but that doesn't mean that they will ever happen. I think that you should wait till you find a girl that you are in a committed long term relationship with and truly love, before you lose your virginity. That's just me though. You should go with whatever you think is right bro!!

[justinglives]

**agree w bryce

[jtk339]

thanks guys will think about it and will consider any other comments

[Wisconsin]

Personally, I wouldn't have sex with someone unless I was serious about being with them for a long time. I also fully believe in sex BEFORE marriage. At least then I know we'll have some good times in bed after we are married lol but anyway! As for the male virginity. Men don't have the same "type" of virginity as females because you can't physically tell if a man has had sex with someone. You can tell with a woman with a simple check-up. If her hymen is broken then she is no virgin. Unless his dick was reeeeeeally tiny xD lol

[bbh6496]

I would agree with Bryce. The first time is special and I would recommend waiting for someone special.

[Lost in the Echo]

Boys cannot "loose their virginity" they don't have a hymen or "cherry" like girls do. So just go for it. I don't think any of it matters, if you and your friend are comfortable with it then if i was you i'd just do it.

I don't think you have any idea what you're talking about. Yes when a girl loses her "cherry" during sexual intercourse, then she is no longer a virgin. For a guy though, when he first puts his penis in a vagina, then he is no longer a virgin. That is how it works.

For the OP, if you guys are both comfortable with it, then I don't see a reason why you shouldn't.

[Sean4U]

I don't think you have any idea what you're talking about. Yes when a girl loses her "cherry" during sexual intercourse, then she is no longer a virgin. For a guy though, when he first puts his penis in a vagina, then he is no longer a virgin. That is how it works.

For the OP, if you guys are both comfortable with it, then I don't see a reason why you shouldn't.

Bo and others that mentioned about males loosing virginity are correct...boys DO loose their virginity the first time that they penetrate another ...whether that be vaginal or anal sex....and yes, for the OP if you are comfortable with it ...both of you, then there is no reason not to ...but even in your own post you don't seem comfortable with the idea because you have all those conerens you brought up...so until those are resolved...I would wait...

[Benm]

for boys virginity isn't a physical/tangible thing, but I would recommend waiting for someone you actually care for

[uberwhal3]

If you like her just go for it.
Unless she has herpes.

[dontfiguremeout]

So your just going to loose your virginity to your best friend because everyone because of peer pressure? How bout loose it when your in love with a girl and in an actual relationship! That's the smart thing to do! Just don't do something you will regret forever!

[West Coast Sheriff]

I think you should wait till you find true love. It's something special that you shouldn't lose unless you really have reason to. Just my two cents. :D

[TDB95]

Just because someone isnt your first doesnt mean that your first time with them still cant be special cause but i still dont think you should rushh into anything unless you feel your ready