How to tell your friend how you truely feel?

[Wheatley]

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[xStar64]

I somewhat know how you feel. Based on what you have told, my conclusion is...
I don't know. This is something I've never heard before. Man this frustrates me. (I'm always right LOL)

I need some more info on you and him. Like; do you want to date him? Do you feel also weird around him?
Sorry I couldn't answer now but don't give up! I'll keep trying.
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[Wheatley]

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[xStar64]

I say that you throw caution to the wind and tell him how you feel. Say "heck with weirdness" and stand tall.
Maybe he found someone. Did you consider that? What if he is in a relationship and needs space? Prohaps he has issues with something and needs help. Just ask questions and be the Best Friend / Annoying But Right person he needs.

Good Luck.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmmm, tough situation to be in right now. I know how you feel! I have dealt with liars, and I have dealt with friends wanting to get rid of me (I know you didn't say he wants to get rid of you, but it's almost like your situation) All I can say is, you really need to move forward. I didn't realize it at first, and everyone kept telling me to move forward, but I always thought there was hope in the person. Ended up getting hurt by the dude more than I thought I would have for not letting go of him, and moving forward when I should have! Honestly he's going to keep lying to you, and he's going to be acting the same way the whole time. All you really can do is hope for the best of him. And sorry your having more feelings for him, but I think the more feelings you'll have for him, the harder and more hurtful this situation is. You may think what I am saying us jumbo, and you will think I am saying the wrong things, and there is hope for the dude. Trust me, I denied many people when I was in your situation, so I completely understand if you don't like what I'm saying. But just remember that some people like me, who actually had to go through this, took the hard path, and at the end realized everyone was telling them the right move! So it's all your choice bud! I wish you luck in this situation!

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[crowdlost]

Ok, here's the thing buddy. I went through the EXACT some thing. I even made 2 topics about it here on this site LOL. But it was because I was honestly so freakin' tired of my friend and the way he was treating me.

I feel like, on some level, you are too.

So I stopped talking to him. Just like that. I would not initiate conversation with him, would not text or call or go to his house. He picked up on it eventually and now we're greater friends than we ever were. You need to make your friends realize what you mean to him. To me, it sounds like he doesn't know just how much you're worth. And it's very important in any kind of relationship (or friendship, whatever) for both sides to understand what it would be like to NOT have the other person in their life.

So do that. Try it. Don't talk to him unless he initiates first. And when he does, be "normal" not cold or distant.

I really hope I helped and if you ever EVER need anything, PM me! I'm ready to talk at ANY time, honestly! Good luck bro.

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[Axw_JD]

I have kind of been on both sides of this situation -pretty much at the same time- and I can say I understand what you are going through and even though I don't have all the information about your friend, well, maybe I can help with understanding what he might feel...

I have never really had many close friends if at all... my "best friends" in high school bullied me non-stop so up until recently I never really had a best friend, and I have come to realize how unwilling I am of completely opening up... it isn't on purpose, and while not on purpose, I could definitely see me saying something along the lines of what your friend said regarding knowing about your personal life... for me, it isn't so much history repeating itself and being bullied again as it is him feeling like I am forcing him to be close or feel pity for me... the result, only small tidbits about my life trickle every now and then.

If you could have a face to face meeting where you could completely open up to him I am sure it would help. To let him know that what happened in his past and what those people did is not gonna happen, that you aren't like them and that you truly care about him. I'm sure that could help.

Also, I will play devil's advocate and say that if he and his family are going to your event it means something: he really does care about whats going on in your file. Why else would he be there? When people don't care about someone else's life they don't show up to an important celebration like that. When he said that, he probably didn't mean it, or meant something different.

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[FergusDunn]

seems good you have moved on a bit -

But some people are just like that with everyone as long as they are getting what they want - its all ok - then shift to another rsource.

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[crowdlost]

Wow, okay, I have so much to say so I'll try to be brief. (I've already posted before, by the way and just got the chance to read your reply)

So here's the thing. You're confused. I think it's fair to admit that. In one post, you said you feel better and that you're ignoring him and that you think the friendship is over. Then in another one, there we are again hurting again, aren't we? Story of my life.

Truth is, this guy will never stop hurting you. Just like MY best friend. You need to realize that he will always do things to irritate you and annoy you and hurt you. But guess what? Everyone in your life is going to do that to you at one point.

The way I see it, this guys IS your best friend and this guy DOES really care about you a whole lot. You just need to stop obsessing about it so much, like saying that he's only called you once on Skype so far. So what? He DID call though, didn't he?

You need to take things slightly slow. Show him that you care without smothering him. Be there when he wants you to (he asks you to do something for him, if you're not busy DO IT.) I understand that you were just trying to do to him what he's done to you in the past. But you need to LET THAT PART OF YOU GO. You need to move on, and accept that the things he's done to you are things that he DID. There were YOUR choices too, and you need to live with that not by giving him a taste of his own medicine, but by showing him that you are the bigger person here and that you are always there for him when he needs you.

He will pick up on that. Trust me.

I hope I was helpful :D