I'm a straight girl and I think the guy I used to like is actually gay :S

[Dawn01]

Really, THAT GUY IS SURELY NOT LIKE THE OTHER GUYS I'M USED TO DEAL WITH! We had an unstable friends/lovers kind of relationship, and it end up with him saying that we maybe we can't even be friends anymore :(

He friendzoned me at first, but I insisted since I was in love with him, but it end up badly... I think he is gay because he just doesn't seem to be into dating girls, I mean, some of his other friends told me that they always had thought that he was gay... MY MOTHER ALSO THINKS HE IS GAY, I TOLD THIS STORY TO MY PSYCHIATRIST AND HE SAID THAT HE COULD BE GAY, AND I ONCE GOT AN ANONYMOUS MESSAGE ON TUMBLR SAYING THAT HE WAS GAY. A LOT OF PEOPLE TOLD ME THAT HE IS GAY, A LOT!! :what:

He is a handsome guy, he can have almost every girl that he wants, many girls seem to like him, but he doesn't share much interest in any of then. Plus, he has A LOT of female friends, more than male friends... I know he had dated other girls in the past, but it's said that all thouse relationships were very unstable, just like my relationship with him. He doesn't treat girls very nicely!

I don't know, but could him be really gay? Is it too crazy that I was probabily in love with a gay guy?! I try to understand some of his attitudes, and he being gay would explain many of them O_O He was sometimes really insensible to me :/

[xStar64]

Well it is one explination. However liking a gay guy doesn't make you "crazy", it makes you normal. Many people are best friends with the opposite gender. Plus the element of sex withdrawn, you feel more comfortable. Perhaps you would benifit more directly if you just straight-up ask.

BTW This may sound weird but could you provie the info about him as followed?↓
1.Hair color:
2.Hair length:
3. Eye color: (very important)
4. Age:
5. Name: (if comfortable)

[Apollo.]

He sounds like me if I'm honest only thing is I always treat girls really well even if I don't have feelings for them. I dated a few girls when I was trying to deny to myself I was gay, I also friend zoned a girl that really liked me when I admitted to myself I was gay. Only thing you could do is ask really. If you were close he might feel comfortable telling you.

If he is gay and he hasn't told anyone that could explain why he isn't a very nice person at the moment, I know when I hadn't told anyone I was gay I was always pretty down about it and I had a short temper. I'm not saying he is gay it just sounds like I was before I admitted to myself I was gay.

[Dawn01]

BTW This may sound weird but could you provie the info about him as followed?↓
1.Hair color:
2.Hair length:
3. Eye color: (very important)
4. Age:
5. Name: (if comfortable)

:what: LOL, ok

1.Hair color: Light Brown, or dark blond, I don't know
2.Hair length: short
3. Eye color: Brown/ a bit hazelish (he once said that he used to wear green lens in the past... lol, but I don't think this is gay, it's just a bit odd)
4. Age: 17 (the same as mine)
5. Name: I'm not confortable to say, sorry :/

He sounds like me if I'm honest only thing is I always treat girls really well even if I don't have feelings for them. I dated a few girls when I was trying to deny to myself I was gay, I also friend zoned a girl that really liked me when I admitted to myself I was gay. Only thing you could do is ask really. If you were close he might feel comfortable telling you.

If he is gay and he hasn't told anyone that could explain why he isn't a very nice person at the moment, I know when I hadn't told anyone I was gay I was always pretty down about it and I had a short temper. I'm not saying he is gay it just sounds like I was before I admitted to myself I was gay.

I don't know if I can ask this now, but maybe one day...

Really, or he is gay, or his TOTALLY INSANE! These are the only things that would make his attitudes make sense.

I'm not an ugly girl, I'm a dancer and because of this have a very fit body and there's nothing really wrong with my face... Other boys have told me that I was VERY ATRACTIVE, but I don't know, I'm just not hideous at all! Many people told me they thought he was gay because they couldn't understand why he didn't give me a chance... When we kissed, I WAS THE ONE WHO MADE THE FIRST MOVE, and then the huge confusion started :(

I think that I'll have to wait to be friends again with him, and maybe just move on in the meantime...

I hope next time I'll have more lucky, I've been a bit unlucky at love all this time :/ That's make me so sad!

[Dawn01]

This guy is making me live hell on Earth, for real :( He seems to do the same things to all the girls, it's just so weird! But maybe he is living hell on Earth too, I mean, maybe he is inside the closet if he is gay, maybe he is suffering a big conflict, it would make a lot of sense... I just wounder what's is in his mind now :/

[Pierce]

Well it is one explination. However liking a gay guy doesn't make you "crazy", it makes you normal. Many people are best friends with the opposite gender. Plus the element of sex withdrawn, you feel more comfortable. Perhaps you would benifit more directly if you just straight-up ask.

BTW This may sound weird but could you provie the info about him as followed?↓
1.Hair color:
2.Hair length:
3. Eye color: (very important)
4. Age:
5. Name: (if comfortable)

I agree with the first part but the second part is totally unaccurate. You can not tell if someone is gay by asking those quesions. Eye color is not important at all, so i don't know why you labled it as very important?

[Skyhawk]

1.Hair color:
2.Hair length:
3. Eye color: (very important)
4. Age:
5. Name: (if comfortable)

Dafuq? You can't judge someone's sexuality by one's physical attributes. You can guess and may get lucky ("So he IS gay, I knew it!"), but make a wrong guess and that'll be one awkward moment. :\

Dawn, if he's driving you crazy then why don't you try not to think about him? :) I understand what it feels like to be in love with someone who doesn't share the same sexuality as you, and I know, it sucks. Does it really matter to you whether or not he's gay? Maybe he is and would prefer it to be kept private.

My personal attitude towards people knowing my sexuality are if they're interested in me. :3 (Not interested? Well, you don't need to know, then. ;))

My $0.02.

Sorry if I sound a little harsh, I'm having a brutally honest day. :X

[ArsenicCatNip]

Has he actually ever told anyone he's gay? People used to say that about me all the time because I wasn't interested in talking about my love life. Furthermore how would some random person on Tumblr who has no idea who this person is aside from the story you're telling them know anything? Until he spills the beans or you see him dating other guys you may never know.

Some people are just bad at choosing who they want to date, that's probably why he described it as unstable. Aside from rumors is there anything else to which you would assume he's gay?

[lol1234567890]

Really, THAT GUY IS SURELY NOT LIKE THE OTHER GUYS I'M USED TO DEAL WITH! We had an unstable friends/lovers kind of relationship, and it end up with him saying that we maybe we can't even be friends anymore :(

He friendzoned me at first, but I insisted since I was in love with him, but it end up badly... I think he is gay because he just doesn't seem to be into dating girls, I mean, some of his other friends told me that they always had thought that he was gay... MY MOTHER ALSO THINKS HE IS GAY, I TOLD THIS STORY TO MY PSYCHIATRIST AND HE SAID THAT HE COULD BE GAY, AND I ONCE GOT AN ANONYMOUS MESSAGE ON TUMBLR SAYING THAT HE WAS GAY. A LOT OF PEOPLE TOLD ME THAT HE IS GAY, A LOT!! :what:

He is a handsome guy, he can have almost every girl that he wants, many girls seem to like him, but he doesn't share much interest in any of then. Plus, he has A LOT of female friends, more than male friends... I know he had dated other girls in the past, but it's said that all thouse relationships were very unstable, just like my relationship with him. He doesn't treat girls very nicely!

I don't know, but could him be really gay? Is it too crazy that I was probabily in love with a gay guy?! I try to understand some of his attitudes, and he being gay would explain many of them O_O He was sometimes really insensible to me :/

I think he's not gay. Ask him directly instead.
Lots and lots of girls liked me but I didn't take advantage or fling w/ them because I respect girls a lot. And maybe I'm just waiting for the one. Maybe destiny/fate will do it. For now, I'm focused w/ my goals because relationship w/ the opposite sex can wait. :)

[Halcyon]

He sounds gay to be honest, but you could try talking to him to find out for certain.

And also, don't do anything to dramatic if he is, like saying you still love him or something. One of my girl friends was crushing on me majorly a few months ago and it was really uncomfortable for me to be around her, knowing that. When I came out it was just plain awkward between us and we barely even speak anymore.

[Dawn01]

Has he actually ever told anyone he's gay? People used to say that about me all the time because I wasn't interested in talking about my love life. Furthermore how would some random person on Tumblr who has no idea who this person is aside from the story you're telling them know anything? Until he spills the beans or you see him dating other guys you may never know.

Some people are just bad at choosing who they want to date, that's probably why he described it as unstable. Aside from rumors is there anything else to which you would assume he's gay?

The anonymous guy is probabily someone who knows me, because I used to post the link of my tumblr on facebook... Let me tell you the complete story:

Anonymous: You are so damn beautiful! But after reading your tumblr, it seems that you're in love with someone... Are you? Do you have a boyfriend?

Me: No, I don't have a boyfriend, but yes, I think I'm in love with someone... I don't know if he likes me back though

Anonymous (other message): Man, if he doesn't like you back, he is surely a gay and I'll kill him!! You are just lovely and VERY HOT, and I'll kill him if he makes you sad!

Me: What?! Do I know you?! HOLY, you just made me blush!! Thanks...? Really, who are you? *-*

Anonymous (last message): Yes, you know me, but I don't think you can guess who I am... If you pay attention, you'll discover.

Me: HOLY, I DON'T HAVE ANY IDEIA WHO COULD BE YOU!! Can you please tell me?! Now I'm curious!

(I still don't know who was him :/ and I don't have a tumblr anymore, so it was something like this that I could remember, and it wasn't in english because it's not my mother language)

Besides the anonymous, MANY other people told me that they thought he was gay...

Once two of his other female friends asked me why we weren't sitting together in the class (we were doing a course together) and I said it was because I was sat very close to the board, and then they started to laugh and they said "Sorry, but we've always thought that he was gay"

:confused:

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I think he's not gay. Ask him directly instead.
Lots and lots of girls liked me but I didn't take advantage or fling w/ them because I respect girls a lot. And maybe I'm just waiting for the one. Maybe destiny/fate will do it. For now, I'm focused w/ my goals because relationship w/ the opposite sex can wait. :)

Yeah, I thought this could be his case too! But I really don't know, and I don't think I can ask him directly now... There's surely something really different about him!

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He sounds gay to be honest, but you could try talking to him to find out for certain.

And also, don't do anything to dramatic if he is, like saying you still love him or something. One of my girl friends was crushing on me majorly a few months ago and it was really uncomfortable for me to be around her, knowing that. When I came out it was just plain awkward between us and we barely even speak anymore.

Oh :(

I do my best to not let this happen between us, wheter he is gay or not!


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By the way, in the last time we talked, he said he was with another person... He didn't said if it was a girl or a boy, he just said "person". And it's odd because we wasn't acting like he had someone at all, he just told me by text after we kissed that he couldn't be with me, and then some days later he said he has another person...


We were very close friends and I feel like I just know nothing about him :cry: IT'S JUST SO WEIRD!!

[lol1234567890]

By the way, in the last time we talked, he said he was with another person... He didn't said if it was a girl or a boy, he just said "person". And it's odd because we wasn't acting like he had someone at all, he just told me by text after we kissed that he couldn't be with me, and then some days later he said he has another person...


We were very close friends and I feel like I just know nothing about him :cry: IT'S JUST SO WEIRD!!

Maybe it will take time. Someday you'll know if he's gay or not. Just be patient waiting for the real one that will love you the most. Change your perspective and focus on better things.
Sorry I'm kinda dramatic. As they say, filipinos are so melodramatic. Thats all what I can say! :D

[Dawn01]

You are right, Justinuy!

MAN, I just remembered that in the begin of the year he came talk to me asking to give him some time, like, FOR NO APPARENT REASON! I asked why he was doing it and he said he wanted to be a little far from me, to organize things in his mind... :what: And then we started to have a lot of arguments, I thought it was one of his friends that was puting things in his mind, saying bad things about me! He denied it many times... Well, I now I think that maybe he was questioning his sexuality that time '-'

Really, or he is gay, or he just insane as a fuck :/ We were CLOSE FRIENDS, how could I feel like I never really knew him?! He was very nice to me most of the time but sometimes he just begged to be hated so much, like he is doing now ¬¬