promise i cant keep

[that-god-chick]

so long story short i went out with my youth leader yesterday, and she said alot of stuff about my self harm and depression. then put in the postion where i had to pinky promise her that i would stop self harming well atleast try to. i ended up making the promise so she would drop the subject now she has told my best friend and now im not to sure that i want to stop nothing works as good as that. but she told me she is going to be checking i hate lying to her and i feel so bad for breaking the promise but i dont know what to do...

[Gazmo]

explain that you cant just stop like that, but you can promise to try and stop becuase thats all you can do right now.. she'll understand i hope xxxx

[Noirtier]

Hun, I know how hard it is. I've struggled with self harm for a while now. It's hard to stop--I know what it feels like when it seems as though it's the only way that helps. In the end, it's only damaging to you though. Your friends care about you a lot. Talk to your friend, and make sure she knows how hard it is, and that it's an addiction. That you probably will fail and give in, but for them you will do your best to try. Even if you can't attempt it for yourself, attempt it for them. That's what I did and how I started to finally get out of the cycle... We're all here to support you and help you. If you ever need to talk, feel free to contact me! :hug:

[that-god-chick]

Hun, I know how hard it is. I've struggled with self harm for a while now. It's hard to stop--I know what it feels like when it seems as though it's the only way that helps. In the end, it's only damaging to you though. Your friends care about you a lot. Talk to your friend, and make sure she knows how hard it is, and that it's an addiction. That you probably will fail and give in, but for them you will do your best to try. Even if you can't attempt it for yourself, attempt it for them. That's what I did and how I started to finally get out of the cycle... We're all here to support you and help you. If you ever need to talk, feel free to contact me! :hug:

explain that you cant just stop like that, but you can promise to try and stop becuase thats all you can do right now.. she'll understand i hope xxxx

thata the thing she use to self harm herself so she should know better than anyone elase how hard it is to stop

[LizzardRAAWR]

I've made tons of promises like that for years, I've never kept any if them and I always feel bad afterwards, now I just tell people that I can't make the promise. you can't just stop this overnight, it will take weeks, maybe months. I tell them I'll get there someday. But not now. It's hard for others to understand cos they don't do it, the best way to explain is that it is an addiction and you need time to heal.

[ackmedsgirl666]

tell her as much as shes concerned its like your drug.. your self soothing method
even though its not the best one out there
infact one of the worst
you should consider getting some extra help on the side. someone who would understand you better and be able to relate to you.

[that-god-chick]

I've made tons of promises like that for years, I've never kept any if them and I always feel bad afterwards, now I just tell people that I can't make the promise. you can't just stop this overnight, it will take weeks, maybe months. I tell them I'll get there someday. But not now. It's hard for others to understand cos they don't do it, the best way to explain is that it is an addiction and you need time to heal.

i dont get it but she use to be addicted to self harm she should know what its like... but doesnt matter now im just gonna tell her that iv stoped so that way no one gets hurt

[QueenOfTheOutcasts]

I would explain to her face to face how I feel... It's about a hundred times better than her finding out by other circumstances. Try figuring out something better like 'Call or text her before you do it so she can talk you down' or something. It may help.

[that-god-chick]

I would explain to her face to face how I feel... It's about a hundred times better than her finding out by other circumstances. Try figuring out something better like 'Call or text her before you do it so she can talk you down' or something. It may help.

she said i can fb inbox her whenever i feel like doing it and she will help and try and talk me down but it just feels so awkard to do it so i dont

[dusman77]

Tell her you can't just stop, but slowly try to stop. Take baby steps. And take her advice and inbox her.