A question for everyone

[Skezra]

So I'm not asking for advice so I hope this thread is still in the right section. Anyway,

Everyone feels pain, regardless of the choices we make, it's a part of life. My question for you is, how open are you about your pain?
We all have different ways to deal with it, some of us just take walks, some listen to music, some just post depressing posts on the internet, all of them are legitimate ways to deal with it, and nothing to be ashamed of. But what I wonder is, do you prefer dealing with your pain with someone by your side, are you open about it to your friends? Or do you prefer do deal with it alone? Closing yourself in your room, listening to music and coming out when you're calmer.

And I'm not asking if you actually deal with your pain alone or with others, I'm asking if you prefer to deal with it alone or with someone.

So, how do you deal with your pain?

[Desuetude]

Personally I find it a lot easier alone. If I'm around people then I have to put up a facade, it makes me feel uncomfortable talking out loud about emotions and what I'm feeling. Shutting myself in my room and turning the volume of my music up high is how I've always remembered dealing with things best. Reading and self harm have had a part to play in dealing with pain as well. It's easier to calm myself down because others just get me more worked up and irritated.

Online however it's different, sometimes it's nice for someone to be able to actually understand what I'm feeling, especially people I've gotten close to and know more about me than any person in real life. I've become more open with 3 of my closest friends in real life but I feel only one understands since she is experiencing a lot more than me. I find it hard to reach out when I know I should though, so alone is always the path I take.

[Elysium]

I deal with pain alone because I never want to be a burden to anyone else, especially because more often than not there's actually nothing really wrong. If my pain doesn't make sense to me, it won't make sense to anyone else, and nobody would be able to help, anyway. Besides, I don't want anyone needlessly worrying about me just because I'm being dramatic over nothing. I also don't actually have anyone nearby to cry to since I make a very strong effort to avoid crying in front of other people.

As for how I deal with it, I usually just close my computer and cry into my pillow until the pain ebbs. I also read or sleep, if I can. Depending on the severity, sometimes I'll post online when I feel like shit as an outlet of sorts, but I prefer to avoid that since I hate looking back on it afterwards. Especially because if someone asks me, "what's wrong?" I don't really have an answer for them.

[SilentCutter]

I prefer to deal with my pain by myself. Everytime I try to talk to someone, I always get the feeling like I'm bothering them. Like they're telling themselves, "ugh! Here we go again >:/ why won't she leave me alone?!" And I don't want to a burden on anyone. So I just rather deal with it on my own. That way I'm not pressured into saying something I don't want to or have to put on a fake smile and say I'm ok when I'm really not.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Definately alone. I'm not going to go into some long speech about this but basically I don't want other people to help.

[Φρανκομβριτ]

I keep everything to myself. If some asks me directly about something, I will answer honnestly, fully and completely.

[Fallen Angels]

I keep it to myself mostly... but I'd love to talk to someone. Occasionally, I talk to my best friend about it. People never ask, so I keep it locked up. I do open up online though. I've pretty much turned emo lol :P I sometimes write poems, and I listen to music everyday. It helps a lot.

[Lost in the Echo]

Usually I just keep it to myself when i'm stressed or depressed, i've just always felt more comfortable doing that instead of telling someone about it.

[Mikedamaniak]

I'm really not open to discussing pain. There are lots of things iv'e been planning to post here on VT but haven't.

[Haydenn3]

yes i keep everything to myself anger depression grief and all the bad stuff only rarely i will just get so bad that everything comes out to my very good bestfriend whom is a girl :D