Labels labels labels

[nice]

People on here all the time say don't try to label youref it doesn't matter or you like what you like.

How do you guys say that like you have never stressed over what you are or something you may be its something that truely could affect your life in the future.

I think I'd rather be labeled now and find out I'm wrong then sit here not knowing what or who I am.

Uggh it's just one of those things that I would like to know for myself.

[Manjusri]

But why do you need to know?

If you're accepting of all sexual orientations, does it matter what yours is? Like who you like, and dislike who you don't like.

Worrying about it is only going to cause unnecessary stress and confusion.

[nice]

But why do you need to know?

If you're accepting of all sexual orientations, does it matter what yours is? Like who you like, and dislike who you don't like.

Worrying about it is only going to cause unnecessary stress and confusion.


Maybe it's just me but I'd rather be confuse than not know at all

[Jasey]

There's a lot of stuff in the world you will never understand fully, or you probably wont understand right away, like said. It may cause very much unneeded stress to try and wrap your head around it quickly! After all, your life is just beginning, some people just know and others find out. Such is life my friend, take it slow and easy while you can.

[Noirtier]

I can say I have been where you are in the past, but now I see the other side of it. There's no need to really label yourself right now, especially at a young age. Just take it easy and find out who you are. A label, in all reality, doesn't really mean anything and isn't important. You should take this time to discover for yourself who you are and who you like and don't like. Don't worry about this label or that label for now. Once you've discovered who you are, then you can--if you really want to--label yourself. But there's no real need to either way. You are who you are, and there's no need to label yourself. Just be yourself and don't worry about slapping a label on.

[nice]

I guess that kinda makes sense it's just weird I guess.

[nick]

I can say I have been where you are in the past, but now I see the other side of it. There's no need to really label yourself right now, especially at a young age. Just take it easy and find out who you are. A label, in all reality, doesn't really mean anything and isn't important. You should take this time to discover for yourself who you are and who you like and don't like. Don't worry about this label or that label for now. Once you've discovered who you are, then you can--if you really want to--label yourself. But there's no real need to either way. You are who you are, and there's no need to label yourself. Just be yourself and don't worry about slapping a label on.
I totally agree. Beyond that I don't believe in a 3 point scale (straight/bi/gay), it's much more fluid than that. I don't feel that any of those 3 labels accurately describes my sexuality but that doesn't really bother me.

[broken111]

i agree and i need someone to talk to. I just joined

[broken111]

thats what i think. I stress myself out becuase of it. I still stess myself out.

[Desuetude]

Sure it's nice to group and categorise yourself with other people and see where you fit. It's not the only thing that matters though, what is more important is that you're happy with whoever you are- even if you haven't quite worked out what is yet. Your sexuality isn't what defines you, sure it has a big factor to play but what matters is that you are accepting of yourself, nothing else should play as big a factor.

[nice]

Will I guess it all just depends on how badly you want to know then.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

But why do you need to know?

If you're accepting of all sexual orientations, does it matter what yours is? Like who you like, and dislike who you don't like.

Worrying about it is only going to cause unnecessary stress and confusion.

In my opinion it does. I like being truthful with myself, and I feel bad when I lie to myself (not as much as others)
However, only in that situation. (which is practically no LGBT person as of current, the lack of confidence in today's LGBT population causes that)

[nice]

(which is practically no LGBT person as of current, the lack of confidence in today's LGBT population causes that)

What do you mean by this exactly.

[Pierce]

Theres more to figure out abotu yourself than just whho your sexually and emotionally attracted to. During these teen years im trying to dig down deep within myself and discover who I truly am. I know I'm gay but it doesn't stress me out at all not being 100% sure. (I am 100% sure but if i wasn't it wouldn't bother me! lol). I went through depressing times where i lost who i truly was so now im looking for pieces of myself to put back together and find out who i truly am. Sorry about makin this about me. My point is im not worrying about it now since there's other things to figure out about yourself.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

What do you mean by this exactly.

I meant that most of the LGBT population has a lack in confidence.

[nice]

I meant that most of the LGBT population has a lack in confidence.

I don't personally think as a bi dude I lack confidence I'm just scared of how people will react when I tell them I'm bi since its "just a label" and "not important".

[ReginaGeorge]

When I first started questioning, I went through a couple of months of hell.
Am I bisexual?
Am I lesbian?
Bisexual?
Pansexual?
Bisexual?
Lesbian!?

It was awful. Really really awful. It's been a few months and I've just decided to say 'queer'. I don't want to label, but I say queer so people understand.

Queer is a great big umbrella for anything that doesn't fit L,G,B, or T. It includes pansexual, asexual, demisexual, polysexual, and there are so many sexualities, you know why? Because it is quite rare that people actually fit 100% into anything. And everything ranges in intensity as well. Nothing is black and white, and just because what you feel might not have a name, or you might just not be sure, doesn't mean you feelings and attractions are weird or invalid. :)

This is a really great video to watch:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xXAoG8vAyzI&feature=player_embedded :D