I've considered myself gay but I'm beginning to think I might be gay..

[Mebenick]

So last year, I came out to my crush and my mother and I've accepted that. I've always watched gay porn and I've never been sexually attracted to women. However, I began thinking the other day how from when I was younger up until when I was 16, I had crushes on girls. I would hope that they would like me back, dream about kissing them, and asked them to be my Valentine. Now I know that what matters is usually what you are sexually attracted to but is there a possibility that I might be bi and not gay? I know it's hard for another person to answer but I've never thought about this up until this week.

[dontfiguremeout]

Dude! You missed the whole point of being gay!!!! You have to be both physically and emotionally attracted to guys! Reason why you have crushes on girls because you are emotionally attracted to them! You were just going through a stage that every guy goes through thinking they are gay. It's just a stage. And pretty soon you'll grow out of it! You can't label yourself for liking men sexually. You do it when you like them BOTH physically and emotionally! So you need to explain to your mother that you were confused and you labeled yourself too quickly.

PS: Your a normal teenage guy whose hormones go crazy, hence why you were physically attracted go guys for a while!

[Mebenick]

Oh no sorry I am both sexually and emotionally attracted to guys! I forgot to write that. I dated a guy for about 6 months this past year and I've fallen for another. I'm definitely attracted both ways to guys. I just don't know if my old attraction towards women means anything. I haven't had an attraction to a women in years though, only guys recently.

[Abyssal Echo]

I agree with RealGone

[dontfiguremeout]

Then you are definitely bi. Which means you like BOTH men and women physically and emotionally. So I bet you can go date a girl, and still feel the same as if you were dating guys.

[TigerBoy]

You were just going through a stage that every guy goes through thinking they are gay. It's just a stage.
No, modern pediatrics doesn't agree. Hormones enhance sex drive, lower inhibitions and make you try stuff out. It only enhances what is already there, and people forget that sexuality is a spectrum: you can be mostly straight, like a particular guy or want to see what its all about, then discover you didn't like it as much as with a girl and perhaps never bother again. The 'slight' attraction to guys may or may not stay with you, you just don't feel the need to act on it.

Hormones do not temporarily make people gay, they just make people try stuff out that they may or may not enjoy enough to repeat.

Then you are definitely bi.
I don't agree on the data available - platonic feelings for girls do not equate to wanting to have sex. He may be bi, but unless he's sexually interested it seems unlikely.

OP, you want to play with guys, play with guys. If you really like a girl, be open minded that you might enjoy doing more, but if you aren't interested in trying it then you may simply be 'gay', but labels are what confuses people: what matters is what you like, not what society calls you.

[Pierce]

I think that you should wait before putting a label on yourself and for the time being just go with the ride and have fun =p. Do what you feel is right at this time. Don't come out to any more people untill you are sure what you are and who you like.

[Mebenick]

I've never thought of a woman in a sexual way so maybe I am just gay. Like I said, I haven't even thought of a woman as someone I'd date in over 2 years. It's only been guys. I just don't understand what that was when I was younger.

[Jdawg91]

It doesn't matter what your attracted to its all subjective. People as a whole may view you differently but do you really care what they think?

[Luppy Lupan]

trust me, those are just memories which your mind relates to love and sex, we all have it drilled into our little heads as children that the heroic prince saves the damsel in distress, falls in love, gets married and lives happily ever after, but reality is, we don't all go hunting for the damsels some of us like waiting for the princes to save our ass :D so dreams about it are natural, just remember: what we find attractive has nothing to do with our past its about what we find sexually appealing now, that's how we roll.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

I kissed a girl. I've dated girls. I've held hands with girls. But I know I'm gay. You just hadn't figured yourself out at the time, in my opinion.

[Dwl4]

honestly, only you know what you are, you may be confused right now but you will know eventually. im kind of going through the same thing, im 14 but haven't labeled myself yet, im experimented with guys and girls, and liked the guys better, ive fantasized about men and women, i really like guys and i really like girls, i cant really pick right now, and i don't think you should too, its just gonna put too much stress on your life.