Is he worth it?

[Harry Smith]

hey guys. Just wondering if you could help me out with this problem that I've been having. Sorry in advance for the long paragragh and just to make it easier I'm a guy, im 16 and I'm not going to use the guys name.

Well since I started school I would often see this guy on the bus on the way home who was in my year, we were in different classes but we would still talk just about average stuff and if we saw each other at school we would often say hello but nothing much else. Then next year we sat next to each other in science so our conversation moved a bit and we became better friends. I started to hang around his group of friends and he they all seemed cool. Soon me and him started meeting up at the weekends and just hanging out. I then became really good friends with him and we spend age just talking to each other about nothing but we would still enjoy it,

These feelings were more than just lust or a small crush, I really liked him. I would spend most of my time just thinking about how much I liked him and I would have to say I trusted him more than anything.But after about 5 months of us being really close friends we started just to argue about really stupid stuff and I took his friendship for granted. We were still good friends but I felt we were slightly fading apart. Then he just stopped talking to me, literally stopped. I started to hang out with a new group of people. The problem was that my feelings didn't go away despite how much it hurt me. Then about 5 months later we started talking again and we became friends but it still felt different. Now we still say hello if we see each other and talk a bit but I really want to turn back the clock. Is it worth spending the next 5 months trying to get it back to that level or should I just leave it?
Thanks and if you need any more infomation about this mess just ask me in your post- Harry x

[Noirtier]

Hun, let me tell you that I know how you feel. It hurts and it's hard, it really is. I've gone through it more times than one should have to. But my advice to you? Don't waste 5 months of your time trying to get things back to how they used to be. Because it won't happen. Focus on your new group of friends, because that old one isn't going to come back. I know you still have feelings for him, but I think it's time to try and get over them. I've been through this before. It's not worth the time and effort trying to get things back to the way they used to be. I know that's not the answer you wanted to hear, but take it from someone who's been there. It's time to move on and make new friends.

[Harry Smith]

thanks mate, It's good to hear from someone who has been through it before. It's just hard when I see him every day I'm reminded of what I've lost. But I admit there is no point trying to get the old him back. It's just never going to happen. Thanks again.

[dontfiguremeout]

I too also had your type of experience! Honestly I would find someone else! Yes, I know it's going to be the hardest thing for you, as it was for me! Your still emotionally attached to the person! But how I started to be unattached was I stopped thinking about him. It sounds easier then done, but that's the only way you can actually stop thinking about him. Also I think the reason why that friendship didn't work was, that you really liked the guy! You didn't want the friendship to end whatever happened! You tried so hard to make sure you guys are close and everything! Well because that's what happened with me! Reason why my guy friend left, was because I was trying so hard to keep that friendship, and so he left, and is now the biggest jerk to me ever! So I think that's the reason as I'm looking back on your story. So yeah, don't go back to him! Just try to stop thinking about him! I tried at first, but tried to hard, so then I like kinda tried, and then it stopped naturally! So now just kinda wait after your done with that guy, and let another friendship with another guy flow up naturally! Take your time with it, as you did with him! But next time, don't over think about the friendship!

[Harry Smith]

thanks a lot mate. Thinking about it you're probaly spot on about it. I tried so hard to make sure we were friends that I over thought it. I will have to try just forgetting about him, hopefully it will work, thanks again.