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Horizon
October 28th, 2012, 02:28 AM
Prepare for a really long story...

Alright, so I know I already did this all in chat, but I need more help then just in there, ya know? No offense to them, they helped a lot... I just need help dealing with this

So first off, I really feel like the rest of the family who lives with me, is making me inferior to them. They all do it in their own little ways. My uncle, for one, will tell me lot's things... I am stupid, and that I am young, so I don't know anything, and I don't know anything yet, and that even though my teacher told me something, it's wrong... He has his little way of making me feel stupid... My sister, she talks down to me, and is rude and offensive when my friends are over, and when I asked her to stop, she made up excuses and then brought up stuff that happened in the past.... Also, when we argue, she demands that I respect her, and then she tells me she doesn't have to respect me at all, even if I respect her. And then she ended up telling me I was the reason she wanted to kill herself at one point... And she tells me not to talk to her about bullying because I don't know what it's like... And when I try to tell her I do, she get's violent, and has actually hit me a couple of times... I feel scared and threatened by her, and I don't like it. Now my mom, isn't quite as bad... But when my uncle will crack real cruel jokes to me, she laughs. And when I tell her that I didn't like it, she tells me either to suck it up, or that she can't do anything to make it stop... And the worst part is, when we argue, she get's really vicious... And it hurts, and I tell her, but she tells me that she doesn't care about how I feel because I am only 16.... This happens each time we argue too... And all of that collectively happening, I feel like the inferior one in the house, and I feel alone. Sometimes I even get paranoid that they are planning to kick me out or hurt me because the give signs of disdain towards me... And this paranoia causes me to make myself distant from them, and I don't want that. And it's already bad enough that on a daily basis I get called a douche or a dickhead by my mom, my uncle, and my sister... I just want to know what to do... My mom had told me when she divorced my stepdad, whom of which I am not fond of, she told me things would change. I honestly feel like things have gotten worse... All the promises she made me, she has broken, which also hurts. Sometimes I am scared to come home because I might have forgotten to do something, like a chore, and then she gets really mad at me, really quick... I just don't know what to do at this point... I don't know how to stand up for myself, let alone to my own family, and I feel isolated and by myself...

xStar64
October 30th, 2012, 09:12 AM
Wow. That is a very sad story. :( No joke I'm tearing up. I feel so bad for you!
My advice is to leave. Don't run away, that would be bad. Find a caring friend or family member and stay with them till things cool down. Or a MUCH better idea call an organisation who helps people just like you. They will give you what you need and make sure you are taken care of. This sounds rather abusive to me.

-ps, Sorry I'm only one who posted! But I do care about others!

We're here for you bro :cuddle:

Horizon
October 30th, 2012, 02:31 PM
I did leave it's not ALL the time. But quite often.... I think I'll just separate myself from them for a bit, and do what I want to do, because I don't think any of my other family members want to take care of me :P

Gandalf
November 4th, 2012, 10:11 AM
Prepare for a really long story...

Alright, so I know I already did this all in chat, but I need more help then just in there, ya know? No offense to them, they helped a lot... I just need help dealing with this

So first off, I really feel like the rest of the family who lives with me, is making me inferior to them. They all do it in their own little ways. My uncle, for one, will tell me lot's things... I am stupid, and that I am young, so I don't know anything, and I don't know anything yet, and that even though my teacher told me something, it's wrong... He has his little way of making me feel stupid... My sister, she talks down to me, and is rude and offensive when my friends are over, and when I asked her to stop, she made up excuses and then brought up stuff that happened in the past.... Also, when we argue, she demands that I respect her, and then she tells me she doesn't have to respect me at all, even if I respect her. And then she ended up telling me I was the reason she wanted to kill herself at one point... And she tells me not to talk to her about bullying because I don't know what it's like... And when I try to tell her I do, she get's violent, and has actually hit me a couple of times... I feel scared and threatened by her, and I don't like it. Now my mom, isn't quite as bad... But when my uncle will crack real cruel jokes to me, she laughs. And when I tell her that I didn't like it, she tells me either to suck it up, or that she can't do anything to make it stop... And the worst part is, when we argue, she get's really vicious... And it hurts, and I tell her, but she tells me that she doesn't care about how I feel because I am only 16.... This happens each time we argue too... And all of that collectively happening, I feel like the inferior one in the house, and I feel alone. Sometimes I even get paranoid that they are planning to kick me out or hurt me because the give signs of disdain towards me... And this paranoia causes me to make myself distant from them, and I don't want that. And it's already bad enough that on a daily basis I get called a douche or a dickhead by my mom, my uncle, and my sister... I just want to know what to do... My mom had told me when she divorced my stepdad, whom of which I am not fond of, she told me things would change. I honestly feel like things have gotten worse... All the promises she made me, she has broken, which also hurts. Sometimes I am scared to come home because I might have forgotten to do something, like a chore, and then she gets really mad at me, really quick... I just don't know what to do at this point... I don't know how to stand up for myself, let alone to my own family, and I feel isolated and by myself...

It's horrible having direspectful family, I can't really say much besides the fact that is might be best to try and avoid any conflicts, just brush off there horribleness and try not to let them see your getting hurt by this, if they notice your happy they might avoid trying to make you fele crap (naive as it sounds) I don't know... Just an idea.

I can empathize with unsupportive unempathetic family who think their problems are more important and therefore ignorantly tearing you down, as I said before do anything you can to avoid arguements and negativity. People might eventually notice and change also.

Remember, we're here if you need help, I only wish I could help more :)