Losing virginity...

[Halcyon]

So I've been speaking to a boy for a while now and we've been getting along really well. He's hot, he thinks I'm hot (amazingly), we're really similar, he wants to meet me and stuff. We're going to meet in 3 weeks time. I'm not going to have sex on the first date as I'm not an utter slut, but he's sort of hinted he'd be interested in doing it eventually. I'm tempted to do it to be honest. Should I? Has anyone lost their's and regretted it? If I do, is there any advice on what to do to make it less painful for me? Anything I shouldn't do? Any advice would be good thanks! :)

[darthearth]

no regret here, to me virginity just wasn't a big deal. I deleted the technique part, yes, that was against the rules. -StoppingTime

[JJSSHH]

i didnt have any regret. if it feels right do it! If your uncomfortable with the way things are going and your not ready just tell him, ill bet he will understand. Best of luck

[Jasey]

Don't rush into something, I was In a 4 year relationship and i wasn't comfortable, just go with what your mind tells you at the time and If he is upset, he didn't have your emotions in mind at all.

[kye.]

So I've been speaking to a boy for a while now and we've been getting along really well. He's hot, he thinks I'm hot (amazingly), we're really similar, he wants to meet me and stuff. We're going to meet in 3 weeks time. I'm not going to have sex on the first date as I'm not an utter slut, but he's sort of hinted he'd be interested in doing it eventually. I'm tempted to do it to be honest. Should I? Has anyone lost their's and regretted it? If I do, is there any advice on what to do to make it less painful for me? Anything I shouldn't do? Any advice would be good thanks! :)

For the safety of your very attractive self, I say that you should only be getting down with a person you really really really know and trust because once you get an illness it's there forever. Really think about, I don't mean to sound negative but only do it when you're really sure it's right Good luck!

p.s. find someone that truly cares about you ;)

[Halcyon]

For the safety of your very attractive self, I say that you should only be getting down with a person you really really really know and trust because once you get an illness it's there forever. Really think about, I don't mean to sound negative but only do it when you're really sure it's right Good luck!

p.s. find someone that truly cares about you ;)

We'd use a condom if we did do it of course :P He does care about me I think :) and thank you hahaha ;)

[Green Arrow]

As long as you feel that it is the right thing to do and you're not forcing it then go and do it! :)

[TigerBoy]

For the safety of your very attractive self, I say that you should only be getting down with a person you really really really know and trust because once you get an illness it's there forever. Really think about, I don't mean to sound negative but only do it when you're really sure it's right Good luck!

p.s. find someone that truly cares about you ;)

Well said.

I would definitely wait until you have got to know each other just in case he's a secret nut job or just has incompatible tastes in bed: better to find out before you end up in a situation where you end up doing things you'd regret.

[Halcyon]

Well said.

I would definitely wait until you have got to know each other just in case he's a secret nut job or just has incompatible tastes in bed: better to find out before you end up in a situation where you end up doing things you'd regret.

Yeah, as I said, I wouldn't have sex with him the first time we met. I don't agree with that sort of thing, thing it's plain slutty to be honest. But if we get along well and I have genuine feelings for him I'd like to do it.

[ExhibitG]

you aren't meeting from over the internet are you?

[MacMilker]

just make sure hes not using you just for one specific reason

[Halcyon]

you aren't meeting from over the internet are you?

Yeah, I met him on another forum. I'm not going to be naive though, I'll be careful when we meet up!

[TigerBoy]

Yeah, I met him on another forum. I'm not going to be naive though, I'll be careful when we meet up!

Dunno if you guys got something like this, but we were given a copy of this at school if it helps....

'Don't give out personal details such as your name, phone number, address or a personal description to people you chat to on the Internet'.

'If you decide to make a date, never give personal details such as your address or surname. It is possible for address details to be obtained through your telephone number, so again be very guarded about giving out this information.'

'Always arrange to meet in a busy public place.'

'Take a friend along, at least at the beginning, to meet your date and ask the friend to meet up with you again at a pre-arranged time. Work out a signal with your friend to indicate whether you would prefer that he or she stay with you'.

'If you're not with a friend, tell someone where you are going, who with (include the person's name, phone number and address) and when you'll be back.'

'Initially, don't go home with your date, invite them back to your home or accept a lift.'

'Trust your instincts. If you feel uneasy about someone, there may be a reason. Don't tell yourself you're being silly. If you don't feel comfortable, don't give them personal details about yourself and don't arrange a second date'.

From The Suzy Lamplugh Trust
The National Charity for Personal Safety

[hottie34]

I was eight years old when i lost my virginity to my brother

[Halcyon]

I was eight years old when i lost my virginity to my brother

I just... I can't even.. Oh my.

Dunno if you guys got something like this, but we were given a copy of this at school if it helps....

'Don't give out personal details such as your name, phone number, address or a personal description to people you chat to on the Internet'.

'If you decide to make a date, never give personal details such as your address or surname. It is possible for address details to be obtained through your telephone number, so again be very guarded about giving out this information.'

'Always arrange to meet in a busy public place.'

'Take a friend along, at least at the beginning, to meet your date and ask the friend to meet up with you again at a pre-arranged time. Work out a signal with your friend to indicate whether you would prefer that he or she stay with you'.

'If you're not with a friend, tell someone where you are going, who with (include the person's name, phone number and address) and when you'll be back.'

'Initially, don't go home with your date, invite them back to your home or accept a lift.'

'Trust your instincts. If you feel uneasy about someone, there may be a reason. Don't tell yourself you're being silly. If you don't feel comfortable, don't give them personal details about yourself and don't arrange a second date'.

From The Suzy Lamplugh Trust
The National Charity for Personal Safety

Yeah, I'm basically going to follow all of them. I'm not taking a friend, but I'll be in contact with someone constantly; they'll get a text if I feel uneasy and if I don't reply for longer than 45 minutes they'll contact my mum, etc. I'm very cautious :cool:

[ExhibitG]

k i highly discourage meeting anyone over the internet. i'm sure you have your mind made up by now that you're going to do it, so be careful, but if you have any ounce of a possibility for reconsideration inside of you, i'd use it up.

[kye.]

Just so you know, we're not trying to ruin the special moment or make you mad, we're just simply helping you out to be safe :) Don't take it the wrong way :P

[Halcyon]

Just so you know, we're not trying to ruin the special moment or make you mad, we're just simply helping you out to be safe :) Don't take it the wrong way :P

Oh no, I won't! I know that it's a risk, but I'm going to take all the precautions I need to! :)

[kye.]

Oh no, I won't! I know that it's a risk, but I'm going to take all the precautions I need to! :)

Great :D

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Oh no, I won't! I know that it's a risk, but I'm going to take all the precautions I need to! :)

Alright then. Hope it ends up well! :)

[Hermes96]

i hope it go's / went well. you seem to be sensable with the having a contact you can text. just rember not to rush into things

[AriannaKitten]

I would meet him more than a couple of times before doing anything but if you're also interested AND protected, go for it.