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Entity1
October 24th, 2012, 04:17 PM
So, i'm a pretty new member here, so here goes my introduction as well as my problem. I'm 16 years old, a nice Indian guy with good grammar (Woah, that's rather unusual, don't you think? Indian people with bad grammar are like, a lot! :P ) , blah, blah, here's the problem (i skipped most part of the introduction, didn't i? :D ).

READ THIS BEFORE READING THE WHOLE THREAD -This is gonna be a pretty big thread, and if you can't read all of it, refer to the TL;DR version at the bottom. I slightly changed some things so people can understand it, as some things are different in India :).

Here's the problem/story - I like to write, so this will feel like a story.
So, i'm like very interested in computers since like a small age. I used to sit on it and do and make new stuff and impress my friends. :D.
Last year, i was in this amazing and pretty high-standard school, i had lots and lots of friends, i had a very good social life, i used to play sports (Was in the soccer team), and pursued my 'hobby', computers as well.
Oh wait, i forgot to tell you, i'm a pretty avid gamer and a reader(i love to read :D), maybe one of these days i'll even post my poem xD.
I've won several gaming competitions and stuff, and if you should know, i used to game around 3 hours a day(or maybe more sometimes).
So last November, i got an amazing idea for a website, which could sell a lot.
I learned some programming languages(I knew some, i learned more), and started working on the website with my friends. There was a big gaming competition coming up in 3 weeks, so i had to gear up for that too, and my exams were like, only 2 months away, so there was a lot of tension and stuff. (Btw i placed 3rd in that gaming competition with my team and got myself a cool $200. :D)
So, i kinda stopped studying to focus on gaming/website. I was kinda leader of both, so i had this responsibility on me. I always used to give my computer stuff more priority than studying or some other stuff, so yeah.
So, i stopped studying, stopped seeing my friends, even skipped school few times, for both of them things.
Blah, blah, fast forward 2-3 weeks, i was staying up late night doing these things.
Fast forward some more, I almost failed in Maths. Almost.
After that, i was to go in 11th grade, my grades weren't that good, they were satisfactory though, along the lines of B in each and A in English :cool:, and i had to change my school as my family was moving.
Fast forward, had summer holidays(I have in May-June), the 2 months, i got interested very much in programming and went into hacking, i was getting like, majorly addicted to these stuff, and as i didn't have any friends in my area, i was mostly alone.
School opens, i make new friends, some of them are just awesome! (Nope, still haven't found friends that share my area of interest (Computer/Programming/Hacking).
July goes by, My computer hours reduce a bit thanks to my new friends,
i start going out some more.
August rolls by, Exams are coming in like 1 month, and i gotta study.
So i start taking some holidays off to study(because basically i've been having all fun in the new school, and yes, i know, i should have studied as well :/).
And yep, you guessed right, i got more into programming/hacking.
Addiction.
Gaining the knowledge.
Addiction to gaining "knowledge". It was all about knowledge. You can find anything on the Internet. Unlimited knowledge is on the Internet. And everyday, i discovered new things. New things that drew myself to them.
I learned new things, i gained knowledge.
September comes, exams! I get C as the total grade. I was sad.
October comes, i start taking more holidays, school starts warning me that i'm taking too many holidays. Still, more hacking/programming.
Btw, i forgot like, the major part of this thing.
I got secluded from my friends during this time(August and September).
They got mixed in the wrong crowds, and i didn't like the new school as well, because the teachers pester me for things and i got irritated(Because i used to stay up late or stay on computers alot, i got "irritated" very much).
I started becoming lonely. In the end, i have now only 2 friends, the others are "fake" friends, can't really trust them for anything.
And now, i'm here, from a guy who's life was amazing and he used to enjoy it to his full, to a guy who got secluded and lonely.
And some more info - I started hating my subjects, i realized every other subject sucked except Computers and English and i didn't want to do them, as it didn't have any role in enhancing my "skills".
I started hating the kids "around this year", i realized they are just butthurts, bullies and backstabbers. Because i was lonely, i lost my "strength" as well. I started getting picked on, being made fun of. Some days ago, a guy was making fun of me, i was irritated, i beat him. (Yes, i'm pretty good at standing up to myself, that's why i didn't usually got bullied/picked on in the other school). And i felt bad about it, i felt bad about beating him. I didn't really give a crap before, but now, i felt bad. I became somewhat emotional.I started hating the kids then. I eventually became a "nice guy".

So that's why i don't want to go to school.

TL;DR - 1. I am interested in Computers, and i don't like studying other subjects because eventually they won't be of use in my higher studies. (In India, there are some "compulsory" subjects, that you have to take, others are optional. ) I don't like the teachers as well, they pester/disturb a lot unlike my previous school ( because it was a big school, the teachers there didn't really give a f**k. Sorry for the swear, i felt like i needed to write it. )
2. I became very lonely, stopped going to school, realized that most of the people are butthurts, bullies, and backstabbers, so i became secluded.
3. I want to pursue in "Computers". But i don't want to go to school.
Is their any other way? And if there is a way, "by changing countries", yes i'll be willing to do that as well, as long as i will gain knowledge and won't go to school.

Btw, i might change schools in the 12th grade(Yes, India has a 12th grade, after which you go to college) so as to get in a better school.

Kudos to people who read it all. I appreciate and applaud you. :D.

James995
October 30th, 2012, 08:35 AM
I have the same general issue. I'm interested in Mechanics AND Electronics (although I'll probably settle for one or the other), and genuinely have zero interest in school whatsoever. I don't have any friends, nor do I really want any friends (from my area), but I have a long-distance girlfriend. I'm 15 right now. Prior to my sudden lack of care for school, I had been receiving consistent A's.

I'd like to be able to jump into mechanics as soon as possible, but have no idea on how to do so. Anyone care to shed some light on mine or OP's issue?

Mortal Coil
October 30th, 2012, 08:59 AM
You could try an online school, I don't know how your family would react to that but it's worth a shot :D

James995
October 30th, 2012, 10:10 AM
I'm already IN an online school. I just don't have enough interest in school to stay on it.

ninja747
November 25th, 2012, 11:19 PM
Im having the same problems too, i think i will do one more year at school.

workingatperfect
November 25th, 2012, 11:34 PM
You could look into technical schools, I'm not really sure how things work over there.

I have the same general issue. I'm interested in Mechanics AND Electronics (although I'll probably settle for one or the other), and genuinely have zero interest in school whatsoever. I don't have any friends, nor do I really want any friends (from my area), but I have a long-distance girlfriend. I'm 15 right now. Prior to my sudden lack of care for school, I had been receiving consistent A's.

I'd like to be able to jump into mechanics as soon as possible, but have no idea on how to do so. Anyone care to shed some light on mine or OP's issue?

As for you, I know many areas in Ohio offer technical school during the last year or two of high school. I live in Northeast Ohio and around here we're given the option of going to Trumbull Career and Technical Center (TCTC) during our Junior year to get certification in an area of your choice, and you also take a couple normal courses so that you can get your diploma. They have a mechanics department. I know of a couple other ones too, mostly in Eastern Ohio. I don't know which online school you go to, I go to ECOT myself, but you could probably message your counselor and ask him/her about your options, they should be able to help you out quite well. :)

IVIodern
November 26th, 2012, 03:09 PM
Your not the only one in this sort of situation, I am too. I hate having to get up every morning and go into school and learn nothing (Yes, I just sit around and don't do much). Since the start of this school year, which is the start of September, I began taking days off for stupid reasons, mainly because I hated it and have no friends, literally, no friends. Now, 26th of November, I have missed 15 days from school - 3 weeks. I have very big exams coming at the start of the year but guess what? I hate school do I cant be arsed studying for them. The only thing I really enjoy in life is my laptop and my 'internet life'. Suicide is on my mind a lot but I never go through with it because I know that I will leave many people behind, clueless as to why I would have done it.

I am seriously thinking of leaving school for good, but I know my life will only get a whole lot worse if I do so.

Syvelocin
December 2nd, 2012, 08:14 PM
It's a tough situation. I can tell you what I did but it isn't likely you'll be able to do the same thing.

See, I also tried online school. It was great, for a while. I pumped out a whole sixth of a class in a single day. But it gradually lost its appeal, and I spoke to my parents about dropping out. Understand, I was also suicidal at the time, and I put my parents in a very compromising position. Do you let your kid drop-out and change her future, or do you run the risk of losing her?

My dad is a great man. What he did was controversial, but I'm actually really happy I had him. He registered me for home schooling, kept sending in the paperwork, but he let me do my own thing. I did a bit of independent study on topics that interested me and I got a job to save up for the move I was planning. I was never happier as a teenager.

It doesn't go down with colleges as you'll need a nice portfolio of what you did during home-schooling, but I went to community college when I moved over here. They'll take anyone, and now I can transfer to a university with my college transcript in-hand.

You have options though, if you drop-out. I hate how many people think drop-out automatically means you will get no where in life. Many drop-outs don't, but how many of them got their GEDs and went to college?

Castle of Glass
December 3rd, 2012, 01:39 AM
well, you are in my position. i love gaming, computers, programming, minor hacking, music(i mean playing and making music), wrestling and mountain biking. my only good class is math. the rest i really don't care about. i really want to change my language class to either music theory or computer science, but i can't because of my parents. but if you only have one year left of high school, just finish it and then do what you want. i am a freshman and have 3 more years to go. i only have one true friend here, a gamer and who hates school also. but i do have friends in other countries. I really can't tell this to my parents because i just can't. they don't understand that people can make money out of music, computers, gaming, mountain biking and wrestling.