Bisexuals?

[JackMiller341]

First off let me just say: I don't want to offend anyone in this post. It's simply something I've noticed and would like to discuss.

So..I was looking under the Teen Sexuality section of the forum, and I feel like I've been seeing a lot of cases of people stating they are bisexuals, because they mostly like one gender, but a little of another. Also, a lot of the people who say this are ages 12 - 15. Is it possible this is just a stage of puberty where you aren't sure [I]who[I] you like? Yes, some of them definitely may know in their hearts they are bisexual, but we're in an age right now where love and attraction just goes in every direction! Again, I hope I haven't hurt anyone's feelings with this :)

Basically, how do you really know that you're Bi, and not just going through a phase?

[StoppingTime]

You, as an "outsider" to someone else's emotions, can never truly know and understand what someone else is feeling.
Sure, in some cases it may come off that bisexuality being a phase for some, by reading this forum, there, you're correct.
But there's something you need to keep in mind. This is just text on a screen, and not really anything more. It's very hard to express emotion, or deep thought, in this case, through text on a screen.
People are posting here, in some cases, because they are unsure who, or 'what' they are, and may associate with bisexuality because it's kind of "in the middle," and therefore, it may be a phase for them.
But as you said, for others, it is not. And we, as other members here, cannot really understand what someone else will label themselves as (since that's the best you can do on a forum) beyond the label itself, if you see what I mean.
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You know that you're really bisexual the same way you'd know you're straight, gay, lesbian, or any other label out there. It's not something anyone can really convince you of; they can help leaf you in the right decision, but only you (not you specifically), can make the final decision.

[ILoveSoccer]

I'm 15 and I know I'm bisexual because I've had a sexual experience with a guy and I enjoyed it... That's how, plus dicks turn me on so yeah, that's how.

[JackMiller341]

StoppingTime, thank you for responding. I really hope I didn't come off as kid who doesn't know anything about sexual preference. I appreciate you taking your time to be a part of this conversation. :)

[StoppingTime]

dicks turn me on so yeah, that's how.

"dick turning people on" ≠ bisexuality, like, in the least. It's so much more than that.

[ILoveSoccer]

"dick turning people on" ≠ bisexuality, like, in the least. It's so much more than that.

I'm sorry, correct me if I'm wrong, but being bisexual is being sexually and or emotionally attracted to both sexes, which I am, I understand that what I said before May be misleading as to whether I understand what bisexuality means, but I do

[StoppingTime]

I'm sorry, correct me if I'm wrong, but being bisexual is being sexually and or emotionally attracted to both sexes, which I am, I understand that what I said before May be misleading as to whether I understand what bisexuality means, but I do

If someone is truly bisexual/gay/straight/whatever, it's, on a simple level, a physical and emotional attraction to the same/opposite sex. Not one or the other.

[ILoveSoccer]

If someone is truly bisexual/gay/straight/whatever, it's, on a simple level, a physical and emotional attraction to the same/opposite sex. Not one or the other.

It was always my belief that if you are sexually attracted to both genders, you are biSEXUAL but maybe I'm wrong, I do have an emotional attraction to them and have seen myself being in a relationship with a certain guy, but that will never ever work out, sadly :'(

[Apollo.]

I'm sorry, correct me if I'm wrong, but being bisexual is being sexually and or emotionally attracted to both sexes, which I am, I understand that what I said before May be misleading as to whether I understand what bisexuality means, but I do

You didn't mention anything about being emotionally attracted to guys though.

Anyway, in my opinion people generally know what they are pretty early on in life. I mean you can usually tell a phase from something that has lasted a lifetime right? I think I've known since I was about 11 I was gay I just didn't know what gay was. Usually if its just a phase people won't be able to see themselves in a relationship with someone they like, I think phases are more a sexual rather than emotional thing. Others may disagree with my view but that's what I gather from most posts, I don't mean to offend anyone.

[StoppingTime]

It was always my belief that if you are sexually attracted to both genders, you are biSEXUAL but maybe I'm wrong, I do have an emotional attraction to them and have seen myself being in a relationship with a certain guy, but that will never ever work out, sadly :'(

Generally, when people put labels on themselves, it means that they are both emotionally, and physically attracted to that gender/sex. If you were just turned on by the image/sight/whatever of a naked guy, that hardly makes you (or anyone, for that matter), bisexual, in its fullest sense.

[ILoveSoccer]

Generally, when people put labels on themselves, it means that they are both emotionally, and physically attracted to that gender/sex. If you were just turned on by the image/sight/whatever of a naked guy, that hardly makes you (or anyone, for that matter), bisexual, in its fullest sense.

I understand what you're saying. Question, is there a term for someone who's only sexual attracted to the opposite sex?

[StoppingTime]

I guess it could be considered bisexually curious/bi-curious or any of those, but most of the time, people don't put a final "label" on themselves if they aren't fully in love/attracted to the specified people.

[ILoveSoccer]

I guess it could be considered bisexually curious/bi-curious or any of those, but most of the time, people don't put a final "label" on themselves if they aren't fully in love/attracted to the specified people.

Well, I've only really loved one guy and could imagine myself in a relationship with him but I can't imagine it happening again

[darthearth]

I am sexually attracted to the same sex, I am NOT emotionally attracted to the same sex. I am neither emotionally nor sexually attracted to the opposite sex. What am I?

I call it homosexual or GAY. I've been physically attracted to guys since I was in baseball when I was seven years old. Never been attracted to a girl.

[Jupiter]

I'm sorry, correct me if I'm wrong, but being bisexual is being sexually and or emotionally attracted to both sexes, which I am, I understand that what I said before May be misleading as to whether I understand what bisexuality means, but I do

You are wrong.

You put an or in there. It is being sexually AND emotionally. If you were just emotionally attracted then that would be homoromantic, thank you very much. :P

[darthearth]

You are wrong.

You put an or in there. It is being sexually AND emotionally. If you were just emotionally attracted then that would be homoromantic, thank you very much. :P

Saying he is wrong is arrogant. What do you call me? I just have sexual attraction, not emotional. Am I then a "curious" asexual, even though I have and enjoy sex with guys? This is ludicrous! And I've never been attracted to girls either sexually or emotionally, like I said above.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

First off let me just say: I don't want to offend anyone in this post. It's simply something I've noticed and would like to discuss.

So..I was looking under the Teen Sexuality section of the forum, and I feel like I've been seeing a lot of cases of people stating they are bisexuals, because they mostly like one gender, but a little of another. Also, a lot of the people who say this are ages 12 - 15. Is it possible this is just a stage of puberty where you aren't sure [I]who[I] you like? Yes, some of them definitely may know in their hearts they are bisexual, but we're in an age right now where love and attraction just goes in every direction! Again, I hope I haven't hurt anyone's feelings with this :)

Basically, how do you really know that you're Bi, and not just going through a phase?

Yes. Ive known I was bi since before puberty. About 5th grade to be specific.
BiSEXUAL. I have a romantic and sexual attraction to both genders, in about the same amount.

[StoppingTime]

Saying he is wrong is arrogant. What do you call me? I just have sexual attraction, not emotional. Am I then a "curious" asexual, even though I have and enjoy sex with guys? This is ludicrous! And I've never been attracted to girls either sexually or emotionally, like I said above.


I call you someone who intrudes on another's thread. If you have a question for a member, either make a thread about it, or seek them out elsewhere.

[Iron Man]

"dick turning people on" ≠ bisexuality, like, in the least. It's so much more than that.

So true. I think Harry Styles is...pardon my French...sexy, but I consider myself straight. You have to have that physical and emotional attachment to both genders to be bisexual. I, do not have that emotional attachment.

[JJSSHH]

I agree with you. I think a lot of people put a label on their feelings to early. Im not a big fan of labels myself. LOVE WHO YOU LOVE. no need to be defined by a word.

[Danny_boi 16]

First off let me just say: I don't want to offend anyone in this post. It's simply something I've noticed and would like to discuss.

So..I was looking under the Teen Sexuality section of the forum, and I feel like I've been seeing a lot of cases of people stating they are bisexuals, because they mostly like one gender, but a little of another. Also, a lot of the people who say this are ages 12 - 15. Is it possible this is just a stage of puberty where you aren't sure [I]who[I] you like? Yes, some of them definitely may know in their hearts they are bisexual, but we're in an age right now where love and attraction just goes in every direction! Again, I hope I haven't hurt anyone's feelings with this :)

Basically, how do you really know that you're Bi, and not just going through a phase?

Some people do know if there bisexual. Personally I don't, but I'm trying to find myself. But there is not rush. Like there is not rush going of labeling themselves. Some truly know in their hearts, that is how they feel about other people. Again some don't, but that is what being a teen is about. Trying to find yourself for tomorrow.