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TaylrJ
October 23rd, 2012, 04:50 PM
Starting this year, I have been in love with this guy. Right now, he is my best friend. I really hope I am his, since I care about him so much. I am 15, and he is 14. But I don't know, I have just been depressed over him lately. We are real close right now and have a real strong friendship, it's just I care about him a lot. I think he is gay, and I keep holding on to a thought about him liking me back. Which I really hope he does. And there are links to why I think he does at the bottom. Anyways, we are real immature and goofy. All I make him do is laugh. We have so much fun together. But sometimes I try to show that I love him, and he doesn't get it. We joke around and say we love each other but it is never seriously, which is confusing. I have opened up to him (not telling him I am gay!) and told him some personal stuff. He just teased me over it. Not trying to make it hurtful, just a joke. But it really did hurt. I have tried to get him to let me go to his house, he never does anymore. He'll say that I can come over at school, then at the end of the day he says he was kidding and invites someone else over. I guess he thinks it's okay because of my sense of humor. But it really hurts me and I wish he'd just be serious for once. He also thinks it's okay to not reply when I text him. If I ever miss him, or if I am down, I text him. Most of the time he doesn't reply. And I just get depressed. What should I do? Could you help? Thanks...
To make it more convincing, I have listed reasons why I think he likes me in the 2nd paragraphs here:
http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=155830
http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=153137

Pierce
October 23rd, 2012, 05:27 PM
I would try to get serious with hm. I would try to say i appreciate you being ym friend or something that sounds less cheesy with the same message. Shortly after i would coem out to him since if hes okay with it even if hes not gay i think that wll strenthen a "dieing" friendship. First bring p the gay marriage topic and see if hes cool with gays if so come out to him like i said.u

Sonic Boom
October 30th, 2012, 02:24 AM
Look. He's 14 and clearly has a lot of growing up to do. I'd just continue to be good friends and mess around and have fun. Gradually as he matures emotionally, he will realise the importance of this relationship you guys have. And I know his responses annoy and sometimes offend you at this point, but I think you need to be patient. It would be a waste of a friendship otherwise ;)

Luppy Lupan
November 4th, 2012, 09:04 PM
I have experienced this myself being a gay male myself, I have felt the sting of rejection and pain, but best thing I ever did to be honest is tell the people I care about that I am gay, and I will never regret it.
what I suggest you do is tell him how you feel, if he is a true friend he will understand and he will give his honest opinion: if he feels the same hallelujah :D but if he doesn't: don't beat yourself up about it, time can do marvelous things, you will eventually feel much better and you can work on your life, you never know what the future holds.
personally I felt the same about a guy, he was actually gay though, I loved him and we were amazing, but it couldn't work out, he didn't love me he loved someone else, it would of been wrong for me to not accept that, so I let it be, and now am in a happy relationship and am living a great life, and you can too dude.