I dislike being bi, depressed.

[kye.]

My intention is not to offend anyone, I just want to get this out of my chest since it has always bothered me.

Right now It's 4:28am and I'm wide awake + depressed laying down thinking how much better life would be if i were to fit in with society. :(

[TigerBoy]

Any problem is with your society, not with you.

If it is bad where you live, you have some other options. Move to an area with a more accepting society, or maybe even work to improve the one you already live in somehow (find a local LGBT support group and work with them, for example).

I'm not saying either of those things could happen over night, but they are just examples of goals to plan and work for, that may give you hope for the future.

Hope that helps some.

:hug:

[nice]

I know how you feel it's gonna take sometime to accept it I the same way right now and I know I'm bi I just decided I'm going to deny it until I feel I'm ready to accept it and I won't be all sad about it.

You could try talking to people on here about it if you don't have anyone you trust right now to talk to about it and that might help

Stay strong and be proud :)

[kye.]

Any problem is with your society, not with you.

If it is bad where you live, you have some other options. Move to an area with a more accepting society, or maybe even work to improve the one you already live in somehow (find a local LGBT support group and work with them, for example).

I'm not saying either of those things could happen over night, but they are just examples of goals to plan and work for, that may give you hope for the future.

Hope that helps some.

:hug:

Thanks for your reply, I actually didn't come back to check this thread because nobody has answered any of my threads lol Anyway, I certainly am moving when I have the chance. http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/images/smilies/bigarmhug.gif

[kye.]

I know how you feel it's gonna take sometime to accept it I the same way right now and I know I'm bi I just decided I'm going to deny it until I feel I'm ready to accept it and I won't be all sad about it.

You could try talking to people on here about it if you don't have anyone you trust right now to talk to about it and that might help

Stay strong and be proud :)

Thanks for your support. I just don't know if I will ever accept it :( When I was younger it didn't bother me at all, but now that I'm 18 and out in the 'real world' it's been bothering me a lot lately, but again thanks for understanding and support :D

[TigerBoy]

Thanks for your reply, I actually didn't come back to check this thread because nobody has answered any of my threads lol Anyway, I certainly am moving when I have the chance. image (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/images/smilies/bigarmhug.gif)

No probs - sounds like a good plan!

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[nice]

No problem :D I'm here to talk anytime you need to :)

[kye.]

No probs - sounds like a good plan!

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[kye.]

No problem :D I'm here to talk anytime you need to :)

Thanks ;)

[TigerBoy]

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[Skyhawk]

If you want someone to talk to, I'm happy to chat.

Society is society. It's not always open to everything, but you don't need to fit in. Be proud that you're you, and not someone you aren't. :)

[Twilly F. Sniper]

My intention is not to offend anyone, I just want to get this out of my chest since it has always bothered me.

Right now It's 4:28am and I'm wide awake + depressed laying down thinking how much better life would be if i were to fit in with society. :(

Its ok. It's not the end of the world. Society is society, as rogue said. If you need somebody to talk to, theres always forums like these, where you can talk to people more experienced than myself in this matter.

Trying to help. :)

[kye.]

If you want someone to talk to, I'm happy to chat.

Society is society. It's not always open to everything, but you don't need to fit in. Be proud that you're you, and not someone you aren't. :)

Gracias :)

[kye.]

Its ok. It's not the end of the world. Society is society, as rogue said. If you need somebody to talk to, theres always forums like these, where you can talk to people more experienced than myself in this matter.

Trying to help. :)

Thanks :P I guess I have no other choice than to accept who I am.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

I guess I have no other choice than to accept who I am.

It will be easier on yourself if you accept yourself anxious who you are.., but I know it's not easy. Society really doesn't help either, but unfortunately that's something how can change overnight :/

[kye.]

It will be easier on yourself if you accept yourself anxious who you are.., but I know it's not easy. Society really doesn't help either, but unfortunately that's something how can change overnight :/

I know right :P By the way, I see you're from Englad O: I wish I lived there lol or somewhere in Europe.

[DismaliciouSx]

Kye, I know the boat you are in far too well. I stressed about this since probably my sophomore year in high school and now I'm 19 openly bi to my friends. I think what helped me the most was this one boy I met my junior year, long story short I came out to him first and he was so accepting it made me realize that I can do this and that there will be many people that accept me how I am. So what I suggest to you is come out to someone that you can really trust and if you ever need to talk I'm here.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

I know right :P By the way, I see you're from Englad O: I wish I lived there lol or somewhere in Europe.

Just realised... what I said before didn't make much sense o.o stupid predictive text!

England sucks! Wish I lived somewhere like Canada or Australia or America... But then suppose it different because I grew up here

[kye.]

Kye, I know the boat you are in far too well. I stressed about this since probably my sophomore year in high school and now I'm 19 openly bi to my friends. I think what helped me the most was this one boy I met my junior year, long story short I came out to him first and he was so accepting it made me realize that I can do this and that there will be many people that accept me how I am. So what I suggest to you is come out to someone that you can really trust and if you ever need to talk I'm here.

Oh goodness, I'm planning on never coming out even though I know my parents are very supportive and accepting :( I just want to keep it a secret, but it doesn't feel good. It may sound weird but I really don't know why I don't want to come out, maybe because I have to accept it myself first.

[kye.]

Just realised... what I said before didn't make much sense o.o stupid predictive text!

England sucks! Wish I lived somewhere like Canada or Australia or America... But then suppose it different because I grew up here

haha it's funny how we both think the same of where we're from :P

[LoveMe_HateMe]

haha it's funny how we both think the same of where we're from :P

Yeah lol, I just don't like the people here, the majority are so rude and unfriendly -I don't like it

[riotroger]

It's not easy being in the position you're in, that's for sure. But it gets better. And I mean that, it does. You're older now, and soon you'll have the potential to move to areas that are much more gay friendly. I live on the East coast myself (outside New York) and I never worry about hiding my sexuality. I mean I'm pretty straight acting personality wise, but if I ever wanted to hold hands or kiss a guy in public I definitely don't feel odd doing it, that's just the area I live in.

Also, the generation above us that's keep trying to push forth less lgbt rights are getting old and will (hopefully) die off soon in our lifetime. Society is moving forward, and before you know it we will obtain more rights. I know that sounds sort of cynical but I don't care lol. Because I truly believe that if those homophobic people who have positions of power were all dead, that the world would be a better place for everyone.

Yea I know I ranted... Lol. But seriously, trying not to be who you are will only make you unhappy. Don't regret who you are, just embrace your feelings. And liking guys DOES NOT define who you are, that is only a small fraction of the individual that you are.

Hope this helps :)

[TigerBoy]

Also, the generation above us that's keep trying to push forth less lgbt rights are getting old and will (hopefully) die off soon in our lifetime. Society is moving forward, and before you know it we will obtain more rights. I know that sounds sort of cynical but I don't care lol. Because I truly believe that if those homophobic people who have positions of power were all dead, that the world would be a better place for everyone.


I agree with your sentiments, but even when they die we still have to deal with their legacy: for example if Romney gets in he plans to make constitutional changes to block equal marriage which would make it much harder to obtain whoever is in power after him. Our generation can't stop fighting for what we believe in, because all that happens otherwise is the greedy and power hungry fill the gap and shit over everyone else.

[kye.]

Oh my God :( I'm more depressed than what I was when I started this thread. I just can't accept myself, it's impossible. I wish I was straight I hate being bi :'( It's eating me alive and I can't do anything about it. I'm starting to get suicidal again, but I don't want to make the same mistake again. I just can't put up with life anymore....all my life I've been depressed and I'm at the point where I can't take anymore. I want to be happy for once :'( I hate myself

Thank you riotroger and everybody else who gave me advice. All I need right now is to cheer up

[nice]

What I used to do when I couldn't deal with the fact that i was bi is I used to rationalise that I still like girls so in a way I am straight. Right now I think in a way you are going through the seven stages if grief like I did and your at the denial or depression stage right now. It will get better as you slowly start to accept it.

And if you want you don't have to come out and tell people you can keep it to yourself. But don't worry is all I can really stress as you go along it will get better and become easier :). This isn't something to get stressed over or become sucidal over. So just live life have fun and you will slowly but surely get better.

Hope I helped :) :P.

[kye.]

What I used to do when I couldn't deal with the fact that i was bi is I used to rationalise that I still like girls so in a way I am straight. Right now I think in a way you are going through the seven stages if grief like I did and your at the denial or depression stage right now. It will get better as you slowly start to accept it.

And if you want you don't have to come out and tell people you can keep it to yourself. But don't worry is all I can really stress as you go along it will get better and become easier :). This isn't something to get stressed over or become sucidal over. So just live life have fun and you will slowly but surely get better.

Hope I helped :) :P.

Thanks again and yes you really did help :)

[nice]

No problem :) pm me anytime

[Jdawg91]

You shouldn't base your opinions on how society sees it,live your life the way you want,after all who cares what people think of you,we all have our problems and I can assure you your sexuality is not a problem.

[Danny_boi 16]

My intention is not to offend anyone, I just want to get this out of my chest since it has always bothered me.

Right now It's 4:28am and I'm wide awake + depressed laying down thinking how much better life would be if i were to fit in with society. :(

You do fit with society. One of civil obedience and tolerance, not of one full of bigots. The world will very soon understand what it mean to live in a civil society.

[alexkun]

you are who you are, and theres nothing wrong with that. i am bi too and i think it doesnt matter what other people thinks about me or the people like me. and you shouldnt care either, we all have the right to be or to like whatever we want.. be free to speak your mind here, thats what this place is for.. you are not alone. :)

[crashing]

everyone is different. Dont be depressed about it. IT's who you are. Get used to it. Embrace it

[Backflipboy]

Your society needs to fit in with you, not the other way around. I am lucky to live in a society where homosexuality and bisexuality are not discouraged and several help groups exist for people feeling down about their sexuality. We cannot help who we are or what we feel, anybody who doesn't understand this is ignorant.

[FergusDunn]

It can be hard to feel differant - but its more the society thing is it not

It is not YOU -

Maybe you just need the right people around you - ones that accept you


sexuality is not a choice - the acceptance by others is thier choice.


I have a freind a great mate - who last year just went all quiet - long story short he was older Im 14 he is 17 - but he just blurted out one day he was bi or gay and did not know which and thought we would hate him - No way that was going to happen - we accepted him - my parents know he is out to a few and they are ok as well -- see its society they can accept or not --

Hope thing get better for you ==