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jhv222
October 22nd, 2012, 02:00 PM
This is a long story, a lot has happened, but I will try keep it as short and clear as possible.

Situation:
-I am a junior in college. I have know this girl, who is a sophomore, for two years.
-We had a good friendship, but she had a boyfriend the entire time I knew her.
-I think she used to have a thing for me, and I liked her, but I kept my distance since she had a boyfriend.
-At the beginning of this year, I went to a dance with her, then we hooked up.
-After this, she went on a break with her boyfriend for about two months.
-I only talked to her when I saw her on campus or at parties.
-I texted her to hang out last weekend on saturday night. Her replies were short and she had a meeting to go to, but said she would text me after. I didn't get my hopes up and didn't expect a text. She never did text me that night.
-I haven't talked to her since then, but she broke up with her boyfriend on the Sunday after I texted her. (So she has been broken up with him for about a week)

My concerns:
-I really like this girl, I feel angry at myself for hooking up with her because I miss the friendship we used to have.
-I rarely see her on campus, and if I do it's just passing by. I want to hang out with her again because I feel like we would both have a good time, but I feel like I may not get that opportunity.

Like I said, I am really into this girl and would want to date her eventually, but for now I would rather just restore our friendship. I don't know how to do that since the only time she actually would have a conversation with me is when we are face to face.

I am willing to be patient, and don't mind if I have to give her time. But just don't know what I can do to help the situation.

Aneka
October 25th, 2012, 01:29 AM
I think to restore your friendship will be easy thing to do, because you've been good friends and you already established connection with her.So what you need to do is to step back from recent events and drop idea dating her for some time.First focus on building your friendship again.You need talk to her and explain that you consider her as a good friend and you don't want to lose it. Try not to press on her,but be open and fair. And eventually when you put things on track again,then you can think about developing your relationship into something more.From my own experience,i can say that best relationship is coming from friendship.So don't lose hope and fight for her!