Telling parents

[Apollo.]

Hi guys, I've made a few threads recently about coming out to people. In the past few days I've came out to some of my closest friends, most of them just last night. Now I really want to tell my family but I don't know how.

I'm not exactly close to my parents I don't tell them a lot so I don't know how to bring the subject up. I don't think they will bother at all they have always said they would support me no matter what I do in life. My sister I don't care what she thinks but her boyfriend could be a problem when he finds out.

Basically how do I bring the subject up to them when I don't tell them anything really. Also how do I deal with my sisters bf I can guarantee he will be against it and its going to be awkward he basically lives here most the time.

The only reason I'm telling my family is I'm sick of the pressure on me to get another girlfriend and always being questioned why I'm not with anyone just now.

[Pierce]

Dude i feel exactly the same with the pressuring with the getting a girlfriend but i'm not brave enough to tell them so first off props to you. I haven't told anyone yet. Since you dont talk to them much i would just plain out say im gay t dinner or a time where everyons together and there attention is on you. Ask our sis not to tell her bf for a while. hope i helped if you have further troublle or quesions or just wanna talk send me message on my profile! =] SORRY FOR BAD SPELLING!!!!

[Apollo.]

Dude i feel exactly the same with the pressuring with the getting a girlfriend but i'm not brave enough to tell them so first off props to you. I haven't told anyone yet. Since you dont talk to them much i would just plain out say im gay t dinner or a time where everyons together and there attention is on you. Ask our sis not to tell her bf for a while. hope i helped if you have further troublle or quesions or just wanna talk send me message on my profile! =] SORRY FOR BAD SPELLING!!!!

Thanks man, yeah I suppose just saying it straight out would maybe be easiest, I'm not exactly brave I'm terrified when I tell anyone. Me and my sister don't get on at all though so she will definitely tell her bf, thanks for your reply:D

[Pierce]

you are brave though because you actually told people im such a coward i dont plan on telling anyone and i got prom pressure and getting laid pressure and im missing out on pressious moments because im too cowardly to come out or date another guy. You are brave simply because you tell people.

[Edawg]

It might be easier to sit down with your parents first and just come out, don't beat around the bush. They love you, no matter what. Good luck bro

[Apollo.]

Thanks guys, having other people's opinions really helps. I'm still pretty much at a loss what to do about my sisters bf though I know he would tell everyone and I don't want it spreading yet. There's 3 guys that know I'm gay and they are sort of in a separate group than "the lads" like the guys I go out with but I'm not really close to so I know it won't spread just as it is now.

[Pierce]

are you cool wth your sister? If so ask her seriously and nicely to not tell him. Almost beg her if necessary.

[MartyG]

If there is a typical time that your family routinely gets together...like for dinner on a regular basis....that would be your best bet. That's assuming that you have already weighed the pros and cons and are 100% certain that you want to go ahead with it.

Asking your sister not to tell her b/f is pointless in my opinion. Once you're out to her....there's no way that it's not going to come up in conversation when he's around.

Good Luck, remember that if they don't already have a pretty good idea of it all...it's going to take some time for them to assimilate all that you have to say. Be brief and suggest to them that after they have thought about it...you'd like them to bring you questions that they have. Just be ready to decline to answer any/all of them if they are too personal.

MartyG

[Hayy]

I'm just going to say what I did when I first told my parent's that I'm bisexual.
While we were all eating dinner, it was the few times we ate with each other, but anyways. I brought up the topic of homsexuality and their veiws on it, I lied and told them it was for a project for school. After hearing their views, I told them that I wasn't really doing a project, I just wanted to make sure you'd support someone in your family if they were homosexual. They were confused at first but i explained that I'm bisexaul and have been for a very long time. I explained to them what it meant and everything. Maybe you can do something like that to tell them?

And for your sisters boyfriend, you shouldn't care of what he thinks, if he thinks the worse about it then sadly he's ignorant and or immature if he goes about it the wrong way.

Good luck.

-Haley.

[Abyssal Echo]

It might be easier to sit down with your parents first and just come out, don't beat around the bush. They love you, no matter what. Good luck bro

thats basically what I did when I told my Mom. we were painting one of the bedrooms and I just came out and told her.

[kye.]

Hi guys, I've made a few threads recently about coming out to people. In the past few days I've came out to some of my closest friends, most of them just last night. Now I really want to tell my family but I don't know how.

I'm not exactly close to my parents I don't tell them a lot so I don't know how to bring the subject up. I don't think they will bother at all they have always said they would support me no matter what I do in life. My sister I don't care what she thinks but her boyfriend could be a problem when he finds out.

Basically how do I bring the subject up to them when I don't tell them anything really. Also how do I deal with my sisters bf I can guarantee he will be against it and its going to be awkward he basically lives here most the time.

The only reason I'm telling my family is I'm sick of the pressure on me to get another girlfriend and always being questioned why I'm not with anyone just now.

You are very strong and brave, keep that in mind all the time. Unlike me, I'm a coward for not telling anyone I'm bi lol but coming out is just a huge deal that reveals how brave a person is. Do not worry about other people's opinion, you are who you are and nobody can change it. Good luck even though you wont need it ;) Any support or help, I'll always be here.
-kye

[Halcyon]

Telling your parents is scary, well done for having the guts! You want to tell them in a place where you're all comfortable and they won't make a scene if they react badly, so doing it at home is probably the best idea. Sit them down together and tell them you have something to tell them and then just say it. Chances are they have an inkling already (mine did), so they might react better than you think. However, if they react badly make sure you stick to the fact that you're gay and don't listen to them if they say it's a phase or you can't know, etc.

It's also important to make sure you give them little reminders after you come out so they don't assume you've grown out of it or whatever. Make comments on guys that you think are hot, moan about how you can't find a boyfriend, everything that a straight guy would say but about boys, basically. It also helps you get over the initial awkwardness and get more comfortable with your sexuality. Hope I've helped! :)

[Apollo.]

Thanks man, I just told them and they didn't really have a reaction at all, I don't know if that's a good or a bad thing. I wasn't going to tell them just yet but I got in from work and they were talking about being gay(there was someone gay on tv I think) so it seemed the perfect time really. Thanks for all your replies guys, I'll see if I get more than "oh ok" out of them soon :P