Friendship between boys and girls really exist?!

[Dawn01]

Hey folks! :)

I saw this post on 9gag http://9gag.com/gag/5642178 and it made me think if boys and girls can be really friends. I know a psychiatrist that is my family's friend and once I was talking to him about it, and he said that most of the boys would have sex with their girl friends if they had the opportunity (I mean, if the girl wanted to have sex with them). That's why it's very rare to find cases where the boy friendzones the girl, and when do it, it's because they are in love with another girl or because they are gay. Even if they don't want a relationship, they would go to the sex route if they had the chance. By the girls side it's different, they can just only see a boy as a friend, and that's why they friendzone more!

I wanna talk about it because once a guy tried to friendzone me saying at first that he liked another girl, but then he said he was confused about what to do with me and now we are giving each other time. We once kissed in a way that I can say it was passionately... I actually told this story here and some of you may remember.

So, I just wanna know what you think about this subject. Can a boy and girl be true friends? Is it true that all the boys would go to the sex route if the girl, who is his friend, wanted to? Can a boy friendzone a girl just because he don't see her as something more?

[Erasmus]

I am a straight guy, and I have a couple of really good friends who are girls. I would never consider having sex or anything sexual with them, because we are just friends.

I think the idea that guys and girls can't be friends is ridiculous. If that were true, it would mean that guys are interested in having sex with every girl they know, which, for me at least, seems ridiculous.

[Dawn01]

I am a straight guy, and I have a couple of really good friends who are girls. I would never consider having sex or anything sexual with them, because we are just friends.

I think the idea that guys and girls can't be friends is ridiculous. If that were true, it would mean that guys are interested in having sex with every girl they know, which, for me at least, seems ridiculous.

No, I'm not saying this and I'm not being sexist, I'm saying if a girl fells madly in love with a boy that is her friend, most of the boys would give her a chance by kissing or having sex with her... Do you understand me? I don't agree at all with the psychiatrist because I do belive in true friendship between boys and girls, but I know that guys think in a different way, and I wanna know that way!

Sometimes friends fell in love with each other, that's pretty normal... But I think it's different when a girl fells in love with a boy that is her friend and when a boy fells in love with a girl that is his friend... Girls seems to friendzone more, I wondering why that happens ^^



PS: Here is the post that I saw in 9 gag that made me think about this subject: http://9gag.com/gag/5642178 I shall edit the first post of this topic and put it there so people will understand what I'm trying to say...

[Castle of Glass]

i have quite a few female friends. one of the i know has a crush on me. she is kinda friendzoned because 1)i don't love her. yes she is hot but i am not into her, 2) she is afraid to ask me out. she thinks only guys can do it, 3) i am not ready for a relationship or not mentally ready(in my opinion) for sex or anything sexual with a girl.

[Elysium]

From a girl's point of view, I have quite a few guy friends. I would be surprised if sex ever occurred to them. I'd like to be able to say that I can have guys that are just my friends, and nothing more. Of course, I don't know what it's like from a guy's point of view.

[Dawn01]

Niilo789, I totally understand your point and I think that's a reasonable reason to friendzone a girl! But if she asks you out, what would you do?

Well, I think the psychiatrist I talked to was a bit sexist, but some things he said make a lot of sense, so that's why I'm wondering :)

Elysium, THAT'S MY POINT TOO, and I do have guys friends that I only want as a friend! What I'm just trying to understand is how it's like from the guy's point of view, because I know it's different!

[FreeFall]

The only guy that ever friendzoned me, is gay and likes to say it's "because he dated me". I'm magical, I can make men gay, cuz you know.

I have friends that are guys. I've never friendzoned a guy myself, mainly because I can't be friends with someone that has feelings for me. Makes me feel like crap, "like oooh you like? well no touch for you!"

I personally think that they can be friends, but a small fleeting glimpse of "I wonder..." may cross their minds. I won't lie, I've had a tiny image of what if my guy friend was my boyfriend, back when we were first becoming friends. But it got ripped up because, hey they're my friend and I really can't care about them in any other way.

[Castle of Glass]

Niilo789, I totally understand your point and I think that's a reasonable reason to friendzone a girl! But if she asks you out, what would you do?

Well, I think the psychiatrist I talked to was a bit sexist, but some things he said make a lot of sense, so that's why I'm wondering :)

Elysium, THAT'S MY POINT TOO, and I do have guys friends that I only want as a friend! What I'm just trying to understand is how it's like from the guy's point of view, because I know it's different!

if she asked me out, hmmm..... might accept(never been on a date :whoops:) or might decline and explain the thing about not being ready for a relationship. it just depends on my feelings. but yea. but to get to the point that your psychiatrist said, i do fantasies about sex with girls i know, but who aren't my friends and are hot/pretty/what ever word works. but with my friends. no i don't fantasies about sex.

[Dawn01]

Niilo, if she's nice and hot, you can give her a chance, but then you should feel that you are ready to do it!

Free Fall, I do agree with your point! Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if my best guy friend were my boyfriend! He once said that in begining, he wanted to date me, but then we became more close and now he says he sees me as a sister. I actually don't think I would ever date him because he lives too far away and he dated one of my sister's friends, and that's why I friendzoned him :p But he is a very nice person, and I love him a lot as friend!

I kissed my guy friend that I'm in love with and he kissed me back in a almost passionate way ( awwn *-*), but then he said it would be unfair to me if we dated because he loves other person (his ex, probably). He kind of friendzoned me, but then I said to him "why not me? You are not dating anyone!", "it's not making sense, you can't say it was nothing" (things like that), and then he told me to give him time. So I'm waiting to see what will happen... It's rare to find a case where the boy (who is straight) friendzones the girl just because he doesn't see she as anything more than a friend, you know?

[teenage-kicks]

Having a best friend of the opposite sex is like having a spy behind enemy lines.

[Dawn01]

Having a best friend of the opposite sex is like having a spy behind enemy lines.

THISSSS THISS THISS!!! :yeah:

That's why I do love having some guy friends <3

[Apollo.]

I have friend zoned quite a few girls then again I'm gay. I don't find it awkward that they like me as more than a friend at all I make it clear to them that I don't want a relationship with them in the nicest way possible. I'd hate to be leading someone on I imagine that would be a horrible feeling.

As for girls friend zoning guys, it can be pretty painful to watch. I've had a few friends that have been friend zoned by people they really like and they just end up looking desperate and hanging on to the slightest things in the friendship that could possibly bring them closer to them.

Also I don't think I've ever said 'friend' so many times in a post:D

[pdidyking]

There will always be emotional/physical/intellectual attraction between a man and a woman. Small or big. It is possible to be friends if you set boundries etc. Though i believe a real true friend (for a guy) would be a lesbian (vice versa for girls) becauase the sexual element has been removed.

[Dawn01]

There will always be emotional/physical/intellectual attraction between a man and a woman. Small or big. It is possible to be friends if you set boundries etc. Though i believe a real true friend (for a guy) would be a lesbian (vice versa for girls) becauase the sexual element has been removed.

That's why I think the ideal male friend for a girl would be a gay, because there would be no sexual element!

The risk in a friendship between boys and girls is that they can fall in love for each other and then break ones heart, losing the friendship they used to have :(

[Jess]

Of course it's possible. A girl and a boy can be best of friends and love each other -- but just as friends. That's what I think anyways. Maybe one or the other might fall for each other, but it's still possible for them to remain friends.

[InfamousPanda]

I have some chick friends that are hot. Would I have sex with them? Yea. That doesn't mean that sex is what I want from the friendship. We truly are friends, I don't even try for sex or bring it up or anything. They're just friends that I wouldn't mind having sex with >.> I hope that made sense

[pdidyking]

I promise you that if you have sex with your best friend that you LOVE you're gonna have issues. Emotional issues. Sex is not ONLY meant for pleasure. Sex is for making life and reaching the pinnacle of each others emotional state. It's a beautiful thing. Don't mess with it dude.

[xStar64]

I have some chick friends that are hot. Would I have sex with them? Yea. That doesn't mean that sex is what I want from the friendship. We truly are friends, I don't even try for sex or bring it up or anything. They're just friends that I wouldn't mind having sex with >.> I hope that made sense

I promise you that if you have sex with your best friend that you LOVE you're gonna have issues. Emotional issues. Sex is not ONLY meant for pleasure. Sex is for making life and reaching the pinnacle of each others emotional state. It's a beautiful thing. Don't mess with it dude.

Hmmm. I must say I agree with you both. First off I do have female friends other than my "star female friend". And if anyone but my SFF asked to have sex I would say no. That does not destroy the natural attraction between male and female.
Do I find others attractive? Yes, but in a dim light comparitive with that of my SFF.
So with my conclusive finalisize of the provided details. I must still not refrain from answering your rather influential Question.
-friendship between guys and girls?- Yes, and I hope my multiple points shed light on this topic.

[Dawn01]

Man, I think the guy I was in love with was really gay '-' That would explain a lot of things... But ok, I'm fighting to save the friendship that seems to be dead now because I really believe boys and girls can be only friends!

[Hank Hill]

My best friend is a girl, and we're only friends.

I would never even think about doing anything sexual with her, either.

So yes, it can happen!

~Tyler

[pdidyking]

My best friend is a girl, and we're only friends.

I would never even think about doing anything sexual with her, either.

So yes, it can happen!

~Tyler

Same here. All about boundries.

[Dawn01]

But would you go to the sex route if they wanted to? lol

I'm almost sure that my guy is gay :( He fucking friendzoned me, and he seems to treat all the girls in the same way! How crazy it is, really? Only two possible explanations:

1) HE IS FUCKING INSANE

2) He is gay, and he is inside the closet

Damn, he is making me sick, literally! I just feel a crazy nausea everytime I try to talk about him with someone! I hope to save at least our friendship :/

[pdidyking]

But would you go to the sex route if they wanted to? lol

I'm almost sure that my guy is gay :( He fucking friendzoned me, and he seems to treat all the girls in the same way! How crazy it is, really? Only two possible explanations:

1) HE IS FUCKING INSANE

2) He is gay, and he is inside the closet

Damn, he is making me sick, literally! I just feel a crazy nausea everytime I try to talk about him with someone! I hope to save at least our friendship :/

Well i think when he tells you he's gay (if he's gay), then your friendship can exceed from there. Maybe right now he's tired of girls. Idk, just give it time. You have to put your feelings aside. You care about him right? Just keep trying to be his friend.

[Dawn01]

Well i think when he tells you he's gay (if he's gay), then your friendship can exceed from there. Maybe right now he's tired of girls. Idk, just give it time. You have to put your feelings aside. You care about him right? Just keep trying to be his friend.

He doesn't seem to want my friendship anymore :( I don't know, but I'll try to save it. because if he wants help, I'll be there to help him!

[Allbutanillusion]

Many people have difficulties believing , a non-sexual friendship between a girl and a boy is possible.

I think that it is possible

As long as People understand that love and friendship are two separate things. A great friend does not necessarily have to be a great lover. Two people who are fine friends could actually be terrible love partners.

Many people lack the little emotional tremble that turns friendship into something more. They can share intimate information and secrets but they could never imagine being together as a love couple.

And even if the chemistry is there, many people prefer preserving a real friendship instead of turning it into a love affair. A true friendship is difficult to find. Once two people have established these relations between each other, they prefer saving them instead of ruining everything for a night of passion.

[SmileyBoy]

I am straight but curious and one of my BEST friends is a girl..

[nice]

If it wasn't possible in my opinion that would mean gay guys couldn't be friends and I've seen a couple of gay guys who are friends.

[Stephan]

Nope.

If you ask me..most guys I know just are "friends" with girls so they can get inside their pants.

[Dawn01]

Nope.

If you ask me..most guys I know just are "friends" with girls so they can get inside their pants.

To tell the truth, I think that every straight guy would give at least a chance if their female friend wanted they to do it! If it doesn't end up in a right way, they would be only friends again.

But I don't agree with you, I think guys can respect girls and be only friends with them if the girl only wanted to be their friend :)

[rockNroll]

They can be friends, but usually some sort of 'deeper feeling' comes up at some point. Even if you set boundaries, this is bound to happen. So I think they can be friends, if you know how to deal with the feelings when they come up in a way that both addresses the feelings and keeps the friendship together. That's the tough part.

[GoldenSnitch]

Yes, my girlfriend and I were friends at 3rd grade but at 5th we became an item.