why does it make me mad?

[mynameisjane]

so theres a guy who had, maybe still has, a crush on me and last year i was a little attracted to him too. but then i realized that he has several crushes and my first reaction was disappointment and i thought, "what a horny bastard." but i can't quite figure out what offends me about it. is there really anything wrong with thinking that more than one person is attractive? is it really his fault? im sometimes attracted to more than one guy, even though i'll only flirt with one of them.

[Underground_Network]

I don't think it matters, I wouldn't care if a girl had more than one crush, as long as one of those crushes was me :). I have like 5 crushes, although I have to admit, I don't crush on them all equally. But still, if you really like him, and if you think he likes you, and you think it could work out, why not give it a shot? I'd say that if one of the five girls I like asked me out (or if I worked up the guts to ask one of them out), I'd forget about the other four unless the relationship fails. I guess we crush on more than one person just in case turns out our main crush, or one of our many crushes, is not who we thought they were, or maybe just isn't making the relationship work. Love works in mysterious ways.. who knows. If you think you like him, and he likes you back, I think you should give it a shot. But hell, what do I know? :P

[Maverick]

If you're single you're free to think however many people are attractive. Plus even if you're in a relationship its not wrong to think other people are attractive. Look don't touch is they key. :P Thinking people are attractive and loving someone are different things. Don't treat them the same.

[mynameisjane]

well see, i'd go out with him but for so reason, the fact that he likes several girls besides me makes me think negatively of him. idk it seems like he'd cheat on me. it seems like its not special that he likes me if he's willing to go out with pretty much everyone. it looks like i'd be easy to replace. it seems like he's just looking for someone to screw.

[Underground_Network]

I think 99% of guys out there find more than one woman attractive, even gays know an attractive female from an unattractive female. I mean, sexuality doesn't even play a part in being attractive or not. I'd say 90% of guys crush on more than one girl. There may be one girl that he likes more than the rest, but its whoever asks him out first, or whoever he decides he wants to ask out. Ask him out, he's as likely to cheat on you as any other guy in the world.

[mynameisjane]

okay, well what if i did ask him out and just before we go out, a girl that he likes more than me asks him out? then he would have to tell me that he likes this other girl more and that would really hurt. and then we couldnt be friends anymore and i would look really stupid.

[Malcolm Tucker]

Well if he does do that he is complete and utter *****. If you asked him out the decent thing to do is to go and not ditch you for another girl.

[Underground_Network]

Ugh.. how to reword what I said... What I mean is that; if you ask him out, and he says yes, there's a 90% chance he'll stay loyal to you (I don't actually know him, so I can't say 100% chance), so I wouldn't worry. I know that if a girl I liked asked me out, and I said yes, I would remain loyal to her, even if a hotter girl asked me out, b/c in my opinion, it would be the right thing to do. I would never cheat on a girl, and I doubt the guy you like would either, but remember, we're still teenagers, and teenagers do crazy things. I think he'll "forget" about the other girls if he starts going out with you, at least, that's what I'd do (if I was going out with a girl I liked).

[sms22]

You were flattered by it and when you realized you werent so special to him it makes you mad.

[Magenta]

Please don't bump threads over two months. :locked: