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emma148
October 20th, 2012, 12:18 AM
Why do I binge? Because I am deprived of food. Why am I deprived of food? As a way to "undo" my binges. I have been trapped in this merciless cycle for over a year now. When I'm restricting my calories, I feel great. Empowered. Thin. In control. But when I binge, I feel guilt, self-hatred, confusion, and disappointment in myself.

To some people, living this way may seem extreme. But to me, this is my every day life. This is all I have known for the last 2.5+ years of my life. I have been on both ends of the spectrum. From a starving, fragile, ill and dangerously overexerted anorexic to a binge-eater who fills herself to the brim until she's sick. And now I'm stuck in between. I'll under-eat for a few weeks, lose some weight and feel fantastic on the inside, but weakened and lethargic on the outside, which only leads me to another binge. And then the feelings of shame and guilt take over, and thus the cycle repeats itself.

I really just can't do this to myself anymore. I want nothing more than to be freed from this vicious demon of an eating disorder, but I don't know how. And with the recent passing of my dad, I simply don't have any motivation to recover anymore. This ED is draining every part of me, both physically and mentally, and I'm losing faith in myself. I know that my dad would want nothing more than for his daughter to be the happy, care-free, energetic spirit that I once was, but sadly I feel miserable, lonely and trapped.

I want to feel alive again. I want to know what it feels like to truly be happy again. I no longer want to be a slave to my eating disorder. I want help.

I desperately want to be understood. At school, I have no one I can confide in. At home, I have a judgmental mother. I have a therapist who gives me the same damn answers every time. I feel kind of pathetic that I have to resort to posting anonymously on a website to make my feelings known, but at this point I am so desperate for some relief that I don't even fucking care anymore.

To anyone who actually read all of this, thanks. I know I probably seem pretty crazy :P

PS, this is my first post on this website.

dawsonj
October 28th, 2012, 08:06 AM
Well as a guy who doesn't have many friends I know very little of the eating struggles girls go through.

But i have heard things and you certainly don't seem crazy.

The only thing I can think of is try to pick a hobby or some distraction from your body and eating. Eat when you are hungry blah blah cliche advice...

I hope you find something that helps though. I am sure you are beautiful the way you look now. There is somebody for everybody anyways, no matter how you look. :)

Mob Boss
October 28th, 2012, 03:01 PM
I completely understand what you are going through. I've been extreme restricting for months now, and it's consuming my life. I couldn't bear the thought of eating something without weighing it's contents, or reading the calories and fat content. It's a daily struggle. I've noticed (for me) certain situations in my life trigger it. For instance, my grandma dieing a few months back sent me in a terrible downward spiral. Don't lose faith. You can do it. There are so many success storie involving EDs where the person comes out on top. It's going to be an uphill battle, but addressing your problems, like you did here, will do you a world of good. Recovery is possible, despite the nagging voice in your head that tells you otherwise.

If you are in search of good ED books, Jenni Schaefer has great books that my therapist has recommended me. I'm sure you'll find her writing beneficial in your road to recovery.
http://www.jennischaefer.com/hello-newbook.htm
If you ever need to talk my inbox is always open. :hug3:

ReverseFall
October 28th, 2012, 08:44 PM
I'm a guy and you basically described how i live. Its hard trying to control it but that's the problem. When your starving and want to binge pick a food and eat one piece of it every minute (i actually use a timer sometimes...) it gives your stomach time to figure out and tell you when your full. i havent figured out something for the starving times yet.. i will soon though

emma148
October 31st, 2012, 08:59 PM
Hey everyone. Thank you all so much for the replies and words of encouragement. I really appreciate it that there are people out there who listen and can understand what I'm going through. Also thanks for the advice. Hope everyone's halloween has been alright so far :)