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rockNroll
October 19th, 2012, 06:26 PM
Everyone gather around, it's story time! Yaaay!

I'll try to keep this short (oops). Once upon a time, about 8 or 9 months ago to be specific, I met this girl. I had just been dumped around the time we met, and she was in a relationship that had been going for several months. She's funny, smart and pretty, the whole lot. So of course, I got my dumb ass friendzoned faster than you can say "Wow, this guy's a loser". We quickly became friends, and maybe a month later her and her boyfriend broke up (she dumped him). Now, having come out of a relationship myself not too long ago, I wasn't ready to cannonball into a new relationship, and I wasn't looking for a relationship in her either. We definitely flirted, though, and we still do, but I think it's just how our friendship works. She acts somewhat flirty to every guy she meets (not as much so as she does to me), though. By that, I mean she's really nice and innocent to everyone she talks to.

But anyway, back to the story. 3 or 4 months ago, she met a guy and they started to date almost immediately. This didn't bother me at the time, but over time since we've been back in school I've started to develop feelings for her. I think she has feelings for me too, but is afraid to show them too much because she's still dating someone else. She confides in me pretty much all of her feelings and thoughts, since we're best friends. From this, I've learned that she admits she really has nothing in common with him. I mean, they don't listen to the same music, like the same sports, watch the same movies and shows, and such as eachother. They still do find stuff to do, though. She also gets annoyed at him often, mostly about small things that I can tell bother her.

Despite all this, however, their relationship appears to be going strong, he has told her he loves her, and they've been to second base. That doesn't seem like very far, I know, she's told me that she's 'waiting for the right guy' and that stuff, and I don't think he's going to be that guy.

Which brings me to the question, how the hell do I turn being stranded in the friendzone into something more? I mean I don't want to break them up, but at the same time I think she kind of wants me to, even if she wouldn't admit it. What if I could be the 'right guy'?

Anyway, if you're actually still reading this, thanks for sitting through that. Any advice would be great, thanks!

Taryn98
October 19th, 2012, 07:24 PM
It's really hard to tell from your story if she likes you or if she really just sees you as a friend. You can take a chance and tell her how you feel and see what happens. It might work great or it might not but you won't know unless you try.

FreeFall
October 19th, 2012, 09:11 PM
To sound corny, opposites attract. If they're going strong, then there's something there for them. Whether you see it or not doesn't matter. Frankly, I'm happy me and my boyfriend have just enough common ground, if we were 100% the same I'd be soo freaking bored.

I too don't see anything to prove she likes you. She confides in you, but she may see you as a better confidant than a girl. Since boys don't really go and gossip to the next boy they see, it's easier. You said she's flirty in general, but more so to others than you...I don't think she's as into you as you are into her. As for annoyances, they happen. No relationship is 100% perfect, small things are just what bother her this time around.

She's in a relationship, she's happy, remain her friend. Don't spoil it by blurting out how much you like her, make things awkward, make her run further to her boyfriend, etc. Let her be in her happiness.

Next time she's single, wait, re-evaluate, pros and cons, and go from there.

rockNroll
October 21st, 2012, 04:07 PM
I actually said that she flirts with me more than most guys... But yeah I think I'm gonna keep my feelings to myself for awhile. I'm doing this because honestly I don't think they're gonna stay together much longer anyway, not to sound bitter.

elvis presly
October 22nd, 2012, 09:20 PM
I have liked this girl for 3 years and we are best friends and i asked her out and i told her how i fell like really told her not just about sex i will do any thing for her i will even fight a guy i am good loking and my parents are milinares but she says we are to good of friends and ireally like her what do i do we hang out all the time SHE KNOWS IF I HAD TO I WHOULD LASSO THE MOON FOR AND I WHOULD FIGHT AN ARMY FOR HER BUT SHE SAYS WE ARE TO GOOD OF FRIENDS SO PM ME AND TELL ME WHAT TO DO

pdidyking
October 28th, 2012, 12:45 AM
Guys....or girls. There is one simple step to make the person like you. You have to make them jealous. You remove yourself a little bit. Find another person to share your love with. They start to notice and most likely they'll want you back. They'll notice that you were "everything" or that they couldn't find anyone better. Etc. Etc. Try it out.