I'm kinda scared of gay sex.

[KifoThaKid]

Well me and my boyfriend are getting serious and I know that the sex is coming soon. I know he wants and I do badly also but I'm kinda scared. I'm bi and have lost my virginity to a girl and loved it. When with girls I of course take the dominate role, but in a gay relationship I'm a bottom and I'm scared of what might happen ( pain, bleeding etc.)

Anyone of whom is experienced in this have any or advice to give me.

[justinglives]

Go REALLY slow. Take ure time. Stretch out A LOT.
Use lube. Lots of it.
When u think u have enough lube......
***USE MORE***

[The Mockingjay]

Everyone is nervous before doing it the first time I think, just take your time, perhaps practice with things beforehand and use plenty of lube and you should be fine! :)

[TigerBoy]

Exactly what Justin said. Stretching is just using one, two then three fingers (with lube) until it feels ok. There may be some pain as he starts the first few times (if you do it regularly its easier). If there is I prefer my bf to back out while I relax and start over again (with a bit more lube). Use a condom to help with lubrication (but make sure it is ok for anal, as the spermicide on normal condoms can irritate).

Have tissues and baby wipes handy for after, and lay on a towel.

Bleeding really should not be an issue if he's taken care to prepare and go slow (I've never had this).

[Tristin.]

as the others have said, take your time, completely relax and use lots of lube. Get your boyfriend to stretch, using fingers. Remember that you are the one in control, so when you feel ready to move on, tell him. Remember lots of lube all the time.
There will be a little bit of pain the very first time, this is normal, just breathe through it and relax. Try positions in which you are on top, as it will give you more control.

there should not be any bleeding if you are safe and everything is done carefully.

[wizard25]

i have a fair amount of gay sexual experience and would advise you to go at your own pace. anal sex does NOT have to be painful even if the dude has a large penis. My penis is larger than average and other boys have never complianed as I am considerate and gentle and usea lot of lubrication which along with relaxation are the keys to enjoying anal sex. Always use a condom no matter what the other boys says about his HIV status. Plat safe ALWAYS and most of all, have fun!

[wizard25]

hey justin, u sound like me dude. i just posted my first post today. hit me up if u wanna chat.