I Don't Know Whats Happened?

[R&b_Boy]

Ok, I have this friend of mine who goes to my school..10th grader like me. Okay like during the summer..and like the beginner of this year (2007)..we would always talk about puberty stuff compared sizes in stuff**we never told anyone this** we even played truth or dare a few times and it got kinda outta hand with a dare he dared me to do..*didnt get to outta hand**..and like now..ever since we got back in schoo.he doesn;t even talk to me..one day I nodded to him to say whats up..and he just looked at me and tunred away...I'm Like Did I Do SOmething Wrong? He seemed comfortable when we tlaked about that stuff..but know im like?? lol its kinda beat up. do yall know what might be wrong??

[Maverick]

That's why you should never do those kinds of things with your friends. It can backfire and cause things to become awkward and uncomfortable and destroy a friendship. He can be ashamed and uncomfortable with what happened and your friendship is probably broken with little chance of repairing. Learn from this and don't make that mistake again.

[R&b_Boy]

That's why you should never do those kinds of things with your friends. It can backfire and cause things to become awkward and uncomfortable and destroy a friendship. He can be ashamed and uncomfortable with what happened and your friendship is probably broken with little chance of repairing. Learn from this and don't make that mistake again.

Yeah I guess Your Right..shouldI liek apologize or something..or just wait until he wants to talk?

[Maverick]

Yeah I guess Your Right..shouldI liek apologize or something..or just wait until he wants to talk?
He may not want to talk. He's already avoiding you so I wouldn't rely on that.

As far as apologizing I don't know. I can't think of a way of how to even communicate this problem to him. Maybe someone else can think of a way to bring it up because I can't think of a way. I think that things will just be too awkward for it to be a normal friendship again to be honest. I really wouldn't count on things going back to normal.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

It sounds like he wanted you to perform sexual acts on him. I think you did the right thing. And if he isnt your friend because of that, then he must not be that great a guy(no offense meant).

[R&b_Boy]

It sounds like he wanted you to perform sexual acts on him. I think you did the right thing. And if he isnt your friend because of that, then he must not be that great a guy(no offense meant).

I don't think it was that..but he seemed cool to talk to..but u might be right..iv'e heard some rumors that he might be kinda racist..but it dint seem liek it when we was tlakign about stuff

[Crazysam]

ditto anthony its just wrong and it shouldn't happen. The good bit will only last a few minutes then you've got the rest of your life to pay for the consequences...

[Gumleaf]

thats the unfortunate price i paid when i did something stupid and masturbated with a friend. i won't be doing it again!

[MoveAlong]

I don't exactly agree masturbating with your friend unless they are perfectly comfortable with it. I guess he's kind of embarrassed to talk to you or doesn't like you because he feels that you'll be rude to him. I'd prove him wrong and ask him straight forward, "what's up?"

[R&b_Boy]

I don't exactly agree masturbating with your friend unless they are perfectly comfortable with it. I guess he's kind of embarrassed to talk to you or doesn't like you because he feels that you'll be rude to him. I'd prove him wrong and ask him straight forward, "what's up?"

Why would I be rude to him..I don't see no reason why I would..and this may be kinda silly, lol..but we jacked off/played truth or dare over aim while looking at porn and seeign who cam first..i never been to his house b4 during the summer..so im like i dunno..he may come around.

[byee]

Whenever you do something that you're not so sure about (like fool around), you get 'Buyer's remorse' (or maybe in this case, 'Fooler's remorse'?). That's the reaction when the initial enthuasiasm wears off (usually after you do whatever it is you wanted to do), and you're left with the nagging question if it was worth it or okay to do in the first place.

Two things could account for your bud's reaction. First is that he's decided that it wasn't worth it, and that the feelings he has towards the stuff you did has rubbed off on you. The second explanation is that his reaction to you currently has absolutely nothing at all to do with you, but it's just one of those things, he's 'moved on'. That too happens, people grow apart.

You can usually tell the diff when you talk with him, either by directly asking him if everything's ok, that you notice some distance, and wasn't sure why, or when you just talk with him in general or just around him if he seems 'weird', as in avoiding eye contact, if he's unusually sarcastic, etc., other indirect ways of communicating bad feelings towards you.

[R&b_Boy]

Whenever you do something that you're not so sure about (like fool around), you get 'Buyer's remorse' (or maybe in this case, 'Fooler's remorse'?). That's the reaction when the initial enthuasiasm wears off (usually after you do whatever it is you wanted to do), and you're left with the nagging question if it was worth it or okay to do in the first place.

Two things could account for your bud's reaction. First is that he's decided that it wasn't worth it, and that the feelings he has towards the stuff you did has rubbed off on you. The second explanation is that his reaction to you currently has absolutely nothing at all to do with you, but it's just one of those things, he's 'moved on'. That too happens, people grow apart.

You can usually tell the diff when you talk with him, either by directly asking him if everything's ok, that you notice some distance, and wasn't sure why, or when you just talk with him in general or just around him if he seems 'weird', as in avoiding eye contact, if he's unusually sarcastic, etc., other indirect ways of communicating bad feelings towards you.

Yes I do notice that he avoids eye contact n me both..Liek ill se him in the hallways when goign to another class..he doesnt speak..o rnothing..just looks at me and keeps walkign..im like..did i kill you? lol..dang..im like almost a point now i goin say nothin to him either...also when we was pt into groups of 3 ..me, him, and this other girl..he hardly ever asked me a single thing...i wa slike..... im like its suppose to be a group activity..all he did was tlak to her.

[byee]

Well, I suppose you could just ask him what's up. or, you could just chaulk it up to 'one of those things', and never really know exactly what did it. Sometimes, people really just grow apart, it has nothing to do with what you might have done. At least he's not saying, acting, or doing anything that would be embarrasing to you by somehow either revealing what you did, or by just acting really obnoxious. Wait and see what happens, see if his feelings/behavior changes. if not, move on.