How to determine sexuality?

[booboo22]

I have been struggling with this the past four years or so, and I thought eventually I would just know… But anyway… I'm 18 and started college this year. I've never had a relationship.

I am having issues determining my sexuality…

I am emotionally and sexually attracted to girls, but mostly emotionally (they have to be my specific version of hot for me to think of them sexually)

I am sexually attracted to guy, not emotionally what so ever.

I tend to jack off to gay porn as it seems more real, but I only envision my self, marrying a girl, and the guys i like to watch are the muscular masculine ones, not the scrawny guys...

I have wanted to experiment, but where I am from, everyone is so stupid in their ideas about experimentation, but now in college, i find the same thing, except its because i feel most everyone has already determined their sexuality…

Anyone have any ideas on how to actually determine this? I just want peace of mind knowing that i can make the right decision…

[TigerBoy]

It sounds like you are more attracted to guys, so it could be you've simply not met the right guy - this is very difficult for gay guys too, because most guys are straight and others are trying very hard to appear straight.

Imagining you can only marry a girl is in my opinion a result of two things: your upbringing (society conditioning us to think that way), and your lack of positive emotional experience with guys.

Its possible that if you meet the right guy, but if you want to "experiment" I think one way forward is just to jump in with both feet and date some nice gay (or bi) guys, and be up front about how you feel.

[Magnus Bane]

I agree with Olly. You need to meet the right guy. :cool: