Too Much FAMILY!

[Elementalpow]

Ok here i go
i came to see if anyone has any advice for me. Ok I love my family, i really do but right now they are anooying casue they are all lving with me. Ok I used to live with my mom, dad, twin brother 16yr(handicapped and autism), and my little cosin 6yr( casue of custody reasons). Now that was fine. we live in a one story house with three bedrooms. i shared a bedroom with my little cosin( whos female so it kinda werid seeing little girls cloths on my floor.) But i got used to it. But her older sister started living with us(she is 8yr) so thats too little monster i had to watch out for. It wasnt so bad cause their grandma(my aunt J :)) would come and watch the older one when the younger one went to daycare at the same time my mom went to work(she works nights at a hospitol) i was booted to the "downstairs" witch had a long couch and a short couch. my dads computer was down there too. So when i got up early (5:00-5:30) i could get on and waste time before i got in the shower 6:00 :).

But then their mom and two younger brother stayed for a while and left. So did my older brother and his wife, my uncle and his exGF and her two kids.
But now its very bad! They longest any of them stayed was 2 weeks. But they all came back! Now its my Cosin, her 4 kids in my room, my uncle, his ex and her two kids sleeping downstairs. my brother, his wife, thier child(15 months)and thier dog. :mad: im currently sleeping in my twins room on the floor, on like a roll up sleeping bag. My mom "runs" the house while dad works everyday. She has takin on a second job(to pay for "her own" bills but im not sure thats what going on. My sister in law is a lazy spioled woman. She is suppose ot clean the bathroom on monday but she dosent and wait till i go to bed on tuesday to tell me to clean it. ( i choose tuesday) my aunt j and my aunt C(uncles ex) clean the house amost everyday. my brother and his wife will eat food, stores the dishes in their room (its used to be my mom ofice but she never used it like that) then pile them in the sink and get me and my cosin to wash them (that stopped after my mom found out). they have bought food and put their names on it. They get mad if anyone eats their stuff but they will eat the bacon bought for me( casue im like the only person who would eat it like that) i had 4 boxs. i opened one on thuesday. but saturday 2 boxs were gone.
My brother has backed off a little after i head butted him twice in the face(he hid my xbox 360 and took my ipod after i took a pair of his headphones from the back of his car to give to him)
but recently he has called me a faggot amoung other names casue i started to hangout with a male friend who lived nearby.(all our other friends live on base or closer to the high school we attend) He has asked my other afmily members is he my gay lover or something like that.(thats what my aunts told me) but him and my da have recently been asking me about a girl i liked but she had a crush on the male friend, who also had a crus hon her and now they are dating. my brother aprently had lots of GFs in high school. Along with that my dads computer had 4 viruses on it. We got rid of one but the other three would not leave. So my bro put a military antivirus program on it and the computer locked after he put a password lock on it.
He blames me( i download nad delete lots of online games from it) and my uncle( he does online dating and the girls he talks to send him pics) and asked us for $100 each. i dont have a job so how would i give him $100? im really stressed out cause im sleeping on the floor nad not my room. i recently started hanging out with friends but i got dissed last weekend so I had to do help with yardwork.
I dont have any space in this house to myself. There is always someone complaing about something, my brother, dad, and two friends are pressuring me to get a girlfriend!(one is dating a mutal friend and the other has lots og girls talk to him) im jsut really stress out and dont have a outlet for my stress /anger! im really close to hurting evryone in the house and my friends and myself. is there anything i can do to relive all this stress/anger?
im going camly insane from all this. im a very calm person so any help?

[flypower191]

lololol i share a room with 2 bros it sux

[FreeFall]

Your parents, are idiots

How DARE they put their own children's needs LAST. Your parents are putting the cat, dog, neighbor's horse, the goldfish's cousin, the Chinese man down the road, all before their own children. It's pathetic.

Tell them this. Your being squeezed out of the picture, because they're not acknowledging that you live there, they have a responsibility to you. And they're ignoring it! Why's your Uncle's EX-girlfriend, coming before you? Why's she live with you? Why're you bottom on the totem pole?

How dare they take on freeloaders too. They're going to allow their children to have their home ripped from them, they're going to allow you guys a craptastic life, just because they're playing might Jesus and taking in every single person that shares a chromosome or is "faaaamily"?
Another thing to worry about hun, they may not be able to kick those people out if they finally realize "hey, why aren't we putting our own children first?". Typically after a few weeks, those people living in your home, get what is called "squatters rights". They have to be given notice, and because you've got little children living there, they can even gain legal rights to you home. Your parents are idiots.

if you want peace, since your parents don't seem to care, can you go live with your grandma?

I honestly cannot say I see a foreseeable solution for a bit of breathing room, unless you are out of that house as often as possible. I'm sorry it's become this way for you.

[Jackerlus]

As freefall said, are there any other friends or family you could go to stay with for a while? You need to talk to your parents and ask them to sort it out, because they have lost any sense of privacy for you or anyone else, as well as being generally selfish.

[Elementalpow]

Thanks people!
Ummm......right now i have no one to leave to go to. I could go live with my aunt but she dosent have a aparment right now. my cousin might find a place next week but mostly likily live with her mom(the aunt from earlier)! my uncle and his exgf are going to move soon (with in the next few weeks or months) so the only people i have to worry about is my brother and his party. Thanks for the advice freefall! I have notice you have lots of post on this site! Ummmm...i cant live with friends but their parents have understood my sistuation and if i come over to hang out i can stay for hours on the weekends. or spend the nite if i stay late enough. its not really all that bad, just my lazy brother and his wife hanging out in the rooom they made. they hang out in there all day and only come out if they need to 1. go somewhere 2. eat 3. use the bathroom 4. let their son paly with the younger kids. my uncle, his ex, cosuins are not that bad im used to them. It just my bro is someone i can go year without seeing. thanks people!
oh! And im gonna try and escape my bro tyantness this weekend by hanging out with my fav couple!( two friends who are dating) so the three of us are hanging out this weekend.

[Elementalpow]

Your username is stupid and potentially offensive and that was not advice, go away.

As freefall said, are there any other friends or family you could go to stay with for a while? You need to talk to your parents and ask them to sort it out, because they have lost any sense of privacy for you or anyone else, as well as being generally selfish.
im gonna exsape my main problem(my bro/tynat) this weekend by going out with some friends.We like genrally the same stuff (tennis, computery stuff and gaming)
Mind if i copy your signature a little?

[Elementalpow]

lololol i share a room with 2 bros it sux
Dude me and my twin have shared a room for years! I finally started having my own room in the last house up the street. Well.......my cloths were in the other room but my dad(who is awsome but works too much) moved the dresser with my cloths in the "guest bedroom and i slept in there unless family came up(or down) to vist then it was back to the other room.

[Jackerlus]

im gonna exsape my main problem(my bro/tynat) this weekend by going out with some friends.We like genrally the same stuff (tennis, computery stuff and gaming)
Mind if i copy your signature a little?

Oh yeah, sure thing :P

[Elementalpow]

Update!

Well things have gotten better kinda.
my bro is...nicer i guess yu could say....
mom gave everyone one chore. so all i have todo is load the dishwasher with my uncle ex oldest. not to hard. but he give excuses sometimes when he lazy.
and everything has worked out for the most part. my uncl;e and his on and off gf r gettin g out during the end of the school year. nad my bro and his wife are looking for places and his wife has a job plus my bro is gonna go back to school in january to get a better job.
my aunt and her duaghter plus 3 grandkids are gone to live in a neaberhood nearby. its a 30 min walk so not to far.