scared to ahve sex

[ackmedsgirl666]

now before anybody questions me about my current boyfriend im gonna stop you. this thread is about something totally different so please dont even bring up my boyfriend. freefall i have taken your advice and were working out a alternative.

anyways so me and my bestfriend of 6 years we still have feelings for eachother and we we have been talking about seeing eachother again. ive never had sex with someone who is physically female.(what i mean is "SHE" is trangendered and wants to be a guy so SHE now goes by he. anyways to make things easier she and i dated a few years ago. she was my first and helped me discover my true sexuality and that i liked girls. so with us a few times the topic of sex has come up if we get back together if were gonna do it. im more then willing im just really scared because i have never used a fake penis and i have never gone further then fingering a girl. is it really any different then having sex with a guy. im just concerned and scared that im gonna like hurt my friends feelings. i care about my friend deeply but im not sure when i should start exploring my sexual needs. what should i do?

[ReginaGeorge]

Sorry, I'm having trouble understanding.

So, you're planning to have sex with someone who is physically female, but are using toys to replace a penis (because they're transgendered)?

It will be different than having sex with a girl or a cis-male, you need to be aware that the toy probably means a lot to them and you should probably act like it's a real penis.

Just listen to them, have fun, and you'll be fine.

[ackmedsgirl666]

ok thanks
and what im nervous about is ive never actually had sex with a female so im scared i wont please my friend

[rachin2u42]

so your thinking about having sex with someone who has a vagina?

[ackmedsgirl666]

yes correct.

[Mortal Coil]

and what im nervous about is ive never actually had sex with a female so im scared i wont please my friend
Please, don't worry about that at all. First of all, that's a common concern. Second, your friend knows that it's your first time (right?) so he will probably not mind even if it isn't phenomenal. I mean, sex is sex. I'm sure you've heard the pizza analogy (when it's good it's amazing and when it's bad... it's still pretty damn good.)

[rachin2u42]

i think its fine, there should be no issue, whatever you feel in your heart is right

[ackmedsgirl666]

ok cool. well me and my firend talked and we decided were gonna wait until i am ready.