boyfriend says hes gonna leave

[ackmedsgirl666]

so my boyfriend just told me hes not happy with me anymore and he wants to go home to burlington. thing is i know i did it to myself but why does it hurt me so much. everytime he trys to leave i go and cry and then he feels bad and stays but this time i cannot try and idk why. have i lost all feelings for him and dont care anymore or is it because i am repulsed with how lazy he is. he doesnt pull his way around my house(we live together) he sleeps all day and hasnt really even been trying to look for a job.
idk what else to say or do because if he leaves i lose everything. my happiness, my peace of mind, my comfort EVERYTHING not to mention half of my apartment
i just dont know what to do anymore
i guess im in an unstable relationship :(

[FreeFall]

Your happiness? Your peace of mind? Where'd that all come from?
Yesterday you were contemplating about leaving him for your ex. This morning you wanted an open relationship so you could go be with your ex and him.

Your relationship is hanging by a very, very thin thread. Very thin, transparent in fact, it's hardly there. You two are bad together. Awful together. Horrible together.

Your communication is horrible. Your commitment to each other is very questionable. Nether of you appear to be putting in any effort. This just has to end.
It's extremely unhealthy for him, you, everyone. It's just got to end.
There is no saving this.

Neither of you seem to want to be putting the work in that it takes to keep you two together, let alone keep a relationship alive. You're both going to drive each other insane.

He's not happy, he wants to leave. Let him go, stop crying and grow up. He's not willing, you're not willing. There's nothing there, there's nothing left, it's all gone and poof, why bother? Currently you're both two kids living together running around doing as you please.
To live together, you need to be adults that can work together and function as a unit, neither of you seem to have even figured out how to function as a unit together.
To remain together, you both have to figure out a compromise, how to love each other again, how to be that person's other half.
There's none of that there.

For your mental state, emotional state, and well being overall, cut the thread. It's time to let him go.

[ackmedsgirl666]

so then how freefall do i let him go?
im sure u have realized judging by my other threads that i am very emotional and i do not enjot hurting other people. like what would i even say to him

[DerBear]

so then how freefall do i let him go?
im sure u have realized judging by my other threads that i am very emotional and i do not enjot hurting other people. like what would i even say to him

The truth, honestly, it will hurt but, really what hurts more

Staying in a relationship you don't want to be in OR telling him the truth and moving on. Serious your relationship is done, dead, over, killed whatever manner you look at it, your relationship isn't going to work unless both you make dramatic changes which doesn't sound like either of your natures.

So really, tell him the truth and move on. Honestly if he does care about the relationship then a brake up isn't going to end his life, he'll move on just like you.

So it really isn't the end of the world. You'll move on and he'll move on.