im thinking about her(him)alot

[ackmedsgirl666]

ok just to clarify the title my ex is now transgender(MTF)
anyways ive been thinking about him alot lately and trying to figure out if i would wanna give up my straight relationship to be with my ex.
riight now im in a relationship and all and im somewhat happy but im trying to decide whats best for me. if i wanna be with my transgendered ex or continue with these thoughts harassing me on a constant basis
i know people would lose alot of respect for me if me and my ex were to get back together. i need advice

should i go back to my ex who i know still cares about me more than a friend would... or stay in a relationship that is confusing as hell and where i constantly think about whether what i am doing is right or not
:(:(:(:(:(

[FreeFall]

Maybe it's time to break up with your current boyfriend.

If you were really happy, you wouldn't even have these thoughts. If you were totally committed, you wouldn't have these thoughts. You'd be totally and 100% connected to your current boyfriend, but you aren't, because you're still pining for the ex, even considering leaving your boyfriend for them. So just leave.

How is that fair to you?
How is that fair to your boyfriend?
To be with someone when you're not 100%, you'll end up hurting yourself and resenting yourself if things don't look up soon.

I will not judge you for what you decide, I cannot say if going to your ex is right or wrong, but this whole situation is wrong. I remember your other threads, many times you seem to have your ex in your heart and in your head.

Maybe it's time to empty your heart and put yourself in your heart, no boys or relationships for awhile. Maybe it's time to focus on you, make yourself happy, love yourself. Maybe in time you'll go back to your ex or current boyfriend, if you so chose to leave. But right now, it's probably best to focus on your and cut your loses before they pile on.

If you don't want to break up, you may have to have a huge heart to heart with your current boyfriend. He needs to know what's going on, this affects your relationship, so it also affects him. He's part of the equation and needs to know. Talk about your feelings, see if he can help you in your decision. If you're both mature enough, and with enough work, you'll both be able to pull on in the end. Secret feelings and close up feelings can become a ticking time bomb, communicate with him. If not, at least you can hold your head high and say you reached out to him and said what you needed.

Good luck with whatever path you walk!

[ackmedsgirl666]

thanks freefall
helpful advice as always
i mainly post these threads so he reads them and then he asks me
i dont like to just bring up the topic.
anyways the ex im talking about isnt cody the one i keep mentioning
its my ex from like 5 years ago. me and him r like best friends now

[OldSchool]

Follow your heart and you'll never be unhappy.

[ackmedsgirl666]

thanks for the courteous thought :)

[OldSchool]

thanks for the courteous thought :)

no problem.

[rachin2u42]

i think love is blind and you should be with who you want