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LetsKillTonight
October 15th, 2012, 08:48 PM
Sorry this is so long.. But I'm kind of desperate.... Not sure if this is the right section to post this...?

So I have this friend who happens to be gay. I've known him for a little over a year and we've gotten really close. He's cute and I've always found him very attractive, but of course he's gay so a relationship with him just wasn't/isn't ideal for obvious reasons. I thought I was completely cool with just being friends and stuff until this happened.
This last weekend he invited me to homecoming and of course I said yes. So we go to the game together and hang out with some of our mutual friends. Obviously we had a great time. Our team won the football game and stuff so everyone was super happy.
Anyway... So we sneak into the dance later. See, I am homeschooled and homeschoolers aren't allowed into the dances so we had to plan ahead of time so I could sneak in and stuff... I was super surprised our plan worked.

So my gay friend and I are dancing and whatnot then he pulls me out from the crowd to a quiet corner where no one could really see us. Then he asks me if he can kiss me.
At this point I was super confused, but like I said before I'd always found him attractive so I said sure.
haha, so we kissed and it was great. He's a good kisser and I enjoyed it. And when he pulled away he said: "D*** Girl. You bring out my straight side." Actual quote! XD

As the night progressed we kissed a few more times and we even slow danced. It was awesome to say the least...

So now I'm really confused and I think he is too. We've had conversations about his sexuality before and it's kind of a touchy subject seeing as his parents aren't very accepting of it. But before homecoming he'd always seemed completely sure that he was completely into guys and stuff...

Now I'm thinking he might be questioning his sexuality and I don't mind if he is using me as an experiment to see if he likes girls. I'm honestly fine with it, but I still don't want it do put our friendship in danger in any way.

We've been texting since then and neither him or me have mentioned it and I don't want to be the first to bring it up...
So my questions are, do you think that I should talk to him about it? I mean, I don't want to end our friendship by bringing it up because if I did maybe he would think that I thought he was straight now...? What are your thoughts? Do you think he was just expirementing or could he actually like me? Could he be Bi? I wouldn't mind if he was. How should I ask him if he is? Should I bring it up at all? SHould I just forget it ever happened?

The more I think about it the more I realize that I do like him and I would be disapointed if he... I don't know.... doesn't like me. I mean I love him and I want whats best for him but I know I would honestly be dissapointed, though not to the point that I would put our awesome friendship in danger. I would just move on and forget about it and love him as a friend...

Sorry if this doesn't make much sense... But please help mmmeeee!

horizonlooker
October 15th, 2012, 09:15 PM
If he doesn't bring it up soon, you should. What good is it going to do if you just wonder?
Bring it up gently. Say something about the dance, and then bring it up. Tell him you don't want anything to get in the way of your friendship. Make that crystal clear. Maybe he is bi. Or maybe he just wants to test the waters with a girl, and feels comfortable with you. Just be straightforward with him, and tell him that you'd like some answers (not in those words).
The news might not be the best for you, but hey, it happens. You live, learn, and move on.
Tell him you'd rather keep your friendship than loose it.

Swagamemmnon
October 15th, 2012, 11:24 PM
I agree with horizon, he's a teenager and may be still slightly curious. And who knows maybe he may have a thing for you :). After all sexuality is just a label. I had a friend who was sure she was a lesbian but then got a huge crush on this guy, so she says she's selectively bi. It could be the same in your situation.

Pipo
October 16th, 2012, 04:55 AM
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